we haven’t even been on a date yet. He started by calling me beautiful then later into the conversation he’s asking me personal questions (how many serious boyfriends have I had? why didn’t any of them last? And the kicker was (guised with empathy) “I’m sure Navy life got lonely. Did you hook up with a lot of guys?). I didn’t hook up with a lot of guys and I told him that, he told me that “I sound too good to be true” (which I’m not sure if that was a dig). Then we change the conversation and he asked what I was doing. I told him I was cleaning, he asked if I cook. I love to cook and I told him so. Then he asks me “what can you make? Macaroni and cheese?” (I took that as a dig as well, but didn’t say anything because that does apply to some women). I’ve never gotten any complaints about my cooking, so I told him some of my favorite things to cook, he shamed me because he said they weren’t healthy enough (I eat salads, grains and white meat for the most part so pretty healthy, but every now and then I like to enjoy a greasy burger). Apparently I was in the wrong because I don’t cut out dairy or meat, and he told me that. Then he lectured me because of how I like my coffee (you shouldn’t drink it with sugar. That’s bad for you). I called him out on the lecturing, the dogs about the Mac and cheese and being too good to be true and the overly personal questions, he responded by calling me uptight and telling me I can’t take a joke. Then I told him to fuck off. Was he negging me or was he just abusive?
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The recipes were Texas chili, shepherds pie, veggie enchiladas with beans instead of meat, baked chicken with garlic roasted cherry tomatoes and homemade guacamole with pita chips. Also, I didn’t ask him any questions about his previous relationships. I get why he asked that due to certain social stigmas about women my age being damaged goods, but am I wrong for being annoyed by that?
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