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It's been over a week and my boyfriend is still ignoring me after a fight even on my birthday? Is this really just jealousy? (Page 3)
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Just ignore everything and go see him even if he doesn't want to talk, just go there everyday and don't bring up your birthday in any conversation it will make it worse, just be persistent it will make him see how serious you are. Just be the bigger person here, yh?
Go see him everyday
It’s a bit overboard on his part. I don't know if braiding hair is considered an intimate interaction though? If it is, I can see him being upset, but ignoring you for a week seems a little bit much.
My advice is don’t say anything else, leave the ball in his court. Make birthday plans with friends and try to have a good time.
Ignoring for a week over a SOMETHING is long. Try 3 months or a year over a nothing.
@soleil2666 Agreed. I don’t believe ignoring is ever the solution. If you need some time to gather your thoughts/ emotions, then express that like an adult. Ignoring is manipulative.
It isn't so much that in my case - the thing was that the she got all the justification in being abusive. A he doesn't, a she just does (you know that article about science proving women are mean?
www.forbes.com/.../
Well they are mean because te majority of people give them permission and justification for it. If we didn't, they wouldn't be, women are social animals just as much as men).
Disallow it, remove the justification and the permission, and it's done with.
May be his emotional i know men are not allowed to be emotional by society, the fact that he wanted space and not speaking he might be thinking the best thing happened to him might be slipping away from him and his unable to express two ways you can get his attention just completely ignore him or get hold him and speak.
But then he needs to speak up and say something. by ignoring me he is making it just worse and its pushing me further away from him. I told him i love him and its all my fault and i never wanted to hurt him but then he said he wanted space for 4 days so I gave it to him but he's continuing this whole space thing...
First of all breathe and relax just let him be by himself you chill he is wants your attention like a child it seems so you ignore him go to some peaceful place and put some pics of your trip or picnic he will be definetly checking your pics he will then come back people over react sometimes every one does in a relationship power lies with those who care less some times you have to use the power card so enjoy if it's meant to be he will back you tried from your end just let it fix by itself now.
Move on from this perspn. and cut them off. If he can't be respectful, and deliberately hurt you, that passive aggressive behavior is just going to destroy that relationship further. There's something seriously wrong with this guy.
You did mess it up really bad.
Some can't take it when doing close thing's that are physical body contact with other's of preferred gender.
Just be right on topic with him and ask if it is something left for you two or if you should move on since that doesn't work what he does right now.
Also mention that you two need to have a serious talk about what is okay and not okay for both of you to make it work.
It doesn't matter what the reasons might be. A birthday ignore isn't something you do, especially not for something so stupid (I didn't know braiding was as bad as sucking dick). You can't be the only one trying. Move along and let him come crawling back once he sees you with another (yeah, that's how pathetically simple such guys are).
There's either something you're not telling us, or something he's not telling you. No one except a four year old boy gets jealous over stuff like that. Also, that kind of jealousy is toxic, and frankly, it would unacceptable in any relationship of mine. You really shouldn't apologize for braiding another guy's hair, and you shouldn't let him control you like that.
Shit like that will tire you out really fast, so you better be extremely tolerant for the eternity ahead.
Yeah it gets annoying.
Seems like a long ass time to stay mad. He needs to make a choice. He is either going to talk to you or not, but having you wait around for him to figure it out after that long is quite ridiculous
I have to agree with you thinking he was just looking for an excuse
I'd be starting to get pissed if a woman behaved like that with me. Give him an ultimatum - that you don't like being ghosted, and if he doesn't get over it and respond then you will consider the relationship over and move on. He's shit testing you, so don't be his patsy, otherwise your relationship will revolve around his selfish, childish jealousy.
That's true. She has to show that his games won't work with her, or he'll continue to behave this way if he sees that he can get what he wants from being immature. And since it's been over a week of ghosting, personally, I would consider the relationship already over.
Sounds so immature. What you can't even hang out with another guy without him flipping out? He sounds jealous, controlling and so immature. That so childish, you're better off without him anywat
Omg all your previous questions! He wanted to dump you over braiding a guy's hair.. he had a tinder account you found, he gets jealous over tiny little things. Giiirl what are you doing still with him?
I'm not sure I understand why anyone would want to put up with childish, immature stupid behaviour such as this... If he is that upset at you for "braiding" a guys hair, you don't need this in your life. Why put up with that?
Exactly seems childish.
He is possessive and protective I think, not jealous. He can't share you with anyone. He is sensitive and emotional but kind hearted. Good people are like that. He expects full loyalty from you.
Try to give him some gifts, take him out and spend as much time as you can with him. If you quit, you will lose him forever. Try to win him back and never be so close to any man without his consent.
That’s toxic, and she shouldn’t have to buy him presents he probably won’t even take
That's not toxic. We should not let our ego take care of our relationships. Do we leave our small kids when they throw tantrums or when they are unable to express their pain? No. Then why we readily do this with our adult partners? It takes time to understand each other and investing that time is important.
True but the “tryna win him back” makes it look like he’s a game instead she should talk to him even if he ignores her, she should express her feelings and if he feel the need to keep ignoring her then the relationship is probably over
I agree. Relationship is always 2 ways.
This is definitely an extreme reaction to an innocent situation i hear that there are people like this especially men. My best friend once said that his father and mother started arguing about something and then his father didn't speak with his mother for 6 months while still sleeping together in the same bed! You have people like this i hope your man is not one of them.
He sounds like he's being childish. If he really loves you, he wouldn't need to be jealous because love comes with trust. If he keeps being like this then he doesn't deserve you. Find someone else.
To me it seems like he wanted some space and it was just a reason
Now this here can be a reason for his behavior
I'm a pretty jealous guy myself. I've overreacted just like this. I can't speak on his behalf, but on my own: it's hard for me to admit to overreacting even when I know I'm doing it. Maybe you should have brought up the hair braiding thing before hand. Maybe he feels like the guy who's hair you braided has a thing for you. There is a such a thing as "emotional cheating" and I'm not saying you did that either. Just my perspective.
He's doing the right thing. If you know that you messed up and you truly like the guy, you should work to get him back because honestly, he probably doesn't care about you anymore.
He's giving you your freedom that you desperately wanted and now you don't want it anymore? Lol
If he avoided you on your birthday it means he is no more interested in you and he is seeing some one else ! ( It just applies on only few )
Or
He is just being sarcastic to take revenge and eventually he is gonna be back but it will take some time.
"What do you think?"
You played hard on limit, he dumped you.
Braiding other guy's hair is good reason to start escalation and to gain distance, but I don't think it was only that.
tried to start a normal conversation? more like tried to avoid the issue and pretend nothing happened... ask him straight up what it is you did and get him to explain to you. there's got to be more to the story... maybe he thinks your naive/oblivious? just because you think of the situation in one way doesn't mean he does, he could be thinking something entirely different.
And how do you fail to see he is already not interested in talking to her? And that her problem is that. She has been dumped while the rest of you are thinking how to discipline him for feeling offended. She's been dumped, finito, over.
That's just it though! She hasn't been dumped. If he's ending it, he needs to do it. He hasn't dunped her, he's just acted like a jerk. Maybe he's going she'll leave, but if he had any decency, he'd just tell her it's over if that's what he wants. I think he's dig himself in too far. Even be realizes it would be silly to dunno her because of this, so he's trying to get even and sabotage the relationship at the same time.
@Herbie_Otch That is not at all how it works. He doesn't need to do a thing. There is no obligation to break up with someone. You CAN just ignore them, just like that, no explanation given. It's odd, it's stupid, it is rude (when for no good reason - it makes people questions themselves). But in this case, the 'why' is known, so if he is a type that gets offended easily, he might not respond at all. His mom already confirmed the girl will have to make an effort here, not expect him to just go 'oh, yeah, never mind that'
@soleil2666 fair enough, but it seems like your overcomplicating the issue. one shouldn't just assume the answer to something without first going out and gathering evidence. i didn't fail to see that he's losing interest. the flat out question of asking him what the problem is, is to determine if he is deciding to break up with her. if he continues to refuse to even speak to her, then the issue solves itself because as you said there is no obligation to break up with someone in that manner, one can simply just walk away. however, a respectful and decent person would take the time to explain it to them, especially if they are/were good friends prior to the romantic relationship, not to mention keeping a good reputation with your romantic interactions with others helps you start new ones. no one wants to date a guy/girl with a reputation of being a jerk.