Why is so difficult to start a relationship with an intelligent guy? Why are they so withdrawn from the others? How can someone catch their eye?

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btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It's difficult because they know that everybody and their mama only wants them because they look attractive, and they have something going for themselves. They've withdrawn because other people don't value intelligence anymore, at the same time they are far too smart to get involved with people who are just doing dumb things and they don't want that in their lives. The only type of person that will catch their attention all the people that are actually worth paying attention to. Because if you're just the average Joe or the girl next door they are not going to pay attention to you. They want somebody that's on the same level as them, not somebody below them. Some of them may also not have a desire for a relationship as other people do. So if you want that same type of person you got it equally show that you are capable of being just as smart as they are. Again you must be someone on the same level as them and that includes mentality. You also have to be willing to learn and grow as they are because they are people who are constantly for growth. If you're going to stagnate their lives they will cut you off immediately.

Adrianna7868 · Accepted Answer

I think you're confusing smart with antisocial. While it is true that most antisocial people are smart, not all smart people are antisocial. And there's you're answer. The reason why it's so hard to start a relationship with this type of person is because since they are so withdrawn, they are hard to get and require a lot of impression in order for them to notice you. I know plenty of really smart people who are super sociable and nice! Don't give up! And if he really is one of those antisocial smart people, find out what he likes and start getting into that. For example, if he's really into science, dip your toes in the water and start learning, maybe impress him with some facts.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Well, they are intelligent which means they don't operate on an emotional level. They think things through i. e. your not likely to get him to make decisions based upon emotions (he may see you as attractive but that isn't going to be enough. In fact he may like you but again, he will sit and think about it, does he see a future, what would the pro's and cons of dating you be etc.). So you have to consider that, it will probably be slower going then with an less intelligent guy as they tend to be less inclined towards deliberation, and your going to have to meet him at his level i. e. emotional appeals don't really work, you need intellectual appeals.

J2ohhhhh · Accepted Answer

Intelligent men are often targeted by insecure women who think they will be smart if they fuck a smart guy. But intelligence isn't an std and no girl has ever been rejected like "yeah... You got a big round ass, perfect body, nice face, but you're capability to understand quantum mechanics and brain science is just not enough, sorry we cannot be together"
If you're really into those guys just cut the bs and be straight forward. And accept the fact that they've been improving only towards one direction so if you don't acknowledge them as smarter you basically just say that you're a better person on overall. Other than that every men wants the same.

Aizou · Answer

I suppose it depends on which kind of intelligence we're talking about. In general, people of higher intelligence are found to either seclude themselves, or pursue their interests with such intensity that they'll forego their immediate surroundings. One one hand, you may have the studious kind of intelligent person, who'd rather read a book than talk to people around him, and on the other hand, you may find the loner who'd rather lose him/herself gazing into the distance, than start a conversation.

If it's a relationship with these people you want, I'd put my bet on finding common interests, and having a lot of patience.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Because they work hard to set up their businesses and don't have time to socialise and learn to attract girls properly. They don't really have time to date anyway so you're better off finding other guys.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

We're selective, we wanna find someone as intelligent, not because of narcissism, it's simply because we don't wanna waste anyone's time, an intelligent man wastes no time, some of us also care about others' and our own feelings, we don't wanna hurt somebody or use them, that's unproductive and only pushes our evolution back, we strive to become better every day, it's hard to find someone who can catch up with us on the life-long journey of self-developement we're on and commit to it.

Thanks for reading ❤

TheAceholeSupreme666 · Answer

Intellectual Men, such as myself, tend to be very cautious. We can see, smell, and detect bullshit 1,000 miles away.
If I detect bullshit, I won't bother. By the time she gets close enough talk, I'm already gone.
When you see trouble headed your way with considerable amount of time and fair warning, you remove yourself a safe distance and stay out of the way until it passes out of sight. Even then, why go back? No point. Already on to something else.
Intellectual Men tend to be introverts, and shy.
Be gentle, genuine, and honest. We'll know otherwise.
You ladies will have to be bold enough to make the 1st several moves.
There is one thing Intellectual Men and women in general do have in common...
They're very cerebral, not emotional or
motivated by primal urgings... a great deal of self control is involved.

Zurek · Answer

In public school, children tend to target those smarter than them and ostracize them. For example, a smart kid gets a question wrong in class and the whole class erupts with laughter, "i thought you were supposed to be smart." Dealing with these things makes you very introverted, and instills a huge phobia of failure. You have trouble talking about the things you like to do, or saying what you really want to say. Maybe he does like you and is afraid of being rejected. What you need to do is make it obvious that you like him, without breaching his comfort zone, because as I said smart guys are usually very introverted. Just start out by adding them on snapchat and chatting or something like that. Things will take their course.

intjgamer · Answer

Because they notice details about a person that they don't like. They are very judgmental because they don't want to waste time. They have the foresight to see how things will be years down the road.

Intelligent people that are withdrawn just get better reads of people and see through them.

Maguel · Answer

Being honest and straightforward is the best way to appeal to an intellectual guy. They often like to keep things simple and sorted and an honest straightforward woman brings no surprises to the table which in turn spells for stability which is an attractive feature in the eyes of intellectual guys who are planning on finding a suitable partner to settle down with and possibly start a family with.

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

It's usually that the smarter you get, the smaller your social circle gets. Cause you use more logic than emotion and that messes up relations. I've lost loads of friends cause I was too emotionless.
If the person is a genuine, modest guy, just approach him and he might appreciate it.

MrMilti · Answer

Intelligent guys know, that a woman easily can ruin their life? (either with a divorce or false accusations, or, or, or, ...) Dont know, thats what came to my mind 😂

young_old_soul · Answer

It's difficult because they tend to over think things and look a lot more at the long term than at the short term. Someone can catch their eye by showing interest and avoiding mind games, as they will read that as "she's not interested" and quickly move on.

Anonymous · Answer

It is not, this only proves that you're not at the same level of his intelligence to get his attention and what not :)

Also consider the fact that these type of guys don't go for the average girl or whatever. So yeah, maybe you night be in that category.

taleswapper · Answer

There's a good bit of natural caution that comes with intelligences. We (and I flatter myself that I'm as intelligent as many, with an average IQ of 135) have breadth of both experienced analysis and imagination to see more of the ways a relationship can go wrong, you see. Especially if we're not as handsome as the fellow in the picture... ;)

crazy8000 · Answer

Cut the bullshit games drama manipulation lies fronts no front's and be straight forward, get to the point, make thing's happen, be pro active, be yourself, go for it, show the real you, bond, create deep connection, deep rapport, skip small talk and shallow thing's, be touchy, physical.

Couldn't be more to the point.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Intelligent guys are more introspective than others but we have the same needs in a relationship. Don't allow yourself to be intimidated by a guy's intelligence.

Anonymous · Answer

If he is extremely high IQ, like my guy, he will feel very different from other people. A highly intelligent person can only be around other highly intelligent people without severe discomfort. He probably won´t be feeling really comfortable in his own skin until much older.

Anonymous · Answer

We're withdrawn because of several factors. It's tough to get really close to an intelligent person. If you had any idea how many people have used us for their own convenience, you'd understand that we're have a hard time trusting anybody... even someone we've known for years.

Why do you want an intelligent man, anyway?

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

By displaying/having an equal level of intelligence and depth. If an intelligent man withdraws from someone it's because they find their intellect subpar, and associating with them will hence only frustrate them.

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

They’re usually more shy and lack social skills necessary to get many women. Their interests and conversations are on a more intellectual level so it’s harder for the average girl to understand or enjoy.

MollyTheOriginal · Answer

I would think having a similar level of intelligence most of all, and also having hobbies and interests in common. He'd be able to tell if you're faking it or trying too hard, and that would be off-putting.

No_Archons · Answer

We aren't in a hurry to waste time with some dumb broad. People don't become intelligent by running off with every girl that catches their eye.

lacaras · Answer

Could be a lot of reasons, everyone's personality is different. I would consider myself pretty intelligent, but I'm pretty bad at social rituals regarding dating and meeting strangers.

HereIbe · Answer

It's not difficult. You just fail because you keep using techniques that work on ordinary men.

asianfreak · Answer

I think it’s because of the standards they have toward themselves and others. And they’re really hard on themselves and others.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't pretend to be intelligent, have more fully developed opinions on things, if he's arrogant about his intelligence, red flag

ROCKS128 · Answer

aren't they intelligent to not fall such easily for any girl?

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

How did u know its difficult? Explain this and I'll search the world for your answers..

Jiuytessss · Answer

I don't know. I'd say I'd want someone around my intelligence level, just average

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

We're not we're just picky cause we want someone intelligent as well

Selena98 · Answer

Cause they tend to be work oriented there good with work but with people.

LuWe22 · Answer

They usually want someone with the same intelligence

Anonymous · Answer

hun can you even prove that you are smart and what do you mean by smart? I wanna hear lol :)

TheFlak38 · Answer

what makes you think you deserve a smart guy?

PrincessGrail · Answer

Be intelligent too

Anonymous · Answer

They think theyre too good for other people lol

Riley473 · Answer

I'm wondering the same thing

Fuentes · Answer

Because Humans are stupid amd disgusting

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