Fuckbuddy has ghosted, would just be interesting to get your opinion on whether I can say anything?

[jensi92]

so i (f28) have had a fuck buddy (m29) for a couple of months now and was a sweet deal. i'm unattached as i'm moving countries soon (something he hasn't been aware of) but as i spend time with someone i do come to respect them as a person. he has shown a level of effort and done and said some things at points previously where my friends have commented that he may seem to want more. we were supposed to see eachother tomorrow but he cancelled, did ask to reschedule but when i then asked when he opened my message last night and hasn't replied. he has made more of an effort to stay in touch with me than i have since seeing him last (although i was the one to initiate seeing each other next) so i'm honestly a little confused. also annoyed because i have said so many times to him just be honest, if we're done here tell me. i'm so tempted to say something but i'm guessing he doesn't owe me anything? this i really is besides the point of just a fuck buddy but anytime a guy does anything it chips away at my ability to trust. thoughts?

[Anonymous]

You clearly DO like him more than you say because of the way you get so wound up over the slightest little thing. To me that just means he doesn’t have an answer yet so isn’t replying until he knows or even knows if he wants to (since you know, it’s only casual). Also, why haven’t you been honest with him about going away? Did you think that’d dash your chances for more to develop?
Look, I’m not criticising negatively, it’s supposed to be constructive. You have to face the truth before you can find and worthwhile solution at the end of the day.

[Opinion Owner]

If you get bent out of shape over this then clearly you can’t do casual sex like you thought. Food for thought.
Something tells me an honest conversation is probably due.

[Opinion Owner]

Society is becoming more and more psychopathic sadly, so people that engage in casual sex now are often times going to be very selfish. I don’t agree with that, I personally think that even if you’re casual you should still treat each other decently like normal human beings, I. e. you should have been honest with him about going away soon and he could have at least replied to say he was busy or doesn’t want to etc. But you’ve learned your lesson now, this is what you get a lot of the time, so choose more wisely I’m the future and lead by example.

[Sadly_it_Grew_Back]

Sorry, but I can barely make this question out because of the way it is written. Are you asking if he's done with you?

If that is what you are asking, then I would say no as it doesn't appear as enough time has passed for you to have been "ghosted". I would say he's either got a better option and waiting to see if it works out or he is genuinely busy doing something else.

[Luvsmybabydoll]

You are asking him tbh when you are not he doesn’t even know that you are moving countries i’m guessing he found out you are moving and moved on? But hey all good in fab land👍

[OlderAndWiser]

"I have said so many times to him just be honest."
"I'm moving countries soon (something he hasn't been aware of.)"

Why haven't you been honest with him? You KNOW that this is something he would want to know.

And all of this fuss is because he has not yet responded to your text from last night?

[Logorithim]

That is all a fuckbuddy is. These types of situations are inherently unstable yet people tend to conflate them at some point with monogamous relationships, but you simply can't have the sane expectations.

[spartan55]

So he has ghosted you because he hasn't responded to a message from last night?

[bangyourhead]

You're just a wet hole to him. He doesn't have a need for it at the present time.

[outside_Toronto]

Just move on