He sounds perfectly rational to me.
In the 21st Century, especially in the era of Tinder and Instagram, committed relationships are NOT the default expectation the default expectation is casual sex/friends with benefits. That means that if you want a committed relationship, you need to make that clear from the beginning and you need to set boundaries to enforce that desire. It doesn't sound like you did that, but instead accepted a friends with benefits arrangement.
It is incredibly rare for a friends with benefits to become a committed relationship - far more rare than if you had pursued a commitment from the beginning. It doesn't seem like you understand that.
The guy has been getting casual sex from you for some time - why would he not want that to continue? Why end the relationship completely, when women so often go back to those arrangements when they get lonely?
He knows it can end any time, and he accepts that, but he also knows that if you start dating some other guy, and it doesn't work out, that you may want some comfort and companionship, and he'll be ready for you.
His goal isn't a committed relationship and never was, but it sounds like you are projecting that goal on him and then judging him against that goal, but clearly that's YOUR goal, not his. You are the one who went against your own goal and then later realizing that you weren't even on a path to where you wanted to be. But instead of taking accountability for your own decisions, you are trying to make him the bad guy - the crazy one.
I really think you should reevaluate who the crazy one is...
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friends with benefits is for pathetic loses with no lives
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HE'S crazy... yeah okay.
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