Well, I have my personal feelings and words for women who view men like this or tell them that they aren’t man enough if they cry… But I don’t feel like being rude today… So, yes, I think it is wrong of you because you’re a hypocrite and have double standards.
Sounds to me like you have a very idealistic perception of what a man should be like. And it's heavily influenced on your sexual preferences. Which, because of ooga-booga & the mating games, generalizing can be useful in weeding out the generally "weaker" guys that would produce "weak" offspring.
But I don't think it's healthy to generally generalize to the degree that you are/have. It sums up the human mind in such a black & white way.
So I think it's good to keep in mind why you have the viewpoint you have. And when your confronted with a crying man, remember that you're likely not correct about him.
For instance, I don't cry very often at all. Even when I feel sad, my eyes may water, but not enough for tears to come out. However, when I do cry, it means that there's a bunch of frustration I've been holding in. Which makes the emotion burst out.
And crying doesn't mean that the guy is a boy not ready to be a man. It just means he's human. Emotions don't care about gender. The brain will respond however the brain has been wired to respond.
So I think it's important for you to question your criteria for what make a man a man. And what makes a boy a boy. And preferably make them less black & white & hopefully more relative to a given context & goal.
Well, obviously it depends why he’s crying. I mean if he cried because he saw a scratch on his car, then yeah that’s a bit extreme. But if there is a legitimate reason why he would cry, I think it’s beautiful that a man is mature enough and secure enough in his masculinity to be able to show his emotions. Men aren’t machines, they DO have emotions. Shaming a good man who trusts you enough to show his emotions to you by referring to him as a little boy speaks WAY more to your own lack of maturity than it could ever speak to the emotional maturity of the man. And frankly, given that I have NEVER met a girl who was this callous regarding men showing their emotions, I SERIOUSLY doubt that you are actually a female! This is quite possibly the MOST manly thing I’ve ever seen a “pink” account write
I feel that as a society we're encouraged to be whimps nowadays yet it doesn't seem to improve anything because there has never been so many people with mental problems before. People just can't deal with normal life anymore.
I agree that strong and stoic men who are in control of their emotions are the most admireable. I don't want to take anyone's right to have a cry but that's the truth.
I think a man who doesn't normally cry but cries about something really major in the privacy of his home is almost a beautiful thing, to be so human and so vulnerable despite his strength. Crying out of anger or frustration is an instant turn off.
Well I don't know how right you are or how wrong you are I can tell you this if one of my children or one of my loved ones or 1 of my friends or my mom or my grandmother were hurt very badly and I lost them I would hurt I would cry I would care what you thought I wouldn't care what anybody thought it's because I care and I mourn it I remember the bond of friendship that I had yes I will cry and I guess if you don't like it just keep on walking because I'm not going to change for anybody I have a pretty big boy there's not too many things that piss me off. There's not too many things that hurt me but that's one thing that would crush me and I would cry if I felt the need I would cry if I feel the pain the sorrow
Crying is not supposed to be attractive? I mean personally I think it is, but it's really just supposed to relieve stress.
That's like saying "I don't find it attractive when a man throws up. I honestly feel like most girls lie when they tell guys it’s okay to throw up when they're sick. I just see a boy not ready to be a man to be honest." That's very dense, obviously?
Well when I was young we had a name for lame guys, but its socially unexceptable to call guys lame any more, unless they are lame and being lame.
But if you're a heterosexual women then yeah I would assume you don't find lame guys attractive in that way. Because heterosexual guys try really hard to avoid being confuse as being lame, and therefore avoid doing lame things... like crying in front of other heterosexuals.
Not at all. Everyone has a right to like/dislike what they want.
I for one, don't mind it and would honestly make the guy more attractive to me due to it making it clear to me that they're not afraid of their emotions. Feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with me on that level to show that side to me.
I mean attractive wise that's fine. No one is attractive when they cry, unless you like that sort of thing I guess. But if it's solely because men aren't proper men... well I just find that stupid, anyone can cry. I personally don't cry that much so I wouldn't find anyone who cried a lot attractive but I wouldn't look down on anyone for crying, unless it was excessive I guess?
Oh wow. Real men cry. Males who are not in touch with their emotions deal with them by drinking, cheating and all manner of reckless behaviour. And when you get older and want to have emotinal intimacy with your partner you can forget that. But at least they don't cry! Have fun with them.
I think there's nothing wrong with you being honest about that. It's common sense, and a lot of people try to deny it because they feel that expressing that view won't gain them acceptance. I would rather just be honest, as I don't really give a liquid poop who agrees or disagrees with me.
Nothing attractive about crying it just shows that they trust you to cry , as for crying its a biological fact its not a shameful thing to hide , its really amazing how people think its ok to show your nipple but its not ok for men to cry , i really hope you get off your high tower cuz all that superiority complex reeks insecurities
Then a abusive and aggressive man that takes his anger out on you is probably what you find attractive cause every dude cries, even the abusive ones tbh
So would you turn down a guy for crying over the death of a loved one, including a pet or for crying over someone he cares about that's in pain and suffering? If you would, then that says a lot about your character, and it says nothing good.
Most women do not. That is why men are taught to never cry and never display how they feel. This is unnatural and destructive, but we cannot have women feeling uncomfortable. Men can always self-medicate with drugs, alcohol, risk-taking behavior,…
it depends. if they're sensitive, then yeah no i'm out. but if it's something like death, something bad in life, or anything else that is serious and is worth crying over it'd be cruel to make them not show that emotion at all.
No because western society of women were raised to believe that men are strong. We think crying is a sign of weakness. Now that we’re growing up and learning it’s not it’s Throws us off. The problem is now how do we comfort them in the right way.
I actually prefer guys that are willing to cry. It's okay not to find it attractive, but don't knock a guy just because you saw him being emotional.
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Honestly I don't blame you for thinking that he's unattractive for crying, men are not supposed to cry, men are supposed to be strong and hold in their emotions to be seen as a strong-willed leader. Women don't want a man that cries because he will be seen as a weakling, so no it's not wrong of you to think that because you're right.
So if his family dies he should tough it out? I don't cry if I'm hurt. I just said Ow when I almost accidentally cut my own finger off. I would probably cry if my dog died, she's the only one that will love me unconditionally
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Crying isn't supposed to be attractive on anyone. But let me tell you as a person who used to let there emotions bottle up until it pops. It's not healthy I always felt worse about myself after and the cycle would keep repeating itself.
Any man who dates a girl with the mindset expressed in this question has become involved with the wrong woman and should look elsewhere for companionship.
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Well, you admit it, which is something, but men are human too you know. We have feelings and emotions.
unless it over the death of a loved one or from a serious injury, i agree to some extent. Men are supposed to be the stoic, strong ones that keep women safe.
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Anonymous
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We're used to it. Just be honest with the guys you date and tell them you won't be there for them when they're down. We understand
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