Why do guys not seem to appreciate compliments that much? See discription please?

[Anonymous]

I give compliments to guys quite often, not meaning anything by it other than I like their clothes or think their hair is cool or something else. But they always seem not so genuine in their thank you, and always just walk away. Like do guys do this when they have a girlfriend? Or do they not know how to respond? Should I just stop complimenting guys? Because it always feels so awkward afterward when they give the "ah, thanks" and walk away. I'm not saying every guy says that, but a lot of them don't seem to appreciate it

[BeMuse]

Men are generally more independent than women. Women more often rely on superficial outside judgement of themselves, rather than personal reflection to weigh and measure themselves. Thus women thrive on praise, compliments, encouragement, and spoken affection. They are self-centered and narcissistic to a large degree and want everyone around them to worship them on some twisted level... As a result, they tend to be more sensitive and over react to criticisms and they dwell on it forever and can't get over minor slights. It smashes their self-esteem... In contrast men tend to know what we are and what we are not. We generally don't care what people think of us. We care about what we do. If we are true to ourselves and keep our word, following through on action then we have succeeded in our minds. A man's word is his bond... Thus we are more action oriented. When people show us affection through their actions, when they follow through on what they say and deliver they prove to be reliable. If you put your own interests aside and stop being so self centered, then your behavior has deviated and you are showing us that you care enough about us that you can stop focusing on yourself for a moment. When you break promises and act like a lazy sack of shit and make excuses, then obviously we're not all that important to you. Talk is cheap, show you care about a guy by actually putting yourself aside and doing nice things for him, show up on time, get him a cold beer, help him carry something when he looks tired, help relieve the burden of being a man. Be a teammate.

[BeMuse]

I find it funny that you directly say that you do "not mean anything by it" but you expect men to be genuine. hahaha. You're being a phony dishing out bullshit, and you want them to be real. You're being met with reciprocity. Shit in shit out... To me it sounds more like you want to easily manipulate people with minimal energy.

[BeMuse]

Any guy with a level head on his shoulders is going to be like this bitch sucks. She's a bad person...

[NamerOfStars]

Well, what kind of response were you expecting? I'm not being sarcastic here; if you're looking to start up a conversation with a guy by complimenting him, he's probably not going to realize that. You'd do a lot better by following it up with a question, e. g., "I love the way your hair looks! Where did you have it cut?" or "You do [impressive activity] so well; how long did it take you to learn?".

Most guys don't get compliments very often, if at all, so it's possible that he thinks you're mocking him, or manipulating him to do something. Even if he doesn't, he might not know how to react. Asking a follow-up question gives him a little guidance as to the reaction you're looking for.

[Anonymous]

Well, ask the same in reddit and see the difference. Guys seem to actually appreciate compliments more than a lot of girls do.

[Asker]

Well I don't have reddit, but I appreciate the suggestion. And I thought that was the case as well, but I also don't want to be biased

[Hairylegs222]

I absolutely love compliments. Each one received means a lot to me. If you expect a certain reaction from someone, then the approach is important. Saying only a compliment will most likely just be a thank you response and that's it. To strike a conversation (as mentioned in the other response), asking a question after the compliment is wanting the other person to engage in a conversation with you.

Example: "Geez you have such big sexy muscles! What is your workout routine?"

When it comes to awkward responses, that really depends on what compliment was given. Maybe the guy didn't agree with what you complimented on. So he thought in his head he disagrees but didn't want to be rude telling you that and then says an awkward thanks back to you. Or maybe you caught him off guard saying a compliment to him and then he awkwardly said thanks back. Another possibility is he thinks you're cute, or he likes you, and your compliment made him nervous.

[spartan55]

I'm not sure what type of reaction you are looking for beyond a thank you. Guys appreciate compliments because we get WAY fewer than girls do.

[Asker]

Actually you're right, maybe I'm looking for a conversation to bloom from a simple compliment, yeah that seems unrealistic, thank you for your comment!!

[spartan55]

Sometimes I have been caught completely flat footed and didn't know what to say beyond 'thank you'. It's hard to overstate how seldom the average guy receives compliments.

[Anonymous]

"What do I say that doesn't encourage her but also shows appreciation for the compliment and doesn't look to others like I'm entertaining her flirting and so it won't get back to my girlfriend and make her feel like shit and aww, hell, the moment's over I might as well just walk away"

[ANDYB88]

Honestly, it’s because guys don’t get compliments often. We really don’t have much practice haha I have honestly thought ‘is she taking the p*as out of me’ when I’ve been complimented recently. Men genuinely don’t get compliments often

[jahaims]

We aren't used to them and are taught to hide our emotions. I'm not saying that's the right way but it seems to be common. Also we aren't rewarded in the same ways as females are for our looks. It is a plus but not as big of a plus.

[mark000h]

We're not used to getting them from anybody so it's a surprise when we do.

[Swordnen]

It's like, of I ever got a compliment it was less than 10 times, so of I am getting a compliment
I am confused what to say
I still don't know what to say after someone says happy birthday

[DexWest]

Because, to put it simply, we’re so used to not receiving them, that when we do? We don’t know how to react.

[TrillXHippy]

Can’t appreciate something that we don’t really get

[noohair]

Men and women are different on this issue. That is my opinion.

[EaterPeter]

They not know how to respond

[Jingi18]

They do