Odd conversation of the day amongst women debating a mans response:Say a man and woman have been chatting casually for a while. It is unclear if the man has any interested in her other than friendly conversation though he has complimented her appearance once or twice. How do you think the man may feel if one day the girl feeling a little frisky with no outlet turned to the man as a safe way to vent and sent a risque photo of herself though he never implied he wanted such a thing? Would he be offended? Would he think her ungraceful? Or would he simply appreciate it and or shrug it off. What would a man say to such an unexpected picture or think when realizing she did this because she felt it was a safe way to relieve her friskiness.
Yes it would be a bad move on her part.
No if they are comfortable with each other the man won't mind
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I personally was leaning towards a bad idea without a headsup first. However I was not quite sure what was the best advice on the best way to bring up the subject up with the man.
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I repeat this question was based on a conversation I had amongst lady friends about sending daring pics. I believe steamy/risque pics are different then straight up nudes. I see it as wearing something sexy to possibly showing some nude breast but material covers the nipple area. Then there's vanilla nudes such as hair hands or a hat covers the breast. Last there's straight up nudes which leave nothing to the imagination. Example: https://ibb.co/W5pbVT8 Gents I wasn't offering any nice try 😘
Would a man loose interest or respect for a girl he been talking with for a while if she sent him a steamy pic though he never indicated he wanted it?
So the way you described the scenario, I'd lose interest in a heartbeat. I've actually lived this, the ONLY woman that has done this to me, I dropped pursuit immediately.
My issue was it was too easy to get those pics, which means they aren't exclusive. She proved me correct with a week.
The woman described in that scenario needs to do that with the guy she wants to date in an actual relationship with him, that's when it is fine.
Also, she needs a guy with a sex drive that can at least match hers! If she doesn't do the aforementioned, she's likely to find a guy she likes with a low sex drive relative to hers and she'll sacrifice in the short-term... but long-term she'll be looking for an outlet which will cause problems.
Guys who want a relationship want to feel special. They want to know THEY are the reason that pic was sent to them. The difference between them and the guys who just want sex is the when they are sent. Guys wanting a relationship, want it DURING the relationship; guys wanting sex? The sooner the better.
Just my opinion, great topic and I wanted to chime in, take care and be safe.
As many said, it depends on the individuals. If we know each other well and like each other, I would take such an action as a fun thing and I would not lose respect for her. Most guys would love receiving the nudes, buy many would judge her a bad person to do such a thing. I would see it as her enjoying a bit of a visual tease with a guy she expects to like her doing it. I think @loves2learn is correct that he would be crazy if he allowed it to cause him to lose interest or respect. And I imagine that if she were single that she just might be playful enough with a guy or two to do something like that.
If it's one of my guy friends, they'd probably assume it's one of my moods, since I'm edgy and frisky even on a normal day. If I want a little male attention, yes I'd grab theirs. If I'm interested in a person, I usually make it very clear. So there's not much room for mixed signals or whatever.
Depends how steamy this pic is like just a bikini pic or full nude? I'd say most guys wouldn't care if it's not fully nude but if it is then he might be a little uncomfortable and lose interest.
It greatly depends on person, however going to either extreme would be wrong. Him being offended or sending a graphic action shot in return, would personally be wrong.
Some may do that, especially the latter, which then puts the woman on the receiving end (so to speak).
He should accept it in the manner it’s sent.
Now the big problem is how to reply, I have been sent a lot and how you reply is fairly important, things like ‘thank you’, ‘oh nice’ , ‘that’s different’, do not really work and the sender gets a bit quiet or upset that you did not say more or say how lovely she was….
Equally if you say ‘wow fuck me you are hot’ , she can take it badly.
Also saying ‘oh you have the same bedding set as me’ , really sort of does not work lol.
of course everyone is different... so there would be as many different reactions
and then you have a very long range of background and particular experiences that could happened before and between them that would sort of set the context for the build-up to this very moment...
but I am still willing to guess that most men would not be offended by it, and they would rather be intrigued, surprised in a good way and even appreciate it
at least me, personally, I would never ever lose respect for her... as it was her choice and her decision, and initiative in the first place... I'd be interested on why, and the reasons first, as I am not one that usually jumps and reaches to conclusions of my own and on my own
That's genuinelly happened in my life when I was younger. I'd chatted to a girl on line and sent a few pictures of my face etc so she knew what I looked like when requested (I was young and just thought I was being a friendly chap at the time lol), but despite not asking for it (I naivelly thought we were just internet friends lol) she randomly sent me a full frontal selfie lol... I feel guilty now because I think she was flirting whilst I just thought we were talking... whilst she was requesting photos of me! lol
I look at it as a positive I dont see anything wrong with it. and I like the idea that she's making the first move. It might be something he's wanted to do be won't because of all the fall out he could receive from it. I say go for it and no at least for me I would welcome it
@Bluemax yes understanding the opposite sex can be so complicated at times. Many different scenarios and responses. I would think it may be best to hint at the subject first? Yet in my experience men dont alway get hints. So it may come down to does a man like it when women make the first move.
I agree with your update. With a little heads up, it can turn it in to a good path.
My initial thought was no it's a bad move if she wants something lasting, obviously. Especially in the introductory phase.
But with a bit of heads up and after observing his response to the heads-up, (if the response is positive) it's totally okay.
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I can't speak for every guy. But yes! Based on the description of your question it sounds like you have yet to even meet this guy in person. If a woman did this to me I would conclude that at best she's oversexed and aggressive and thinks her BEST asset is her body (that's a clear turnoff to me... especially if I haven't even met you. And at worst she's manipulative. And I will not, absolutely WILL NOT consider dating a woman if I get that vibe from a woman. Such a woman there is no upside to her.
C - it depends on the specific guy/person. Too many variables and not black and white answer. Personally I wouldn't, but depending on my interest in her, it might raise several questions and a conversation might need to take place lol. You could have some "explaining" to do? Like my first thoughts might be, "nice" followed by "wtf?" lol Why is she sending them to me? What does it mean?
It seems to me that men, meaning me, would NOT be offended by risqué steamy or vanilla nude. Full nudity is riskier. And I wouldn't recommend it right away, unless you knew it was welcome.
It depends on the man and the nature of the relationship between him and the woman. One risk is that some guys might share the image with their friends.
Depends on the guy. I'm sure some people would think it's hot while others would be as disturbed as the average girl getting random dick pics. Ask for consent.
it depends on the dynamic between the 2 and the mood he is in at the time. as for me, often would not have a negative impact but there have been times it did have a negative impact. usually best to keep it as a by request thing.
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