Guy doesn't even seem mad, but won't initiate anymore after I told him I only liked him as a friend. Why?

[Anonymous]

Basically, a few months ago I went on a few dates with a guy from my college and during our last date he ended up telling me ''he really liked me'' after walking me home from a restaurant. Don't get me wrong, he's a fun and charming guy, but I told him I only saw him as a friend... to which he didn't even flinch. Not only that, an hour later I received a text from him that said ''Thank you for today''. To which I replied I was happy we got to hang out.
That was it. Not a single text from him since then. Not a single attempt to initiate. When I text him he's acting the same way as before.
Did I miss on a great person with whom I could have spent my life with?

[Effably]

I fail to see the problem. He was into you. You didn't want that and told him, which is fair. The dude accepted it and still think you're the same person.

Isn't this what most people are like or is common sense so rare now? Of course he wouldn't initiate things when you don't want that and he himself wanted more than friendship.

Kudos to him for being a sensible and good behaved bloke with enough confidence to handle rejection I guess.

[Bricealan]

your question prompted me to write about the same subject. I had similar experience, but we later exchanged sex stories about our separate sex lives, which she later told me she MASTURBATED to!!! Go figure.

[Truthatanycost]

Good on the guy for having self respect and boundaries. This is a refreshing thing to hear in comparison to the usual simps that still try to initiate, or change a girls mind after they say they only see them as a friend.

[SlothySlob]

First you tell him to fuck off and now you act dumbfounded that he fucked off? Come on, it's not so hard to understand that he is looking for a partner, not a friend.

[OlderAndWiser]

He sounds like a yong man with a broken spirit.

[Asker]

Why would that be so?

[OlderAndWiser]

I have the impresion that he is not very experienced in dating. He took a chance and told you how he felt and he got rejected. He had hopes for having more of a relationship with you. Right?

[Asker]

Yeah, I guess he wanted one, but why'd that equate to him possessing a broken spirit?

[OlderAndWiser]

Because I know what it is like for a shy young man to fnally express himself and be rejected.

[Asker]

He's not shy at all. Don't say that about him.

[888theGreat]

You told him get lost

[Asker]

No, I didn't.

[888theGreat]

You said no to a relationship

[Asker]

I said it in a nice manner.