What is a woman's value? I struggle to see what value I would have to a man?

[Anonymous]

I see men and how they are able to make names for themselves, get power in the real world, get authority and respect; i see how smart men are, how masterful and in control they are of the world and people around them...
And think that men have so much to offer a woman: physical strength, wisdom, intelligence, shelter and food and things we need to survive in life. Men excell at getting those things.

Then there's me... Men are attracted to me. That's great. So I am good for sex. I would love to have sex (with my future husband). A lot of men don't even want children these days. In the old times I would have value as being able to raise children well because what man wants to or can take a mothers role?

This is a genuine question. No trolling allowed.

Updates

+1 y

Most People are not getting that I am talking about value in a relationship with a man. What value does a woman have TO A MAN in that setting?

This is not about inherent worth.

[Staximus]

A woman makes life worth living. She shows you that you actually matter to somebody. Life without love is nothing. Money does not provide love and care and companionship. You can't share your life and love with a pile of money. You can't go out to dinner with your money. You can't have a conversation with money. Providing children only matters when you have a big inheritance for them. A prostitute can give you sex, but some people need love. Some people die without love, like a plant that gets no water.

[Asker]

I dont know any men who care about that. Its all about sex and other stuff, money etc.

[Staximus]

Well then you don't know any men who have grown up yet

[Staximus]

Without women, the world would be without love and beauty. It would be all fire, smoke, ashes, and death, because of men's foolish pride, greed, and lust for power.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Staximus should get MHO! Well said, brother. Well said.

[Anonymous]

The problem with today's women is that they measure their value based on the same factors they measure a man's value. But men want a woman, not a man.

Women are very valuable in this world IF they maximize their strengths as women. These are the things men want and need from women, but often don't get today:

Love
Unselfish kindness
Nurturing
Emotional and intellectual support
Sex and intimacy
Being a good mother to his children
Making his house a home

[Asker]

I know I can never beat a man at the things I mentioned in the question. Nor would I want to. Thanks for writing that list. What about respect?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, respect too.

[dustybiker]

Every one of those things you mentioned could be provided by a woman. It is religion as well as the closed minded side groups that tends to assign gender roles to those listed.
Love
Emotional strength
Trust
Compassion
Emotional shelter
Are just some of the additional things that can sooth the average man, but also reverse when she needs it.. in a stable relationship.

A true relationship is shared. Two halves of a whole.

I hope you find this too one day.

[Anonymous]

In your opinion, women are only good for raising children and although I disagree with you, that role is still in high demand. So if you look at it that way, you’re still valuable (although I’m sure you bring so much more to the table than just that).

[Asker]

Thank you. But I dont even personally know any men who really want a woman for that. If men dont value that then it has no value (i am not saying that it objectively doesn't matter). Hope you get what i mean.

[Jamie05rhs]

A woman's value to me in a relationship is being my life partner. Sharing the journey together. Not being alone. Sharing our hopes and fears and dreams, and supporting each other. Being each other's greatest ally and best friend. Companionship and loyalty, based on trust.

[Asker]

Partner sounds like two gay men in a relationship. Women are the weaker sex. I dont ever forget that.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker Lol. Well, try not to let the homosexuals taint everything and ruin it for us. The word partner itself is still a great word (and a great person to be.)

And yes, women are generally physically weaker. But don't you think they have other traits to make up for that? They can be strong in other ways. God created women to have their own special gifts.

[Asker]

Lol.

I am not sure if we have strength in any way that compares to mens'. But if we say women have other traits then yes I can automatically agree, as the sexes are different. I would have to sit and think about what those traits are LOL.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. Well, I think the anonymous dude described it pretty well.

[Asker]

Lol cool. Unfortunately many people don't value that stuff because our world is physical.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker Well, we have the power to create our own world within the World. Which is our own lives. :)

[mark000h]

If this is a genuine question, then I think you have real self esteem issues because a woman has so much value and potential. She can pretty much accomplish anything she wants if she's willing. In addition, she can be a wife, create life, be a lover and be loved.

[bamesjond0069]

Sex
Children
Cooking
Cleaning
Pleasant home atmosphere

Thats about all women are really good for but thats ok because thats all men need them to be good for. Now if you're a woman and not good for those things then good luck to you. You will need it.

[BestWoman]

To be valuable to a man, don't have sex until you marry him. Have your own religious values. No matter how much men say I am not jealous, there is envy of the woman they love in their subconscious. he wants the woman to belong only to him

[Asker]

Got that down pat. I dont have premarital sex.

[awkward_author]

Your value isn't based on what you can offer a man. Certain biological functions aside, you have the capability to do anything a man can do. It might be harder, but it's not impossible.

[Hangry06]

You decide your own value. Your gender doesn't decide it

[BarryLiverstone]

Women are just as valuable as men, did you want some examples?

[jahaims]

Your value doesn't come from your gender. It's comes from who you are as a person.

[Avicenna]

Companionship