I never really noticed this until recently, because certain situations I guess, blew it up and now it is a subject on different conversations. I know this is not the case with my other female colleagues because it is becoming a constant remarks by ladies in my department, or other people from other department that works with us from time to time. One even joked about how all men in the department act like my dad all the time. They say my male workmates get all overprotective of me a lot, including the bosses, and I mean extreme hero-mode! I am very short and chubby girl, and a bit geeky so despite on looking quite young I don’t think I am that attractive to have all of them having a crush on me (there are definitely far more attractive women in the office). Everyone knows that I am happily married. I am nice to everyone but not too much and I don't flirt around.
I am in mid-management, and I know I am competent with my work, so I doubt I come across as silly or stupid. I have several people working under me and our team is in charge of a very critical, partly technical arm of the company business.
I get “forgotten” in a “appreciation ceremony” and 3 guys ended up telling the organizer off and apparently because of this there had been quite a fight over there. One of my underlings screws up, and instead of me taking care of it, it is already “handled” by another co-manager so I don’t look bad. Boss overhears me having a stern conversation with the vendor who is late with their deliveries, he gives them a call which he didn't have to do. If some other newbie or someone from another department acts somewhat cocky or silly comment, they are all ready to pounce on the guy. Whenever I even show a small hint of being upset, or accidentally get teary-eyed from allergies, everyone just goes “Who fought with you? Tell me!”
I have nothing about men being men and their need to protect women but why it has to be noticeably me? Do I look weak and vulnerable? Is it my height?
I am in mid-management, and I know I am competent with my work, so I doubt I come across as silly or stupid. I have several people working under me and our team is in charge of a very critical, partly technical arm of the company business.
I get “forgotten” in a “appreciation ceremony” and 3 guys ended up telling the organizer off and apparently because of this there had been quite a fight over there. One of my underlings screws up, and instead of me taking care of it, it is already “handled” by another co-manager so I don’t look bad. Boss overhears me having a stern conversation with the vendor who is late with their deliveries, he gives them a call which he didn't have to do. If some other newbie or someone from another department acts somewhat cocky or silly comment, they are all ready to pounce on the guy. Whenever I even show a small hint of being upset, or accidentally get teary-eyed from allergies, everyone just goes “Who fought with you? Tell me!”
I have nothing about men being men and their need to protect women but why it has to be noticeably me? Do I look weak and vulnerable? Is it my height?
