Okay to caress and cuddle the stripper in front of me? From afar?

[ScarletV]

My boyfriend I went to a strip club together. I bought him a lapdance. As he walked away he put his hand around her waist until they sat down. Had his arm around her till they waited for the next song. During the song he caressed her body... thighs, ass... until told not to by security. Then when when she lay back against him, sitting in his lap, he nuzzled into her hair behind her ear? How should I feel? First he said to me was I to expect him 'to just sit there?' Next morning said he was drunk and didn't remember. Also said not to be mad since I paid for it, that is what you do when you get a lapdance. Gutted.

[Effably]

Sort of have to agree with the other answer. Yeah, he should have behaved and showed some tact and respect. To you and the staff. Mostly the staff. You sort of gave consent.

That said if a girl buys me a lapdance that is a thumbs up to enjoy it in my head. I do not think you can fault him for that bit. And if he wasn't going to enjoy it then why would you have bought him the lapdance to start with?

It is fine if you realize you do not like this and rescind said permission. It was very much hinted at.
Outside of that, the girls any good there? You learn any moves to impress your guy? Did You also get a dance? Seems only fair!

[ScarletV]

Thank you for the thought. Absolutely expected him to have some stuff going on in his head. Just didn't realize he'd feel her up and nuzzle his head into her hair, have his arm around her while they waited. I expected the actual lapdance.

[Effably]

Honestly usually any contact would be against the rules. A little, more like reacting than acting, would be tolerated.
But again like other person said it is place to place.

As for the arm and waist bit. It might have looked intimate but really, probably felt less awkward than letting the arm hang at the side.
Nuzzling bit.. I don't know. Spur of the moment?

I still think you should bust out your own moves. You could even choose to allow more than nuzzling! If he behaves.

[ScarletV]

You’re awesome. Thank you for settling some concern.

[TangBang69]

Not okay unless you were both in search of a third. Strippers say the same things to guys to have him think she likes him in order to keep him giving her his money. Myself, I would not be in such a club with or without my girl and certainly would not take a lap dance in front of her even if she paid, and wouldn't take one otherwise , not my kind of place to go to.

[kyleelyn199723]

So you joined your man at the strip club, bought him a lap dance and expected him not to act like a pig? Wow you seem exhausting

[ScarletV]

Gee, thanks for your subtlety. That's why I'm asking.

[kyleelyn199723]

You got what you asked for. Can’t be mad at him for for stuff you allowed. I know how strip clubs work, I used to work at one. Strippers do what the man asks for after the man pays for a private dance 🤷🏻‍♀️

[ScarletV]

Thank you. I just figured it was a no touch situation. I didn't expect him to be so "sweet" towards her was all.

[kyleelyn199723]

It’s on what the stripper allows. No touch rule is in place to protect a stripper, but there’s literally near sex that goes on at clubs.

[ChooChooHaha]

You got what you paid for, frankly.

Being caught off guard is fine, sure, but like they're all saying

[ChooChooHaha]

What did you think would happen? You also allowed it by buying it for him, and she allowed it too.

He gets to get away with touching another woman with almost no clothes on, and she acts like she likes it. Of course he'll get super hot and want to stay.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I can see his POV, like, it’s a Body Auction, what the hell did you expect. Like, seriously, you must’ve been drunk at first. No disrespect mean to be mean, but like, why would you even do that and be with someone who’d do that. I don’t get why you’re angry

[FinalFantasyBro]

I recommend giving your own man a lap dance, you did just took him to a strip club which made him super horny.

[ScarletV]

Thank you. I tried to get him to go, but he wanted to stay. :/ I’d planned a night with lingeries. This was a detour I was open to. Just naive to how interactive he could be.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I guess he isn't the type to go too strip clubs or he probably find strippers as a habit and wanting to break it.

[ChooChooHaha]

Would that even do anything?

[Massageman]

You paid for it? That is certainly more than giving tacit acceptance, you created the scenario.

[VikingWarLord]

you were the one who got him the lap-dance, I'm not sure what you were expecting?

[Anonymous]

Why the hell would you even go to a strip club with your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

You know ur playing with fire right? Taking ur man to a strip club... how can u blame him? You’re very confusing

[jimmy2]

Lol well you got him horny. Do a lap dance for him them good loving springs forth

[ChooChooHaha]

No, that was the stripper.

[ChooChooHaha]

The stripper got him horny.