How do l stop caring for him and always focus on school and myself?

[Yourgu]

So obviously l like this guy and stuff. But l really want my main focus to be at school, myself, my well being and self love for myself. I don't want any relationship with this guy so how do l get rid of these feelings, l mean like l want to have these feelings for school and myself not for him, l also want this cause this guy makes me feel like shit, l thought he was my best friend but all he cares about is himself, and once he does that to me he feels good about it, l don't want to feel that way ever again so please help anyone.

[queenimpala]

First of all, you sound incredible & empowered omg. You obviously know exactly what you want for yourself and I know you are gonna do great. You are already on a huge, right track, and you've got this :) Like the other guy said, you've already recognized he treats you like shit. That alone should give you the power/energy to want to rise above it. I say, continue just what you're doing, continue working on school, yourself, well-being, & your self love, & ignore him. Shine bright like a star. Really pour yourself into something you want, a project, something you love, a goal, self-love, & you may find yourself on a different track, & able to put your energy into that

That sucks that he was your friend, but you KNOW you are a better person, & you are strong. I will also say, you don't have to "always" focus on school & yourself. It's okay to have crushes. And outside activities. It's perfectly normal. I know that I've definitely had crushes on some mean guys, and it sucks I know. But if there's another guy that might be a better match, whether as a friend or a guy you like, maybe look for one instead. This guy sounds unhealthy & like a dick. I think if you can rise above it, you can attract a friend or guy you rlly click with and that will support you. Be your best self & kick ass :))

You sound like an incredible person. I'm trying to think of what else would help

[20yearsolder]

Number one I would like to say that I'm very proud of you for actually realizing that he's treating you like shit. So many women get treated poorly, abused mentally and physically and they stay because they want someone to want them. You are better than him. You deserve someone better than him. I really don't know how to help you move on. There's no trick that I know of to stop you from thinking about him. When he crosses your mind, the things that you should be thinking about is the way that he treats you and the way that makes you feel. Not how he looks physically because That can be about the only attraction there is. Please, never put up with a man that talks down to you, verbally abuses you, physically abuses you. You're better than that, Don't ever forget it

[Wise4myage]

Think about breaking up.