um... no. But that isn't me, so...
I think that is again a reflection of what issues a person has. That is... it's scary because it is commitment, vulnerability, risk of being hurt, etc.. vs the "hookup" is like anything else in our "Discard" society.
His statement is such a statement about people today, that we are all F'd up...
I have been thinking about hookup culture a lot lately. In Thailand, there is a word "kik". It is a modern term of a side chick or side dude. With the trend that people don't want a relationship anymore because free milk is available every where, I guess it is not so different from what happens in the west.
I know I myself am not perfect, and still need improvement. Anyways, to be always approached by dirty old men and non single ones while men my age and yoynger just keep staring, stalking online+offline, and taking photos of me in public (sneaking) are... really sad. One video from another coach says that 90% won't approach women first, and 10% who approach you will approach everybody. All of the 10% are cheaters or ones who only for casual. I need more facts to feel less depressed. 😂😂 What else I can do?
wow that's so sad. I don't believe those statistics, nor that "nobody wants a relationship anymore". I know quite a few guys who do 30-50. I don't know that many really young guys, but I see them with GF's and get married. Doesn't shock me it is hard to find though at that age range. Best to find a guy coming out of a divorce maybe, albeit, I was good and single at that age. They are out there... how to find/catch, I don't know. But sure... the 10% who are very confident might be. I'm not a player and I'm fairly confident, but I might fit into your older classification although not creepy:( You really get hit on by older creepy guys hugh? Thailand... doesn't shock me, country has a reputation.
Um... pray, go to church, learn some new skills and meet people that way. ugh, I don't know, shouldn't be so darn hard.
It would be good if there is someone who can be my guard, but it's my responsibility to do it on my own first. And of course, having a man doesn't mean he will always be at my side 24/7. I just don't want to be hit on over and over again by people who just simply horny. I have been taken care of myself well, chasing for a marriage is not my aspiration. Keeping those creeps away is. I know you are not like them.
When I was hit on sometimes it's literally bumping. Like walking then bumped and touched my body very inappropriately. Many times I have been to grocery stores, or traveled by a local transport, random men (much older than me) would mention about wanting a Kik or minor wife in my face. This is too much. I think I need a GoPro even though I don't know what to do next with the evidence for now. Using a phone to record the event openly would raise a conflict and violence.
I am an Atheist, but thank you for the advice. Psychology is my best friend. I like to dig out the root of problems and fix them. Meditation is okay for reducing stress. Well, I don't think it would solve the issue in the long run. Better go for researching.
you'll find your path. Videos of that would be watched, I've seen things like that before. It tells me the society allows that and some women go for it. probably culturally acceptable to some degree. here there is major backlash.
I saw a video on changing yourself non religious, I'll send if you are interested. It's correct in concept. projecting strength helps avoid those things. Projecting "empathic, sexy, feminine weakness" I think invites those types to some degree.
sorry for that reality, it would get old. I was groped once
Thank you. I'm interested in the video you mentioned. I just found a link explaining about symptoms of older males who behave so. It's because of dementia - the brain (frontal lobe).
elizwrites.com/blog/diagnosing-the-dirty-old-man/
As I internalized, I think what you said is true. When I happen to act more feminine, these type of men (confident or just perverted) were the first and only group who approach. I was groped when I was a kid too. It's horrible.
I'm sorry to hear that, I was groped as a kid as noted by a girl of course. I understood why she did it... becuase others did it to her! We often give what we got... it's training. So we have to recognize what is appropriate and choose something else.
Here's the video on how it works in essence.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FM8_ZfEd9zg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=utRb7bWKk-Y
hookup culture is one of the most efficient ways to control human population, I suspect it was intentional as part of social planning. Or maybe it evolved to do that naturally... but that is the effect. It weakens nations... by breaking down the family unit.
Definitely read up on the sub conscious mind so you understand how that works and how we project, that projection "speaks" before we say words. It's "energy". If there is wounds, they send distorted messages... you see that in people I'm sure. Of course we mask and project what we want, but get close to someone... truth comes out. You know this as you can read "creepy" guys, etc.. That is where the attraction is as well, from the sub conscious... often wounds... that tell us who we are.
I'm Christian, but I understand not wanting religion. I see it as tying up the loose ends of humanity in an emotional sense. Once start to understand how our minds works, makes much easier to understand what is going on/wrong... and then manage yourself.
Good stuff!! Thailand eh... on my list to see someday, I love the food flavors!
p. s. it could be how you dress/shape of course... and there's always culture and environment. I do not see that behavior where I'm at, but I know a guy who went to jail for groping women (sexual abuse) and he had confessed to his emotional problems, became Christian... which helped gain perpective on his problem and way out.
Religions just tried to put order and explanation to these basic human questions...
Thank you very much for the videos and your insight. It's true that we keep the wounds from the past, and hold on to it. In order to prevent it and feel hurt again; naturally, we tend to keep our eyes on suspicious things. Alas, it becomes a pattern, drawing those unwanted things more like Law of Attraction. There's a saying in Thai: "You get what you hate." Maybe it works the same way.
After I have chiseled some layers of my issue. I recalled a movie, The Hottie & the Nottie, the main female character is hot, but the majority of people she attracts are weird. Same as my case. I think it's about brains and how they function. Ones who have less self-control have less fear. Some men just follow their desire, and don't think at all. My outfit is not revealing. It's my curves I can say. I've found that when I'm skinnier, older men would comment that I look better when I'm chubbier. Whilst younger men prefer me being skinny. I don't care anymore. Asians are not my type anyways and Thai men cheat. I would like to be fit and find one who's compatible with me.
Thai food is really good. The curries are the best. Glad you like it.
I can only imagine being "curvy" in Thailand.. it just has reputation for men going there to use girls... the statistics I saw on that were a bit sickening. I'm sad for your culture and I hope it can change for the better.
You are right on track with your thinking, I agree. Our emotional energy... which is sub conscious programming... attracts... often what is bad for us. The "wound" in a sense, controls... if that is the emotion... like fear, or shame, or hate. If love is our core, we will project that which would include strength. I think if that is your projection, it will deflect some of those men from making obscene approaches.. because it would put them in a position of shame if they do... because it would feel wrong. I mean love, not sex... diff energy. But if you are are strongly sexual being in your inner world, that may be some tough programming.
I think you can find your guy, but I don't know Thailand. I see girls in US achieve that. Gotta do a lot of filtering anymore, so sad. I know a guy who went to Philippines to find wife... and did.
That's what I have heard about my country too. I even found a question on here asking which country has the easiest girls. OMG. A female coach also warned us about foreign men looking for a holiday girlfriend here. Maybe that's why when I say no hookups to men on a dating site, they just disappeared. I would like to see the statistics. Where is it from?
I plan to reveal my new aspiration to all my folks. Before this, I'd never told or mentioned anything about marriage or having a family. They might think I'm okay with casual relationships. After my sister's married and having a baby. I think it's time for me too take a break from the adventure life and settle down as well.
Thank you again.
not sure where those stats were at this point.
That's good you have a direction, that's the biggest thing.. as is said in "Alice in Wonderland":)!
I think the culture we have is disgusting anymore... but it is part of society. around me are many committed married people, it's just part of society.. the part that's broken down.
Its good you are honest with yourself "Im not perfect"... that is very healthy to know one has flaws and willingness to work on them or work around. You sound like a great catch.
🙏🙏😁😁
Well, I don't approach women to "bend them over", I approach women for a durable and stable relationship so it's always scary for me. Good thing I have already found her.
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Lol that not that deep it's kinda common sence picking a life partner would and should be harder them picking a girl u just wanna fuck
For someone who has no common sense like me, I would like explanation. Thank you for sharing anyways.
I don't really define relationships like that.
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