What the Hell has happened to men? (Page 2)

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So here's a girl asking men a question? What the hell has happened to you in the last generation? One generation ago, out fathers, when they took a girl out they looked SHARP. Clean shaven, nice haircut, crisp white shirt, a tie, jacket and shined leather shoes. They put out some effort to compliment the appearance of their date. Comfort is not a factor given that the woman was in heels and hose and she had spent a lot of time on her appearance.  Good example last night, dinner in a pretty nice but not upscale restaurant. The next table over, young lady in a LBD, heels, hair in a prim bun, looking really nice. The guy she is with is wearing cargo shorts and flip flops. He does not look like he bothered to shave and he needed a haircut weeks ago. And to top it off, he was wearing a ball cap- to dinner with a lady. Why she was even out with him. let alone sharing a dinner table with some goofas is beyond me.  Whats happened guys? Where's your sense of personal pride? Don't you enjoy looking good any more? I'm glad I'm older because the likelihood is that the men in my life will be old school- just what I like.

Anonymous · Answer

We were raised by your generation. Most of them were lazy parents that never put anything into us. A lot of divorce, many more of us than your generation come from broken homes. Our Fathers were often either weak or just not there, our teachers were mostly women, therefore we had no male role models.

The older generations like to tall shit about ours, and a lot of the things you say are true, but we were raises by yours.

Dark93 · Answer

I am unfortunately born in the same generation as these poor excuses for men. I was very lucky to have the father that I have because he is a good example on how to be a man and how you should present yourself to a woman.

DaChillCookie · Answer

Alright, shut the fuck up. In this day and age, it's pretty much the great depression but with whiny feminazi's and obese bitches going around and chanting about body shaming. Nah, as sad as it is, you shouldn't really expect them to dress perfectly for a date. A plain t-shirt and some bluejeans is normal at this generation.

Get over it

Anonymous · Answer

I have to agree with her, guys nowadays don’t really care about their appearance. Just remember that not all men are this way. There are some who are/have been raised to show respect with their image for the occasion.

kentakamran · Answer

Clean shave makes me look gay, I did it only once... As for the haircut, Being well dressed and complimenting, I do that... Not out of "self-pride" or to impress her or anything, but as something of a personal preference...
That guy was sure Being sloppy and it shows the lack of energy and all that
BUT
You are not that girl, sho probably sees something in him that you couldn't see while judging him on his looks. I know that you're quite old and all but being open minded is still important...

tony_baloney · Answer

For me, personally. I have no idea how to dress nicely. Half the time I think that I look nice, but I probably just look bummy xD Like what is a good pair of shorts to have other than cargo? Where do I get a shirt that doesn't make me look like a bum that isn't $60+. I don't want to look like no ed hardy douchebag, but I could definitely use some suave pointers. Help a clueless guy out here (x

Nate1941 · Answer

Some of the men responding are blaming feminism for the disappearance of manliness. While I agree that feminism is a disease, it shouldn't be used as an excuse to not be a man.

MindTime · Answer

I don't think it's true for all guys, but I think since it's a lot easier to connect with people these days, it's easier to drop people too. So guys think they don't have to put in as much effort because it's not as big a deal to not get with a certain girl because they'll find someone else. In the past, you had much more limited choices so you always put forth the best effort.

Just my humble opinion.

xButterflyKisses87x · Answer

I think it's more a lazy thing, not putting in enough effort.  A lot of people not just men don't care about impressing their date. I wish men would step up and at least make an attempt.

Kaneki05 · Answer

And? We could say the same about women who think they need fake tans and fake butts and boobs and dolling themselves up to looking like prostitues but you don't see me sat here complaining.

420gamerguy · Answer

I dont expect a date to get dressed up unless stated before hand. Times have changed. Also people are poorer in general than previous generations, and therefor can't always afford to look nice. Stop judging why a girl like her would be with a guy who doesn't get dressed up. Maybe she isn't shallow.

Marinevet84 · Answer

Last weekend I went on a first date with a woman I met on Bumble. We were going to go for coffee but decided to go for Mexican food. I wore pressed chinos, loafers, sport shirt and a sport coat. My date (who I am seeing again this weekend), complimented me.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I act and dress the same way as the previous generations did, I'm old fashioned. But I am afraid I can't explain away the failures of my generation.

Also no one should ever date a man who's main choice in shoe-wear is flip flops.

IntuitiveMuffin · Answer

On the personal pride, I dont feel that clothes have anything to do with my pride. I'm a hardworking, charming individual even without clothes. Also who are you to judge if that woman thinks he's worth her time. He could be the nicest, most chivalrous, and supportive guy that ever lived. You're superficially judging the him by his looks. Just because you dont like the way he looks doesn't mean she feels the same way.

WhereAmI · Answer

I'm surprised she didn't dress down. I've done something similar and my date would just run back inside her place and throw on jeans and a nice blouse. Must have been a communication breakdown. FYI... not everyone dresses up when they go out nowadays (destination dependent).

TsubasaCorrupted · Answer

I think it has to do with a mix of arrogance and contentment. The idea of "hey she agreed to a date, no sense putting more effort in.". It's frankly embarrassing to me personally. I was brought up by my parents, my grandparents and my cousin. It's not a matter of simply showing up and having laughs. You need to make a good impression, that you actually respect your date enough to not embarrass them by looking like a slob.

HereIbe · Answer

A generation ago? You ARE aware that a generation ago was the 1970s, right, the highlight of the Led Zeppelin, Nitty Gritty Dirt Band, bearded, long-hair, frayed jeans and sandals era, aren't you?

Ichonut · Answer

God.. As if women haven't ever dressed inappropriate. Please stop blaming genders and start considering society. Or tell me what has happened to women..

Flirted with this gorgeous innocent girl, all kinds of signals going on for months. Finally put myself together and asked her out for dinner in public. Turns out she just want to watch Netflix and fuck all night.

lnghrn_fan88 · Answer

I can only speak to what I hear from other guys and that is this, that we cannot do anything right now no matter what we do now. We can be the nicest guy in the world and all that happens is that we get told we didn't do one tiny thing right. When you believe that is the case, why are you going to try? The answer is you're not. Dave Chapelle was right when he said, "Chivalry is dead and women killed it". y'all did!

Browneye57 · Answer

Some do. Some don't. So what. It's up to you to choose what you want. What's acceptable or not. This isn't a general thing, it's a simple observation. And this is what DATING is for - to discern, to assess, to decide if they're a match or not, are worthy of your investment in time and emotion. Most will not be.

blkhermano · Answer

Appearance isn't everything, or much of anything to be honest. You can shine up a "nice-looking" car, but if it has a bad drivetrain who wants that?

Maybe she doesn't like guys who are dressed up. Being in a relationship is all about trust and the comfort of being yourself. A class-A jerk knows he can get dressed up if he knows that's the rules of the game certain women play by. As long as they respect each other, what's the issue?

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that they'll be old school... they're just gonna be old.
Also that's not a good example. What were all of the other patrons wearing? Nice but not upscale - sounds casual. Lbd is casual and so was his outfit. It's pretty normal. When guys have need to dress up they do, and they clean up well. Unless a restaurant has a dress code he can wear whatever he wants. Mind your own business next time.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The woman might dress up because she has low self esteem or the guy might have money and think he doesn't have to dress up to get girls. Usually when a hot girl is with an ugly guy who doesn't make an effort - the guy has money.

dontgofalling · Answer

We're all different, but todays gen has got a lot of people being like that, well, the wind blows to many places.
Me personally, I try lookin good with a nice jeans (I usually wear jeans, got used to it) and a nice sharp t-shirt, but well, my acne isn't helping 😂😂😂 and I'm only 15

Sevenpointfive · Answer

I dress to the nines when I go out on a date. I haven't met a woman that does the does the same.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know but all I know is my last boyfriend only wore suits/ties/dress shoes with his hair done nice etc with perfect manners and gentlemen habits,

But he ended up being a psychopathic, lying womanizer.

In short, I'm going back to guys with earrings, sweats and vans.

Northern_star · Answer

Feminism. that happened.  And it killed chivalry, killed respect on most women, destroyed basic morals under the name of "freedom". and its not even over yet.

exhaustedfromlife · Answer

I don't think nothing has happened to guys. Just like women say that they should dress however they want, let a guy dress however he wants. Not all men have to live up to your standards. Honestly, I could ask what the hell happened to women? Because to be honest women don't dress any better.

A-man-22 · Answer

As to quote many women on this site ' we dress to make our selves feel good not to impress you '
Can't take it when we use the same reasoning as you for dressing they way we do , tough.

If we think we look good in those clothes that's all that matters to us.

Sure it isn't going to help on a date but your question is general
If specifically on a date environment the sure dress to impress but not in every day lives.

Servus09 · Answer

Yeah, I will get right on that. I can't wait to receive the generic compliment from my sister. "Wow, Dave, you look handsome!" If a woman outside of my immediate family said that I would be worried she's setting me up for a robbery.

So why would I spend all that money on clothes and go out of my way to look nice when nobody really cares?

VenaticGnu60 · Answer

People just don't care anymore. If I'm on a date I won't look bummy but I won't go out on a 'date' to McDonald's wearing a suit and tie cause I've never owned nor wore one. I won't spend a shit load of money on s on the me thing one time, but I won't wear slept in sweatpants, wrinkly shirt, haven't shaved in weeks, and hair in a mess either.

Charmes · Answer

Yeah I am 30 and I have noticed that I am changing for the better and that I left the bad things in my life out of the question and perhaps I will be single for the rest of my life because not my parents were ever dating and having girlfriend just married people.

Celtero · Answer

We realized women aren't worth the effort. We've got porn and videogames now, females are obsolete.

Especially now that so many women are fat, tattooed, pierced, promiscuous, boring, selfish, career driven and hypergamous.

Minahh · Answer

And that's why I'm into older men. Guys my age just don't seem to care.

Anonymous · Answer

My last date was with a tall dark and handsome man who was well dressed and groomed with very good manners. I felt so lucky! 😊

Chilly23 · Answer

I prolly don't need to have full gear on so i can seduce woman.

My attidute and general look is my weapon.
If i wear nothing but a leaf on my di*k i can stil seduce woman.

Nothing to do with what you wear.

Some of us really don't need to try too hard.
Plus, women this days seems to like casual outfit more.

Hurdleez-Swampede · Answer

It isn‘t a woman‘s business what men wear when eating food.

There is nothing evil about shorts and long beards. Get over your sexism.

If women can reveal their legs and it is decent, then men can reveal their legs and be decent. Wearing caps ain‘t evil.

Wearing certain clothes doesn‘t determine your values. Grow up and quit being a wuss. Judge his personality, not his clothes.

Jake47 · Answer

dating is causal now a days. so a lot of people don't take it seriously. and some people don't date because they like each other they just wanted something else actually I like your times tho. because people date with someone because they love each other. and I don't think dress matter because if u love someone he/she looks amazing in everything. e. g my girlfriend always looks stunning❤😁

UnknownXYZ · Answer

A lot of us don't really care about all that stuff anyway. I would much rather play video games and watch random TV shows and shit on my computer while wearing logo t shirts, a hoodie, jeans and trainers. I take massive pride in my video game skills.

Stripes99 · Answer

Because men are being shit on for their natural masculinity and natural interests and tendencies. Then people complain to them when they’re not manly.

Truth is we don’t know wtf anyone wants from us anymore.

Steve4783 · Answer

Its because men are tired of putting in effort to look nice and take you out and end up getting hardly nothing in return so they just don't even try that much anymore even when they are with a girl they know likes them there is still less than roughly a 20% chance of them having sex at the end of the night.

FalconPrime · Answer

I think this is the best song for your answer Mrs. Rhonda333. I think he also "wear" a beard a lot

howarth2469 · Answer

Not tryna be funny be you choose to make a effort for a date the men dont have to and neither fo the women but you choose to i get what your saying but you dont know who them people were the woman might not care what he wears

Deathraider · Answer

Back then:
"What the hell happened to men? They used to smoke a pipe and have really nice mustaches"
Even further back:
"What the hell happened to men? Back then, men wore wigs and looked sophisticated."

eMaNnUeL · Answer

Don't act like this is a male only issue. But to answer your question, it's a change in style. The way you're dressed in that picture would be seen as weird had you grown up in the 1800s. Times change and so do people

bubble_tea · Answer

Love this question and reading through the comments ^^

Was the weather unbearably hot? I think I'd prefer looking into a non-sweaty face of guy in flip flops to looking into a sweaty face of guy in leader shoes.

deric_97 · Answer

Outfit doesn't matter that much anymore. Back in the days, sharp outfits would be hard to get and be considered classy. But nowadays, you dont need a classy outfit to be a classy boyfriend with a classy attitude.

whatsminesay · Answer

You can't judge them from what you see. Maybe she likes her man to dress like that. Just because You like something, doesn't mean you have to bash on others for not being like that.

Plus, there are still plenty of men that take pride in their looks. Just like there were many men that didn't care a few generations ago.

Maxim245 · Answer

The stupid gray masses follow classics and traditions to please others and to feel safe. This goes for fancy-ass clothes, even though they may be uncomfortable as heck.

The intelligent people aren't afraid to try new things, and dress the way they like, and how feels comfortable. They have other qualities that make up for how "nice" their clothes seem.

Deukalion · Answer

The last Classics Gentleman's in the earth are in Greece , but not for long the new world order, feminism and lefties , get us to. Don't really know what would be happen in next 10 years, i see younger ones with zero self respect and insecurities. I talking mostly guys under 25.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know but most of the younger guys seem less sexist, racist, and homophobic than the last generation. I don't know about u but id choose a messily dressed respectful guy over a fancy man who thinks he's better than others cuz he's white and straight

jamie_11 · Answer

This is so interesting to read!! There was a guy who was very much into me and he always smelled amazing and dressed so well near me so I know this doesn't apply to all guys haha

mmr99 · Answer

If she is wearing something uncomfortable for her on a date just to look good she is not my type I wear whatever is comfortable Most formal clothes I own are jeans and black shirt

BrianMerritt · Answer

What happened is qomen lowered their standards for men, so men accordingly lowered their personal standards. We don't need to have a job and a house and a car and goals to get laid anymore, all we need is appspace and drinkmoney.

Joe591 · Answer

If I dont know a girl well enough for us to just be able to go somewhere and eat in a chill and relaxed environment then I'm not interested in taking her on a date.

chuck7273 · Answer

Hey when we work a lot to make a woman happy and make a life to to have the most things we need to live we don't have time to look good for other people we just do our best to give our ladies what the need that is love and what we need and one thing is not how we looks

Massageman · Answer

That's a good question. Low self-esteem? Opposites attract? Maybe the repetitive representation of men being dolts in today's media doesn't help either? I'm old school too; I'd never dream of wearing shorts to church, for example.

Anonymous · Answer

YOU happened. crazy, control freak, superficial women like you happened to men.

Smegskull · Answer

Feminism happened. You guys won. You broke us down and turned us all into self loathing nihilists. Now why can't you leave us alone to live in our caves and die in peace.

AdamED · Answer

Most American guys are so sloppy. Come look at Italian guys or European men in general. Asian men and even lots of African men. Let alone latinos. They're all good. American guys just like the "bro/dude" kinda look, just like a college kid.

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