Why did he pull away after sex?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I are coworkers. We have known each other for a year, and we have been great friends. Recently we started talking and flirting. We hung out on the weekends and finally had sex. Now, suddenly he acts like i don't exist. He stopped texting me unless i text him first and even at work he does not acknowledge me anymore. Please dont just say he used me for sex because it leaves me so puzzled, as to how he could have acted sooooo interested in me and suddenly he is cold.

We hung out every weekend and yesterday i asked him to hang out and he told me no withoug saying 'no'. Im so sad and heartbroken as i really felt like he cared for me. Now i feel like i lost him and its driving me crazy. How do i grab his attention again?

[PrudentGuy]

I regret to say, this is the type. of incidence that gave us guys a bad name.

Right here in G@G, I read of incidences like yours like almost one every month. Hence you're not unique.

And in my workplace, I have guy colleagues who did (i think still doing) things as you wrote to girls.

Personally I think guys should not do that, but its their life.

Finally to you, yes, its painful but its time to move on. I'm sorry to say this, but prolonging your desire to get back only lead to depression, desperation and unbecoming behavior. Let him go and you'll find a guy who loves you for who you are. Regrets. 😪

[Asker]

Thank you😔😔 its really sad that this happens

[PrudentGuy]

Sad indeed, but a true fact to all who choose to enter relationships.

PS: us guys face more rejections than you girls. Hence cheer up. You're still the gender being chased LOL!

[Asker]

Haha thanks! Yeah i believe that in gener to be true!. Its weird though,, not to sound arrogant in any way but since i work in a Male dominant environment, almost all guys flirt with me and asked me out at least once. He was the only one I was interested in. And then he ditched me 😣

[PrudentGuy]

Haha poor soul!

Time to pick another. And have fun.

[Asker]

Thankyouuu you too!

[JPrez]

Could be several reasons (1) the sex was bad (2) he's getting interest from someone else and he needs to shut this down (3) he only wanted the sex and that's it (4) he's worried about work and how boss or other co-workers might respond if they find out (5) if you didn't use protection, he's worried he could get you pregnant (6) he started catching feelings and he needs to take a step back and not pursue.

[Hangry22]

He used you for sex or else he didn't like your sex style

[Truthatanycost]

How long did you spend time together outside of work before having sex?

[Asker]

A few weeks!

[Truthatanycost]

This is what I expected you to say... you barely know each other in just a few weeks.

[Asker]

but we have been really good friends for a year now

[Truthatanycost]

Knowing someone at work for a year is not the same.

[Anonymous]

He used you. Ugh.. 🙄

[Asker]

Im so sad i really didn't expect it from him

[Opinion Owner]

I know, it really really sucks but that's how some men are.

[Anonymous]

Call him for dinner at your house and give wild sex to him

[Jmmmfi4]

None of this is a good sign

[Asker]

what does it mean?