Why is my guy friend so overprotective?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I like this guy and we’re pretty good friends, we’ve known each other since we were 9. I told him I liked him and he kinda changed the subject. Why is it that when I talked about guys I considered dating in the past he was so overprotective and found reasons for me not to date them? I’ve never dated anyone because I’ve had a crush on this guy since I was 10 (I’m 15 now) and I’ve tried to push it aside and start dating other people and since he’s my friend I ask him for advice and he always convinces me not to date them. What should I do because this is getting quite annoying.

[justagirl1923]

a) either he is also secretly in love with you and just doesn't want to ruin your friendship if you guys date and then have a messy breakup or
b) he thinks of you like a little sister and wants to protect you-- he doesn't feel like any of these boys are good enough for you or will treat you to his standards or
c) he's a controlling weirdo.

as someone who has experienced what ur going through firsthand, id say the best thing to do is just be completely honest with him, otherwise your feelings for him are gonna eat u up inside and ultimately change the dynamic of your friendship.
the worst that could happen by really sitting down and explaining your feelings for him is he rejects you, and then you're sad for a bit, then move on and find a new crush.
wouldn't you rather know then spend all your time grasping at straws and trying to decipher his opinion of you?

[Asker]

I explained in the text that I did tell him and he changed the subject.

[Derekk]

It sounds a bit like your friend is being possessive and trying to control who you date. On top of that, it also sounds like he's too afraid to make a move or tell you how he feels in the first place. Just ignore him and tell him to stop criticizing you for silly things.

[spartan55]

Who says you have to listen to what he says? He had his shot, and turned you down. Is he glued to your side 24/7? Why do you have to run everything by him? Date who you want, if he throws a fit, so what? He's not the boss of you.

[DoggyDude]

Find out if he likes you.

He might truly have your best interests though. So decide if his advice is helpful.

[Asker]

I explained in the text that I did tell him and he changed the subject.

[Avicenna]

He might be tight about them, it's hard to say. Or he might be clueless.