I rejected a boy even though I liked him a lot. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

So I really like this boy. I always try to catch his attention by staring and showing pretty obvious signs like checking him out. He was looking at me lots as well. But I got tired of waiting for him and wanted to make him jealous by going out with another boy for a while. He then asked me what was going on and he said he was interested but I rejected him and I don't know why! He seems to ignore me a lot now as well and doesn't even click on my stories. What can I do to fix this?

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And also I'm just really really nervous around him. I run away or look on my phone when he tries to talk to me.

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I'm just got tired that he didn't ask me out

[KirbyFan246]

You're beating around the bush with this guy, with the exception of your direct rejection. You need to directly reach out to him again to tell him that you didn't mean it, and you actually like him. I say this, because some younger guys take things very literally, so if you say you don't like him, he'll take that to heart, and think you mean what you say, even though as a woman, you don't always mean everything you say when you are speaking the language of your emotions. A lot of young Men don't speak through their emotions the same way, and are often more logical in their approach having a way of being more cordial and straight forward, unless they're older and more experienced with handling and/or expressing their emotions. In that case, men are more than capable of understanding that women don't always mean what they say, but younger guys tend to not understand this.

This is also why you need to directly say that you "made a mistake," and tell him that you "Really like him" and "Can we hang out?"

If the approaching is a problem with all the nervousness you have, I would recommend Maybe writing him a note, and giving it to him. It would be better if you confronted him in person, but a note/letter could convey the same message. Text Messages work too if you have his number.

Hope things work out for you, take care!

[summiter]

He sounds maybe a bit shy and did not want to take the initiative. How old is he? If you still want to hand out, date or hookup with him text him or give him a call and ask to hang out. You will have to reassure him that you would like to get to know him a bit better.

[Asker]

He is shy but that's what I like about him lol He's a bit older than me.

[summiter]

If you like him it is ok to take the initiative. Maybe he is a virgin and kinda nervous about things?

[Asker]

Well the thing is I'm also really really nervous around him. He did come up to talk me but I'd always run away and look down on my phone.

[summiter]

Well just take it slow, be friendly and maybe do some fun things like going for a long walk or grab a cup of coffee. It is ok to say that you are nevous... it happens/happened to all of us.

[Novacane]

Talk to him, if you rejected him then obviously he is trying to move on, the best way to fix that is talk to him and let him know how you feel and hope that he is still interested in you. As of now he is trying to move on and find the next person who will give him that attention.

[boppity]

In my opinion, your best chance would be to tell him about this. I mean, even if you got into a relationship with him at this point, you would still need to be honest and come clean with him about why you rejected him and whatnot. I think your best chance would be to tell him that you like him, and that you just did this bc you wanted him to notice. Depending on the guy, you might have blown it already though. It depends on how he is. Either 1. He is flattered by how much you like him, and understands that you were just trying to get his attention, or 2. he feels like what you did was unreasonable and has already gotten over you.

[Anonymous]

Well that was definitely NOT the thing to do. It's possible you've blown it. What you'd have to do (but I don't think you can) is approach him, explain, and ask him out. If there's any chance of it. He might reject you based on the game playing, but that's all your options.

[Anonymous]

Tell him the truth right


You took too long to ask. I tried getting your attention. I get really nervous around you though, I somewhat accidentally rejected you. Now what


I don’t know but truth seems like the most freeing version plus he knows you are honest and truthful

[spartan55]

You can't, you blew it in every way possible. Take the L and learn.

[Asker]

I didn't mean to do it, I don't know why I did it.

[spartan55]

Yeah, but you messed up several ways. First your 'obvious signs' staring, checking him out, etc is not going to work. Guys don't pick up on hints, we need more than that. Second, the idea of making him jealous is a terrible plan! Most guys will not like this and rarely will it work as planned.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Well you play the game he was more serious about you and you lost. The only thing you can do is move on, and be sincere and stop playing games

[Anonymous]

Why did you think it was a good idea to use another guy simply to try to make your crush jealous and interested in you? You completely used that poor bastard.

[Smallboobsgotohell]

U rejected him and u don't know why? Explain it to him first

[Smallboobsgotohell]

And i think he doesn't love u as much as u think he does coz he easily gave up on u

[boppity]

dude. she like literally rejected him. I think that he just doesn't like her playing with his emotions

[RuthlessAggression]

Sounds like you wanted to be liked, you didn't ACTUALLY like him

[Guy13]

Find him, apologize, say yes, and move forward

[Emanon25]

Talk to him when you see him in a good mood

[Iron_Man]

Call him up immediately

[TrillXHippy]

Dang that’s crazy

[Anonymous]

You move on.