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No that's what makes it fun are those little flirt here in there and you always have to reply back to give your side of the flirty story LOL
I also like this but apparently if someone prefers it casual aka the guy I wrote the post about considers it clingy. I like little tease here and there but the guy has to be into you right?
Um I look at it like this if you were to send me a text flirting with me I would like to be a smart-ass and I would have to send you one back depending on the words you used I would take those words and switch them up somehow and send it back to you now I have a question for you were you supposed to send the video with your answer because I would like to see where you are pointing when you said you like a little tease here and there
I could but it depends on the context. If a guy doesn't like flirting with me then he doesn't like me and I shouldn't waste my time.
No it’s really hot and attractive knowing she’s genuinely interested. I don't know where girls got this idea from (maybe some men hate it) I personally love when women initiate
Could you check the comments above and give an advice if it would still be hot and attractive?
So I’m not a casual hookup guy or friends with benefits person but I have a girl that is doing that in texting rn and I like it.
If I don’t respond for a whole she’ll text again and it’s hot
Is it the case? I like leaving some days in between.
I thought if they don't reply to take the hint and not come harder so I'm leaving few days before initiating anything else.
Does this guy usually seem excited to text you? Is text conversation Easy? I have a girl who texts me a lot and I like texting her I have another who doesn’t seem to really care about holding a conversation anymore and I’m losing interest fast
Yeah I mean we don't really established communication mostly to arrange hook up or send a nude here and there but from the start I wasn't texting much and he wasn't either. Just a bit on my side I'm initiating more texts. Only one time I asked him to meet and he wasn't sure I went out with another guy and when he realized it he started texting me when can we meet
The challenge with hookups is often the girl can want something beyond just a casual relationship.
But I only want sex. It was amazing so I'm down for more he's just busy. I left him flirty text instead but didn't get a reply.
Well if he wants sex he will reply. By nature a casual relationship means he’s likely flirting with other girls so why not flirt with other guys?
I am doing that as well. I like our sex so I'm giving a try
Of course you can try. If a guy likes sex and senses you didn’t catch feelings he will want it again.
Could I write to him now with "was just horny and wanted sex tbh after drinking a bit"
Okay maybe skip the drinking a bit just say "was horny and wanted sex tbh atm"
You could but if you just texted him then give it a day or two. Don’t wanna come off as clingy
Yeah correct even wait for the weekend as there's higher probability to meet for sex. He also stopped viewing my stories is that a bad sign?
‘Bad sign’ for what?
That it was a hit and quick. He gave me his netflix credentials to watch for free so don't think he would expect not to meet again and give me access to that
Or that he lost interest in our sex dates
If he stopped viewing your stories it just means he’s not chasing as much. Should be ok because as you said you just want some sex. You don’t actually like him right?
I do but I'm managing it and my expectations. He doesn't use instagram as much so he only started using it when we were communicating and in between dates he was viewing them all few minutes after. Then all of a sudden he stopped it kind of blew me as weird but I left him the message to show that I'm actually cool about that and don't expect or want him to chase me or be available 24/7 for me. He told me that im chilled and honest person. I texted him about the wine cause honestly I was impressed very good quality and assumed he looked to find stmh good but maybe it came off as wanting to communicate which is not wrong per se but gave wrong vibes. I like that it's casual and we don't text much. I was just noticing a pattern of not texting much I followed the pace and went with the flow then after second meeting he wrote me which account to use for netflix and I replied with thank u so after two three days when I opened the wine I texted him very fine wine impressed and left it there. So now u have full picture. Don't consider it a big deal my friends started telling me that I shouldn't text the guy first or that it was weird comment but I'm really not clingy or needy, I go after what I want, don't mind initiating and stuff. I used to care less about all this but after noticing most guys backing off when I'm being direct and bit aggressive, I started over thinking everything, even for casual hook ups
Well you admitted you like him, now you can see why he’s backed off. For him, you are just someone to have sex with and he’s not going to invest feelings. If you can manage to not be emotional it will be fine going forward
I can do that. Honestly didn't get emotional about it but just tried to casually flirt with an invitation to come over for hook up. But I didn't want to write it like come over I'm horny cause it was just two days ago we fucked. I'm hypersexual and he knows it and said can't keep to this pace. So I tried to initiate some flirty/sexual conversation about wine he brought. Nothing demanding his time or attention. He told me to keep the wine and I happened to open it and just send a picture saying got a wine opener and liked it impressed (meaning you chose the taste I like). I like hook ups but want a little game and flirtation to enjoy it but definitely not emotions or any grandiose expressions of I like you cause I don't really know him. I must correct my self, I like his company him I don't know that much.
As long as you keep reminding him you just want sex and let him know you have sex with other guys it keeps him wanting to continue. Being hyper sexual he knows other guys can fulfill your needs when he can’t
It's true but I've been to some weird sex dates, guys who smelled bad and not keeping some basic hygiene so I'm trying to put on rotation and on repeat the ones I already hooked up with and it was good sex for when I get horny. The one I planned to meet couldn't make it so I was bored last night and tried him but went a bit subtly about it cause it was just two days ago and said he wanted to rest. I was just trying to keep the momentum tbh so next hook up meeting is easier and thought wine was a good pretext. Just coincided with stopped watching my stories which for me it's not a deal as I don't post much anyway and thought it's okay to leave a casual flirty text. Mind that he said he's also an overthinker.
I’d be super cool with that and she’d get it if I was attracted to her.
I don't doubt that he is attracted to me but perhaps this is his definition of casual.
Probably. If that isn’t what you’re looking for maybe just ask him to define the type of relationship he’s looking for. It could benefit both if you and spare your feelings if either of you wanted more or less..
Oh man, I'm frustrated but can handle my emotions. Haven't reached out to talk about it just left the flirty text, he isn't looking at my social media content so I can't really engage with him online neither send follow up cause it wasn't a question but like a picture of the wine I opened that he brought me. So how can I have this conversation in person if we aren't communicating? Ofc, so far we were only chatting to arrange meetings. Then all of a sudden, boom stopped interaction.
My last resort would be to invite him over for sex but he wrote to me after leaving my house I replied, he didn't initiate anything. Two days after I left him a text didn't reply, so I'm not sure if I can pull it off for a meeting in person by initiating third time, although I'm sure we could get a common ground on how we perceive casual. All I know is that he said we aren't dating but it was after I told him I'm only looking for fun and no commitment. Maybe he prefers to be in person so I can text him again for booty call (desperate?) or let him reach out if he wants in case he finds annoying me texting so third initiation in a row might come off as clingy (even if its just sex)
I guess you have to wait it out then.. sorry. Good luck
Nothing to be sorry about not a big deal honestly 😊
Well, I’m always down for something casual.. just saying... 😅
Oh man, it's hard to do casual online , without physical interaction, but good one 😄
I think being forthcoming is good
Even after not replying to a flirty text? Saying "was just horny and wanted sex hope u didn't get me wrong"
I mean I initially wrote flirty text but all I wanted to say was this
I'm sorry haven't understood your comment tbh
Yeah I tried that but he kind of preferred when I was straight forward.
Well don't think this is the case. He gave me his netflix credentials to watch for free and when we hooked up we always cuddled and kiss a lot and he likes bitting my tits (sorry for the profanity) could it be that he was faking it? I mean usually when I hook up with a guy and he isn't into me right after he leaves no kissing or cuddling but already with two hook ups he found a part of my body he likes to play with. We haven't really established anything told him I'm down for the fun and sex no commitment and he agreed we aren't dating. So, hopefully my message didn't scare him off and he's just busy or wants to go with his flow about it
Because I've been in love with a guy who broke my heart recently just need more time to process my emotions, not really over him. So I'm meeting with guys and try to have fun without involving emotions. I feel like I can't invest any I can't afford it. I'm a true romantic deep down but had to start becoming cynical and adjust to new realities. He also has an open relationship with a girl and she even got mad he hooked up with me but not sure what was exactly the issue, hooking up with me or liking me or not telling her, I don't know and didn't ask.
But this is what he told me that they have an openish relationship, why would she get mad that he met with me without telling her? Weird situation. I am 26 years old. I've been doing casual hook ups ever since I broke up with the guy I was seeing. I really thought of him as my soulmate so no other guy has been nearly closed which frustrates me even more. by the way, how could I still her man if I'm just hook up? If its not me would be someone else, getting mad for hooking up is absurd because that's the definition of open relationship, polygamy and sex with multiple partners. Unless he really liked me (cannot know or tell seems unlikely given that he ignored my text). I met him on dating app and to be active there I'm not the only one.
Hey, why are you punishing yourself if you loved someone who broke your heart?
Polygamy is about marrying 2 partners. It is different from what you are doing.
No wonder marriage rate is so low. Don't do it.
If you loved someone why don't you try again? Dating is about courting someone and being romantic and distance making it stronger.
You didn't steal him. What I don't understand is why have sex, you could have easily found someone too. I had heart break to but I didn't indulge in hook ups and it only made me more prude about it
Because first he said he referred to her as toxic ex, then its open ish relationship kind of, then she got mad, I mean like his aura and didn't care much but I suspected some drama on his side so I thought sex was amazing let's keep it casual. I am having sex in the meantime with other dudes as well but I'm trying to keep some standards on rotation.
I think so too, why would she get mad if it's an open? I mean he's on tinder so this means he's hooking up. Something doesn't add up, and then told her about it? I'm passing through phrases, some times I have 3-4, other times just one night stand, other times just 1-2 maximum but I had a long break of ten months when I broke off with this guy we were together but fun fact, the day I hooked up with this one I saw my ex with his new girlfriend so I tried some sort of rebound, thought it would made me sad but it actually liberated me and it felt good cause I enjoyed fucking with the current one. Also, I'm exhausted looking for new sex buddies. Okay, maybe I'm emotionally unavailable or narcissist. I like the attention from guys, I fuck sometimes with zero emotions completely numb and this is the second time I actually liked fucking with someone on repeat than hit and quit maybe that's why I subconsciously redirected my attention to him but I'm back on track now since clearly he isn't in for the connection (I sincerely thought that from the way we kissed and cuddled and our conversations) so I'm just gonna go back to what I know best.
But I always get hurt in the end whenever I'm placing emotions to the equation so I should stop fucking with guys I like.
I'm very complex and difficult person and not very emotionally robust yet. I'm keeping all doors open and keeping interactions at minimum. Don't want to be too close but not too far either. Just want sex and fun, fun means someone who gets me and understands me and that we can be friends who occasionally fuck. These things about girlfriends, open, drama make me awkward and I hate when people bring them in and they just met me. So I mean, I'm looking for a connection through sex but at the same time not be limited so I don't get bored but remain stimulated. A person who is cool with my masculine energy and also my feminine when I get a bit more emotional and complicating things so I mean how easy is this...
Yes that could a solution. I updated my dating profile to reflect that I'm looking for casual and sex so I do it right this time and save the drama
Yeah why not
I love women texting me
I wrote to this guy I hooked up with twice but he didn't reply, tried a flirty line. Should I give it second thought by saying "was horny and just wanted sex, don't get me wrong."
Is it best to wait few days? Cause I wrote to him yesterday
Hm yeah. Is there anything that I can do to get a third hook up? Sex was great.
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