If my boyfriend is an "ass" guy, does this mean he's checking out other chicks' asses?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why but it makes me super paranoid that he may be checking out other women. I mean, I know it's normal for men to still find other women attractive.. But is he checking out their ass? And if so, is there comparing going on? 🤷🏼‍♀️ He really truly loves me so maybe it's all in my head?

[MrOracle]

If I bought you your absolute favorite pair of shoes - even if they were $1500 - would you stop looking at shoes for the rest of your life? Probably not.

It's a virtual certainty that your boyfriend still looks at other girls, and, yes, if he's an ass man, he's checking out their asses. But this doesn't have ANYTHING to do with you or how he feels about you. You could have the best ass in all of human history, and he'd still check out other girl's asses, just like a car guy could get his favorite car of all time, and still check out every cool or interesting car that drives by. One doesn't have anything to do with the other.

As long as he's not hitting on these girls or trying to have some kind of relationship with them (online or otherwise), then it means nothing beyond the fact that he's a normal male. Guys look at other attractive women - that's normal and virtually universal. What matters is that he's not pursuing anything with any other women.

Likewise, he's going to expect that you look at hot guys sometimes too, and he's not going to be offended by it. It's normal to look. If you started TALKING to another guy, that's a whole different issue, but whether it's a hot Hollywood actor or just some guy at the beach, he's fine with you having a look.

[Miristheiss]

ALL men notice other women.
Just he just give a little glance and move on?
Does he leer and start imagining things about her in his mind?
I don't know. It depends on his character and how devoted he is to you.

Regardless, all men notice.

[Anonymous]

If he really loves and cares about you, he won't do anything to jeopardize the relationship but you have to have that talk with him to get closure and reassurance.

[Opinion Owner]

I can understand where you're coming from but if its really a concern and it becomes a bigger issue , id think twice if he's the right person for you because there is guys who won't do that it's just not an easy find but their out there.

[Hangry22]

Yeah he is. You can only accept that fact and not care

[DrunkAss]

I am and I do. But I'm not comparing. And that beats when I was a face guy in my teens, cause faces are lovable. Asses are sexable. There is no heart involved in my appreciation of a girl's ass. That might be why I became an ass guy -- because I loved my wife so much that I stopped looking at girl's faces where I had a possibility of getting my heart involved and just innocently their glancing at their asses.

[DrunkAss]

* innocently [glancing] at their asses.
You know, you should be more distrusting of face guys and boob guys. They tend to be more romantic. At least I was till I worked my way down to the ass.

[Asker]

Yeah but its much harder to get involved with your heart especiallyif you already gave it to someone. But isn't it still bad to check out a chick for the sexual desires?

[DrunkAss]

Maybe, but it's not like that instinct suddenly turned off when I gave my wedding vows. I can control my actions much better than my urges. I've been excellent at least with those types of urges. I never walked up to a girl who bent over with awesome ass. Even in the rarest cases where she bent over and sat next to me and got all chatty and flirty, I make a show of the wedding ring and remind her that I got a loving wife at home. I think I'm doing good here -- I do worse in other areas, like controlling my drinking -- but faithfulness to my wife has never been a problem.

[DrunkAss]

Like you know, the same reason I got all excited when my wife bent over sort of carries over to some other women when they do the same. I dunno how to control that. Things would be simpler if I could. But my heart doesn't carry over to them.

[DrunkAss]

Perhaps you all are worried about the superset of our male desires -- looking at asses, bodies -- and maybe there's something that's very different between us that makes you worry. Well, my dick isn't the slightest bit faithful. He's not using a sniper rifle. He uses grenades, shotguns, machine guns, atom bombs. He wants to do everything with everyone. He might even be vomiting blood and still find some drunk skank worth doing. But I've learned to resist that. And my heart was always equipped with the sniper rifle. It picked its targets carefully. And I've always been good at letting the heart overcome the dick. The bigger problem for me is letting the brain overcome the heart. But fidelity is hardly a problem.

[Anonymous]

Ass guys check out asses like it's a natural function like breathing.
It doesn't mean we'll cheat, but he definitely shouldn't be criticizing your ass.
That's where he's being a jerk.
Ass guys are supposed to love female ass and be thankful for it.

[winterfox10]

Probably... but it's still in your head, because the guy is still with you. Which means that you're winning the ass competition.

[NoblesseObligeKK]

probably, do you not subtly check out guys or read erotica? Its human nature.

[Asker]

I mean if I see a hot guy.. I don't go out of my way to check him out, no. I feel like it's disrespectful to the man I love.

[NoblesseObligeKK]

stealing a glance isn't paramount. If he's faithful and you are faithful there shouldn't be an issue

[Asker]

Yeah thanks

[Anonymous]

Males are visually stimulated. Even if he wasn’t an “ass” guy... he IS 100% checking out other women. It’s biological and has zero to do with you or how he feels about you.

[smash4isBetter]

Probably but remember, he's with you not them.

[Whtevernever]

Possibly, but also probably not.

[Anonymous]

Lol. Your insecurities are showing.

[chriscdi]

probably

[OddBeMe]

yes. but its ok.

[Asker]

I just feel so insecure about if he does. He tell me he wants my butt bigger n stuff. So I feel like it's not good enough for him.

[OddBeMe]

you can ask him to stop. and if he doesn't make a concerted effort dump him.

[In_Trance]

Of course it does