Why do flirty and inconsistent men who seek excitement, think that they 'deserve' TRUE love?

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It's so unfair. They can't offer anything except unreliability but they surely feel entitled to find true love. I know a guy who's a womanizer, he sees that I have always supported him as a true friend and I am very affectionate so he feels entitled to have me as his wife. I strictly don't tolerate mindless or casual flirting with any random member of the opposite sex. I'm loyal, loving, interesting and affectionate.  He knows that and that's why he's behind me. I don't want to take things to next level with him. How can I refuse him without being rude about it?

boombastik · Accepted Answer

First off I think you should establish mindless flirting. Is he hitting on you and every other girl he comes in contact with or is he just very friendly type flirty that is hard to tell whether he's being too nice or is there some sexual escalation? Or does this only occur with you? It really sounds like to me you are a little bit jealous and mad at the fact he's doing this to other women and then having the audacity to step to you.
Men will flirt with other women so that you can see that he is a sexual being and hoping that you won't just look at him as a friend but all the meanwhile really liking and wishing her could be with you but not knowing how to move out of the friend zone. This doesn't mean he should live a life of shitty relationships because he actually sees you as wife material and makes it known to you that he would invest all his energy into you. I'm super flirty when I'm single but when I'm with a woman she gets all my attention, I don't cheat (I'll break up if she isn't enough for me in the bedroom) and I give them the world. What I do when I'm single I do because of the fact I'm single and can. It doesn't define me. Los of women won't give men the time of day but will have more options than one could imagine.

quadjo · Accepted Answer

Because they think no one knows their secret so they pretend

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

He is fucking used up manwhore.
Dont call these guys womanizer or use euphemistic words for them. Do you ever see anyone calling women menizer? They call us sluts, whores etc but we give them cute names such as players, womanizer etc. I usually slutshame players, cheaters, and entitled hypocritical people. So just call this guy a man whore. I have seen guys who play with people's feelings to get sex but want pure innocent young girls and these pure non selfrespecting girls have no problem with marrying with used up man whores. Women should care about man's bodycount just on principle. I am done with slut and age shaming women so much. I never understand why women have no problem with dating old trash players when they could get young virgin attractive guys. I do understand you but it is kinda our fault a little. These guys know they can get idiotic non selfrespecting girls, otherwise they would not be so entitled and of course, it is also because he is a narcist

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Just tell him chill I’m not into u like that. He’ll prob want u more usually happens when I friend one a guy

williamHD · Answer

How is he a womanizer? Did he have a girlfriend and find a new one the next day then yes he’s a womanizer if he doesn’t have a girlfriend but just flirts for fun they he’s just got a flirty personality. He probably just has a crush on you but already turned him down it seems like. Most of the time if they are inconsistent then they are gonna leave because they realize to protect their self worth which is very healthy they need to leave. I was recently disrespected by a girl so I had to leave.

MrOracle · Answer

Just as men get to judge women and decide who they will be in a relationship with, women have the same power with men, and if you don't think a man brings value to a relationship, you have every right to send him down the road. Maybe some other woman will feel differently, or maybe he'll die alone, but either way, that won't be your problem.

The_Maphio · Answer

A simple "not interested" will do it. Fairly sure that he doesn't care about every other detail you posted above.

Adam1978 · Answer

Sounds like all of todays socialmedia women, and no they don't deserve love. In fact it's impossible to deserve love. Doesn't matter how great you are, you can't deserve another persons feelings. It something given not something you can require or demand.

ohshee · Answer

I think sometimes I act like that but it's also a way to find the level of intimacy and excitement and passion and desire that they are looking for. I know that I'm not a womanizer and I know that I'm looking for something and I would rather get straight to the point rather than play the waiting game and then I work out

kamalravi25 · Answer

He will make u fall in love very easily.
Because u already don't wish to hurt him and i am very sure he knows it.
He will definitely use it to make u love him.
Its like he don't have to do anything.
You are doing it automatically.

ChiTown33 · Answer

For the same reason that flirty and inconsistent women who think the world revolves around them think the deserve true love. Because it's ALWAYS about them.

jshm2 · Answer

Tell your story kiddo. Might be you were the issue, and he got you right back?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Just say "it wouldn't work out" though to be honest I wouldn't be able to be friends with a womanizer.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Just tell him straight up. Tell him he doesn't qualify to be your husband, due to his behavior.

kevyhanma · Answer

Your a stupid bitch if you think a guy like that really wants true love (sorry I had to be harsh) women are just jealous that you can’t have as many random casual hookups as you want

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly... you don’t “think” they deserve love... because they honestly don’t care for that shit. They can get love from family or even a dog. They want sex.

SilverRain92 · Answer

Everyone thinks that he/she deserves true love regardless of what kind of person he/she is and what kinda stuff he/she does

Shy_Steve · Answer

Just tell him you don't like we him that sort of way.

innerman · Answer

you said you like him...  Why dnt you tell him about how you feel, maybe he dnt know that

jimmy2 · Answer

They are narcissist and only think about themselves

Anonymous · Answer

I don't believe you will leave him woman fall for that type of guys

Siren777 · Answer

They put themselves first and so should you.

TodsShadow · Answer

Say your not interested and speak your truth.

Djaay · Answer

Find the Door and walk through it.

Anonymous · Answer

Been asking that about women for ages.

Anonymous · Answer

They are humans in the end!

lycanthrope3 · Answer

flirting is not cheating

Lanabear119 · Answer

Because they do.

msc545 · Answer

Just ignore him.

crayons · Answer

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