What makes a man do this?

[Timatations]

What makes a guy who is interesting in you for sure go weeks. Months. And sometimes years without speaking to you? But when he calls or come over to your house it is if nothings changed.

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+1 y

He might have a sick mother or relatives who needs him he might be busy upgrading his business and being an awesome father to his children or he might think of you as a great friend. Your a mess 😂

[natured]

There's a difference between weeks and years hun...
I mean, I understand you always open your door to him but what are you to him? If you where something important and if he cared he wouldn't even let a day pass let alone a whole damn year...
Be careful here, don't be nobodies plan B nobodies rug, you deserve to be on someones top LIST.
Take care

[Timatations]

Not me generally asking. Everyone gives the same as what your saying lol or for sex.
If I disappear for weeks years and months they would be a great friend or someone I’d be interested in when I’m done with whatever’s keeping me away. Such as a business, such as my children, lol etc we can’t welcome everyone into our space immediately it takes the right time. But thank you. I can care and love someone and still put me first 🤷🏽‍♀️it can be I had a divorce and need time lol it can be I’m fighting a charge or medical case. Lol be more opened minded. Again I thank you so much for your opinion.

[Vikkrram]

It's not always that if a man is getting hard to get or any women is getting hard to get... he is not interested in you, sometimes it can be reasons like he is afraid telling you his feelings, didn't want to make any awkward situation, society pressures, family pressures...

[Timatations]

𝓨𝓮𝓼. 𝓕𝓪𝓬𝓽𝓼...

[fred_durst]

he is playing hard to get?

[Timatations]

I was thinking this. Thank you.

[Iron_Man]

Please don’t tell me you’re hanging all your hopes on this guy no way this could be possible this reminds me of somebody from the past that I know of this friend and this weird dude

[Timatations]

If we are talking about me, it would not just be him it would have said why all the men I dated choose to do this.. 😂😭😩🥱🤒Lol it’s a generalized question.
But they say patience is a virtue lol it might be worth the wait.

[Iron_Man]

How long have you been single do the math and figure it out if it’s worth it

[Timatations]

It’s not about me.. lol I’m this case. But if it is me, yes it’s always worth the wait with the guys I touched. But I can’t guarantee if someone else comes along that is of quality I just might move forward lol but again it’s not my story lol.

[Timatations]

In this case.. excuse me.

[Iron_Man]

41 years and if you’re not married is it worth the wait?

[Timatations]

Yes I am 41 and it’s not worth it if I’m not their everything. They can’t be my everything and I’m not theirs.

[Iron_Man]

Try meeting a guy at church

[Timatations]

Lol I seen the worse relationships from them grabbing guys from the churches. Lol

[Timatations]

The Kingdom Hall and mosque have some good fellas 😂🤷🏽‍♀️ I think..

[Iron_Man]

This is offensive to me I’m out of here I do not agree

[In_Trance]

you're giving him negative vibes and he's found someone else

[Timatations]

Good Answer! But if that’s the case he won’t stop someone from dating. He doesn’t like that. Excellent answer.

[Timatations]

You have to remember that he comes back.

[In_Trance]

he comes back because he's bored, has no other options, and knows you're available and perceives you as easy

[Timatations]

Lol, so there is no possible positivity in these kinds of situations. Such as doing his homework on her. Watching to see if she have other men or any other undercover double lives going on.
Admiring her how she handles her everyday life and just sit and watch her.
Or it can’t be that he caught something and waited for it to clear the goes back to her.
I believe people have a trained way of thinking.

[Timatations]

Just automatically she is easy.. 😂

How do you treat an easy person you just keep going back or do you cut it off at some point.
Me I don’t want no one easy. 😂
Give me a chase. 🤷🏽‍♀️ can it be that I want them to make me interested so they are over doing it? Y’all are too funny.
Awesome though.

[In_Trance]

As long as he perceives there's a possibility that you will smash, he'll keep coming back

[Timatations]

Months years and states away huh no one better locally that’s a Blessing thank you so much.

[In_Trance]

Good luck

[spartan55]

@Timatations
Hmmmm someone else thinks the same thing. But we are all limited in our thinking. We can't think like guys as well as you can, right?

[Timatations]

Yea I know, it’s called trained thinking. It’s a million more people feel as y’all do negativity. But it’s ok. A healthy brain thinks differently such as he is prioritizing his life and need time a lone, or he has a family and still want to be your friend but now isn’t the time or he dropped by to see you because he thought about you. Or he wanted to make sure your ok.
Y’all trained to think alike it’s ok. I respect it all lol.

[Timatations]

In trance
You’re over thinking 😂 it’s not that deep to where luck need to be in this situ 😂
I’m always blessed for real. 😂 😝

[Timatations]

In this situation 😂

[Timatations]

If he perceives he can get it he’ll keep coming back. I know my vagina has that effect. 🤪😩🤷🏽‍♀️💕🤦🏽‍♀️✝️❤️‍🔥

[spartan55]

Easy, sex. If he takes months or years to contact you he isn't interested.

[Timatations]

Sex is not involved.

[spartan55]

Why would he come back then?

[Timatations]

He literally has women flocking over him which means sex is easy to get. Lol that’s why I’m getting different opinions. So far someone says playing hard to get. That is definitely his personality lol.
Thank you for answering. 😍

[spartan55]

Guys don't play hard to get, that's ridiculous. And sex isn't easy for any guy get unless he is rich or a celebrity. How would you know anyway, if you don't seem him for years?

[Timatations]

He is rich, intelligent and sexy he is not easily to get in the bed with. Yes guys play hard to get all the time.

[Timatations]

You don’t know the men in your life, their background and personality, what they are and aren’t capable of. I’m very aware of who I keep company with😉

[spartan55]

Right, whatever you say. A guy doesn't play hard to get hardly ever. If he is so interested then why hasn't he made a move FOR YEARS? So he's playing the long game, is that it? You are aware of the company you keep... riiight, even though you don't see him for months or years at a time. So he should be ready to get married then?

[spartan55]

I don't know the men in my life? Wth does that mean?

[spartan55]

You are conflating 'hard to get' with 'can't be bothered but once a year'... 😂 😂

[Timatations]

Don’t get upset, that’s why I’m asking for opinions. You can be right I don’t know. And I wasn’t talking about myself personally lol I just answered your questions and put myself in it but it is just a random question.

[Timatations]

Ok you gave your opinion I thank you. It’s easy sex so you say. Okay. Great👍

[Timatations]

Spartan you sure you are 49 because your brain doesn’t seem to have an expansion. Very closed minded. No other things to thing of besides sex. Not family life, living in a different state or country lol wtf is wrong with you. Lol have a broader view of things other than your own personal experiences 😂

[spartan55]

So you thank me for my opinion, then proceed to tell me how close minded I am and wtf is wrong with me? Fuck you. This is an OPINION FORUM. You understand, what, that is, right.
This 'isn't about you', bullshit. You give next to zero information about BASIC items: who the guy is to you, your history, how long you've been 'friends', things that help provide a better opinion. You, of course, are too lazy to do that.

[spartan55]

And no one is mad here, you pretentious hairdo..

[Timatations]

I don’t know how to respond to your last comment if you feeling that way go ahead move to someone else question 😂 thank you for your opinion already like I said we are not turning this into an argument. Enjoy your day.

[Timatations]

Clearly if I did not give enough information you shouldn’t suggest stupid answers easy sex who waits periods of time to go 5 states over just for easy sex when he has exes all over the state where he is at and baby mothers. Enjoyed your day your not 49 years old impossible.
I’m now talking about me since you’re assuming all you had to do was give your best answer and moved on to the next..

[spartan55]

Stupid answer because you don't like it...
'waits periods of time' doesn't matter, 'Exes all over the state' doesn't matter, 'baby mothers' doesn't matter. (Real classy too) You think he is coming around for your cooking? I guess you know how guys think more than actual guys... Keep waiting for him, maybe in twenty tears you will be engaged.

[Timatations]

Lol you’re real stupid I don’t cook he does or we go eat at restaurants go think about the question then return 😩🤣😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[Timatations]

I called you stupid as in funny.. 😂😍

[Timatations]

I do cook, we both cook. so it can be the cooking and love making either way it is definitely a compliment. But those ones are and can be real complicated situations. 🙂

[spartan55]

It was a metaphor, but never mind.
"Sex is not involved"
Hmmmm... interesting you'd lie about that.

[Timatations]

Ok my bad lol but I didn’t lie about it. I was generally talking. But you kept involving me so I thrown that in there 🤷🏽‍♀️
You have to keep up with the conversation. Lol

[Timatations]

Look if months and years he’ll come back for whatever he is very interested I’m sorry. Men don’t hold on to no one they do not want lol you must not had enough sleep. Take your time the conversation will not be removed. Trained thinking I need you to use your own individual mind.

[Timatations]

If it’s because she is easy after all them years he keeps coming to her. You have to know that she is special. Who holds on to trash for years to come. And he is not using her for money etc.

[Timatations]

You’ll hold on to someone for years and months and have no interest. No interest as a friend lol a business partner etc.. just easy sex after years huh 😂

[spartan55]

So why doesn't he want anything else? Yeah, he is interested, in SEX. If he was interested in more it would be very obvious.
And YES, you did lie. JUST fucking own it. This conversation isn't that mind bending, I can keep up just fine.

[Timatations]

Lol you’ll keep going back to someone years later that’s easy for sex states away sounds like you’re the easy person. Lol
I did not lie you are not keeping up. You Face it you mixed up the conversation.

[spartan55]

No, I didn't. You said "sex is not involved". Then later you admitted it... Now that I'm starting to get a handle on how crazy you are. So, sex isn't involved (supposedly) because women everywhere want to fuck at all times... so why is he bothering with you?

[spartan55]

Explain to me what I "mixed up" Miss Gaslight er.

[Timatations]

Because I said no sex was involved because it’s not me, I don’t know if sex is involved so I excluded that part. Then you addressed the conversation to be about me then sex was involved I don’t have the energy to explain this any more 😂
You are contradicting yourself AGAIN lol I said sex was every where baby moms exes you said they doesn’t-matter

To begin-with you said it was because I was easy. 😜 this is obviously too grown of a conversation to have with you. You can relax and wait on my next question if you like.

[spartan55]

Riiight, it's not you... yeah, I believe you. Go back to fantasy world crazy lady.

[Timatations]

I’ll apologize for you that you never make sense which means you’re mind is twisted which also means you’re the crazy person I don’t know if you’re a man or woman. So yes crazy person stay Blessed hopefully you’re exiting the conversation now 😂🤑

[spartan55]

You are very good at trying to turn the attention towards me, such a lame tactic. I'm making perfect sense. You just don't want to admit I'm right. Like I said, wait another 20 years, maybe you will get a ring... 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

[Timatations]

I thought I said you can not respond 😂

[spartan55]

Yeah, I heard ya.