Why do men no longer have that masculinity/powerfulness to them ?

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They pluck their eyebrows, use skincare et cetera, which I don’t consider as self care though, what has happened to men in today’s society? They just have become so much effeminate!

TwinTonyz · Accepted Answer

Don't dip out right away, but this is gonna come off as "it's the goddamn feminists" at first.

The last decade has seen politics and media take up the image of female empowerment and prioritize it above most other things. Consequentially, people who instead moderate "girl power" with other ideologies tend to lose their platform or fall out of the spotlight. It's a troubling position, because anyone who might want to discuss the hyperbolic nature of this movement today could find themselves on a slippery slope to being cancelled. Align your question with that extreme environment, and we start to see the issue unfold.

The most-publicized message for absolute goodness in the western world today touts women as heroic and infallible. The evidence for that claim is... because they're women.

We've now seen too much of a good thing. Encouraging women that they can live how they want to is right and just. Everyone one of us is deserved autonomy and we should be proud of our society for accomplishing that. Today, though, folks are not trying to stop the pendulum. They are pushing it ever farther the other direction. We've blown past the idea that individual men have gotten away with doing bad things and we're now accosting all men with a reputation as predators and abusers. It's a bit unsettling how unwilling we are to now offer the benefit of doubt to our men and boys. It seems greater numbers of people are willing to just believe men are bad, and the way to fix them is to stop them from being men.

You're not wrong. Feminizing boys and men is honestly the objective. We're only getting to this point because whenever a man tries to fight back, he's beaten down as being part of the patriarchy. This preference for women is having dyer affects on our youth. Grade school education disproportionately favors girls. Boys get worse grades, are more likely to be reprimanded, and are disciplined more severely for competitive character traits which are quickly being phased out. Rather than having winners and losers determined by their efforts, educators are striving to equalize everyone's abilities by disarming the value of, or completely eliminating, victory. Place that approach into a world which already treats boys as defective. Now our children understand that "girls are better than boys" and boys don't even have the opportunity to prove otherwise.

One might think people grow out of this, but men are falling farther and farther behind women in higher ed. You might be surprised, given that we see new campaigns to promote women into STEM fields and management positions, but women are surging past their male colleagues. Men are failing in droves, but there's no acceptable movement, or serious concern present to help them. The world's too focused on girl power to worry about men.

What you might not see is the secondary features. Yes many boys and men are starting to transition into women in appearance and behavior, but I'd wager they are the minority being catapulted into the stars. For the most part, you might find men who don't want to become women retreating into other lifestyles which you can't see. Whether they live only for themselves, live online in chatrooms or as gamers, or get sucked into forums and ideologies which might be harmful, the result is they aren't present for you to view or experience. Culture, education, and politics in the west have told masculine men to change or go away.

We're not all changing, we just don't see a world which wants or welcomes us.

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

I think the ultimate answer is because Satan is influencing these things.

Scripture says this:

“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭2:1-2‬ ‭ESV‬‬
The “prince of the power of the air” is another name for Satan. In this scripture we see that Satan works in the sons of disobedience (those who are not born again), meaning he supernaturally influences them to sin and do his bidding. Satan hates God and is clearly at war with God. Satan promotes everything that is opposite to God’s decrees.

God said he alone is to be worshiped, Satan instead wants himself to be God and to be worshiped. God says homosexuality is and abomination, but Satan has been working overtime to influence more people to be gay and to create a culture which embraces homosexuality. God said transvestitism, transsexuality, abortion, fornication, the elimination of sovereign nations and a one world government, and euthanasia are all sins and the exact opposite of what God commanded, yet we see these things zealously promoted in our culture today, particularly from people who are left wing politically.

What we see with men today is just another thing in a long list of items that is exactly the opposite of what God commanded or how he created things to work that is embraced by our culture.

God said this:

“Male and female he created them, and he blessed them and named them Man when they were created.”
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭5:2‬ ‭ESV‬‬
God created them male and female. 2 distinctly different beings created for different roles and purposes by God. Each created in God’s image and each distinct and unique from the other in respect to characteristics of their genders. Yet today we see the deliberate attempts to get men to be more like women and fill the roles God created women for and likewise we see the push for women to act like men and preform the tasks men were created for. Just another set of things Satan is promoting that is exactly opposite of what God decrees.

How is this done? By the continual bashing of masculine traits. By creating a society that is gynocentric. By demeaning men in movies and TV shows and commercials as helpless dopes who can’t figure out how to put their own socks on without women having to tell them how. We bash men as perverts for men having a higher sex drive in most cases than women and for men seeming to place higher value on sex than women. We insert female influence into everything. Anything that’s masculine in nature we try to inject femininity into. In short we empower women to the max and weaken and disempower men to the max. We eliminate traditional gender roles. All of this is just more schemes of Satan to promote the opposite of what God commands.

NicoletteXO · Accepted Answer

I think it's part of a corporate agenda.

If men become like women, and women become like men... two incomes are required to sustain a household, and childcare must be outsourced to someone you pay.

What does that mean? More energy devoted to corporate interests and less to your immediate family.

If men are expected to look like women, again, corporate interests win. Men waxing, tanning, getting their eyebrows shaped... that's all money to corporations which never used to go there.

Also, the more effeminate men get, the more easily they are dominated by corporations. The less testosterone they have, the less likely they are to say "fuck you" to a crappy boss, and go start their own business or build a farm offgrid.

Testosterone levels in the average 20 year old man are close to the testosterone levels of a 60 year old man in the 70s. The rates are plummeting. It's scary.

It also feeds on itself. Once a man becomes feminized and less 'red blooded', he's less in touch with his 'hunter/predator' aspects... he then buys into things like the vegan agenda... so he starts eating soy burgers and soy milk, which are full of phyto-estrogens which make him even more effete.

The more effete he becomes, the more he shirks his responsibilities at home, and women feel like they need to shoulder the masculine responsibilities. This makes women exhausted and angry. Domestic bickering and unease is the result, and sexual connections diminish. Less sex also equals less testosterone.

Men in the past would have been driven to find a way to solve their problems in order to get sex (because their sex drive was typically higher)... but now they can just wank off to porn so they don't bother.

It's a lot of factors. But corporations win out of all of this.

lovelyhoneybones · Accepted Answer

Most women claim they don’t like those types of men anymore when obviously most women do. Feminism has ruined masculinity. That’s why. Thanks feminists

Soteris · Answer

Short answer? Because women want that.

Basically, as with anything subject to a competitive pressure the group will conform to the expectations they are held to. Since men to a large degree want to present themselves in a pleasant way to women be it in a romantic pursuit or just for social interaction they constantly pursue what women want in them. Of course this is oversimplified since reality is a lot more muddy but it still holds true at the end of the day.

Women have moved away from wanting the "masculinity/powerful" man as you call it so the pressure on men instead become to use skincare, pluck their eyebrows etc.. In perhaps a few decades the fashion will have moved on and men will be expected to look differently so who knows what happens then. Its just how things are and have always been.

This has resulted in all sorts of funny standards of beauty over the year ranging from obesity being attractive or whatever the hell this is:

Why men no longer have that masculinity/powerfulness to them ?

Point is that fashion rarely makes sense and is honestly just a surface level difference. People are still people underneath whatever makeup or silly behavior they adopt. Just because you think they act more "masculine" (whatever that means) dont really mean they are any different as people, its basically as significant as changing your hairstyle.

SAUL077 · Answer

I think your wrong. Plucking eyebrows and scincare routine isn't a sign of femininity. It's the fattening of or society, most men don't do any physical labor anymore, plus within the popular culture, most masculine traits have been categorized as toxic. Along with that, there has been a movement to deter the aggression of men. The reality is that men changed themselves based on what women at the time deem important in a mate. For example, if women value sensitivity, hygiene and emotions. More men will showcase those traits to impress women. The opposite as well. Also something very few people mention. There has been a drastic lowering of sperm count and testosterone in men since the 1970s. This is due to the amount of plastics in our everyday life that contain estrogen mimicking compounds that lower testosterone. Look it up. It's a very really threat to human civilization and has been noticed across all civilizations. Mostly in western cultures. But now, you can sit n room, cry about how life isn't fair and is detering men. Blah blah blah. Or you can get your shit together and tackle this problem. Remember, being a man isn't about your testerone levels, how much weight you lift or how you dress. It's about how you handle adversity!! Can look life in the eye after they have been beating your ass for 11 rounds and still think you can knock em out in the 12th? GO FUCKING GET SOME!!! Be the monster you were meant to be!!! Don't let anybody stop you! You can only take care of yourself and those close to you!! So don't worry about society and make yourself the best man you can be. Don't cry in the corner! Spit in their fucking face and tell them to eat shit!!

Shortman70 · Answer

Men have been so emasculated by women that's what we have evolved into. We are creatures of evolution. The generation of those type of men is dwindling fast. It's passed down generation to generation. Mostly from single mothers to son, not father to son. Nobody has the strength and courage to stick to anything they start, like marriage. OH, hurt my feelings, I'm gonna divorce him, now take most of his money, leaving barely enough to survive. Then do your best to limit how much time he spends with them. He prob works 2 jobs just to pay support (which he should) so she only has to work part-time. Then whatever you need to do to limit the rest of his time. Making sure you make the kids hate him. While you get every available assistance. Then when he's totally done and out make sure you kick him and get his parental rights removed. While you find some rich sucker to start the process over. If you want to really know the reason take a look at feminism. It's a sad time to be a straight white man. Sorry if I ruffled your feathers ladies but take a good look at society and let's change some things.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I mean... how many of the guy who you actually know in real life pluck their eyebrows and use fancy nigh-creams on their face? I'd be willing to bet that overall the vast majority of the dude's around you are simply not like this.

Now, while I'll admit that it's certainly socially acceptable for a guy to be more 'effeminate' in the way that you're describing (which, to me, is 'whatever')... I'm gonna push back on how much this phenomenon is ACTUALLY a thing that's happening, in the offline world.

I work with nearly exclusively guys. They have different jobs of different kinds. Some more blue-collar, some more white-collar. I must work with upwards of 50 guys. I can't think of any who are like you're describing. I also cannot think of any of the dude's I've known for years who seem to have gotten MORE effeminate as the years have gone by (and this phenomenon has supposedly grown in mainstream popularity).

Some guys have always been like this. And I really don't have strong feelings about that one-way or another. Some places might have a higher-than-average concentration of guys who pluck their eyebrows. But unless you're talking about a dance studio, fashion industry or something like that... I don't think this is really actually happening in real life. No offence. Nothing personal :)

t-8900 · Answer

Honestly? It seems like women are their own worst enemies I swear! Men got this way because of what feminists were promoting. Guys didn't just turn up this way randomly. No it's been promoted by the females for decades now. If you want it to change back then at this point its ladies like you who are going to have to fight that narrative. We dont really get much say in how things work anymore. We get canceled or belittled so it's better to just live our lives and look for someone who accepts us under the radar.

MCheetah · Answer

Because feminists MeToo'ed and false sexual-assault-claimed it out of men, to the point being a masculine male means either blocking women out of your life altogether, or being celibate/MGTOW. Blame them for being the disgusting pieces of shit losers that feminists all are.

I mean, that and an entire generation of 90s babies raised to be soyboys by the public education system and a lack of strong male role models (not that I was immune to these obstacles, but I think being born in '86, I just barely escaped that plague of Millennials).

Apulu_3 · Answer

I don't like this mentality. Like all here are blaming toxic masculinity but ever wonder why men still follow that toxic masculinity? Because girls like you will think they are pathetic. Due to people like you this toxicity is still prevelant. What problem do you have with men being themselves? It is their life and they will live it like they wish to. Why are you putting your nose in their lives? Because of this mentality most of the men need to stay strong even though they are broken inside. Like if tomboy girl is acceptable then why aren't a bit feminine men. I'm not hating you or have any intentions of offending you but I want you to understand this. It is sure not your fault that you have this mentality but your fault is that you are still continuing it. I hope you understand what I am saying. I'm not blaming you or anything just trying to make you understand.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

There is already 50+ different opinions from guys here. It's a mix, there is the old fashioned men they do still what masculin people think means, and there is the new age because the old is effecting and doing more damage to the today's man, like never say sorry, never learn to take care of their selves and that is why they marry a house wife, then bot spend time woth their kids which is a must to have kids other wise why are they married and so on. I am a mix, old and new, i can be stubborn but i can cook, clean, do grooceries, take care of the garden, groom the beard, take care of my diabetes, my health, work out, check my feet, go to the doctor, doing house chores and be a gentleman that is well dressed.

Shizunk · Answer

Imho there were always less maculine men. It wasn't always socially acceptable to express that with fashion, but other not much has changed.
If you see too many men of certain types around, try looking in certain environments.
If you look into historical reenactment groups or larp, you may find bearded men who look into history for their ideals of strength, honor and courage.
If you wanted to more of the stoic intelligent geeky type, look for wargaming clubs.
Such environments tend to have a strong majority of men, all desperate to get a girlfriend who is willing to talk about their favourite subjects, even if she doesn't do the hobby itself.

DJB72 · Answer

There's a lot of reasons. Ultimately, as @Exterminatore said, it's Satan's influence. The tools he's used includes two world wars wiping out many of the Men of two consecutive generations, twisting the positive influence of the Suffragette movement into modern man-hating "feminist" agendas and the rise of caricatures of masculinity.

My advice would be find a guy you like and get him to read "Wild at Heart" and "Fathered by God"/"Way of the Wild Heart" by John Eldredge. Those two books will help him find his real masculinity.

imjustaguy101 · Answer

I totally agree that men are becoming very feminine nowadays. I think the reason why this is, is because this society has made the people think that masculinity is toxic. So men can't allow themselves to be men anymore because they aren't the providers anymore like in the past, they dont have authority anymore in the house etc. So men are forgetting who they are and what masulinity is, so therefore when they want to attract the oppisite sex they try to beautify themselves with feminine things they find attractive in women, not knowing women are different then men and like masculinity.

On the other hand, women are losing attraction towards masulinity, look at those boyband singers we have today, i find it disguisting how they have become feminine. So i also think the perception of beauty in the eyes of women have changed, so men want to adapt themselves to what women like

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I rarely read the other replies to a question but I did to this one and LMAO.

Yeah I use skin care, moisturiser, aftershave, various other stuff.

i also have a good wax session.

Not manly?
I’ve seen guys in the Military go begging to borrow hair gel, moisturiser etc, as they have run out.

There is nothing wrong looking after you appearance, in fact it’s what everyone should do.

Yeah this new generation… so effeminate lol, yeah those ones serving in our military, as firemen, policemen, paramedics etc putting themselves in harms way.

what a load of bollox, yeah social media shows stuff but each generation is always called out.

Anonymous · Answer

Wait... So do most women like unkempt men? o:

As for how they behave, well... I guess to some extent "progressivism" is to blame for that. Society seems to be cracking down on what they call "toxic masculinity," which I can understand somewhat, but their definition of what that is --- it's all over the place.

So now, on one side, you have some guys trying to be sensitive and feminine, and on the other side you have some women **coughcaptainmarvelcough** trying to act manly, and "strong" (some women refusing to shave their pits)... all to appease this broken feminist movement of today.

SixFootSexy · Answer

When US men are willing to put on high heels for women, you know we are 1000% hosed if we actually need to stand up to fight any other country intent on winning a war. Gender politics at it's worst.

Sweetener_ · Answer

Feminism. Feminism encourages men to be more feminine. It condems masculinity In men deeming it as toxic and uplifts excess femininity in men. When men see this they lose the encouragement to embrace their masculinity. Just my opinion.

Manchild2018 · Answer

Programming. TV and movies glorifiying LGBT. Celebrities pushing it. Kids growing up seeing that don't understand that a man is supposed to be manly. Also single mothers. These women are not to blame but without a father figure around it fucks them up.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because guys and girls are like ying and yang. If ying changes it will effect yang as well. There are still men that are powerful and dominant but not all for us are. Maybe you´re looking at the "wrong" men because not all men are equally strong.
We also have our struggles in dailylife so of us show more of that so of us less.
If you know what type of men you look for, make some research where you can find these type of men because they are still around in your area but might be less obvious to be found.

_Troian_ · Answer

Yeah I became shit and it's good to see there are still women like that thinking like you. Most of men are like that especially in Western society, we don't have that in my country however I see in general of the world being "feminine" became trend these days and most sad thing is women give credits to men like that, they still date them altough these guys don't even deserve to have a woman.

Ailito · Answer

Don't worry, there are still lots of "manly" men. Those lumber jack type of fells. They just arnt on social media as much as the pretty boys.
Cause you know... They don't care about what people think of how they look and don't need attention. Real caveman like guys.

I think both types of ok though.

nice-girl · Answer

I agree with you. Maybe because they think that women like that. I think that this is true especially for young ones as they get influenced by media messages. And marketing messages play a big role too. They think that curated appearance is what attract girls and this is sometimes true for young girls.
Older men however, I don't believe are influenced so much and are more authentic.

Why do men no longer have that masculinity/powerfulness to them ?

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