What women never ask themselves when trying to answer these questions is: "attracted FOR WHAT?" And the two possibilities here are "for casual sex" and "for relationships."
You must always, ALWAYS remember that men look at casual sex and relationships completely differently. You take most single men, put them in a room with 100 single, age-appropriate women, and they're going to put those women in one of 3 categories:
If you're in the grey area of the pie, the guy has no interest in you, for anything. Even if you're pretty, even if you're hot, even if you're rich, or famous, or popular, you just might not be his cup of tea. Maybe you have a terrible personality, or maybe you used to date his best friend - whatever it is, he isn't interested.
If you're in the green area - whether light green or dark green, he's physically attracted to you, and thus would almost certainly have sex with you. But - pay attention to this part - him wanting to sleep with you is clearly no guarantee that he has any interest in being in a relationship with you. He'd have sex - very enthusiastically - with around 50% of the women in that room, but he'd only be interested in a relationship with 3-5% of the women in that room. even if we call it 5%, that's still only 10% of the women he'd be happy to sleep with, which means even if a guy wants to bang you, at least 90% of the time, he has no interest in being in a relationship with you.
Why is that? Simple: it's because the threshold for him wanting to have sex with you is fairly low and fairly simple: does he find you physically attractive, and are you single, willing, and not known to be a psycho?
The bar for him wanting a girl for a relationship is much higher. If he's considering you for a relationship - which is a huge commitment, risk, and sacrifice for him - then it's because he sees you as worthy of his investment. But he's going to want things beyond just looks. For most men, they're going to want their women to be fit, feminine, friendly, loyal, cooperative, submissive, and have good values and morals. Why? Because he's looking for a potential wife and mother.
When he's single, he might look at women who are scantily dressed and enjoy them, and even be SEXUALLY attracted to them, but these women are never going to be seen as having "relationship potential" for him. Sure, if he's single, he'd probably bang her, but he's very unlikely to commit to her, especially if he's a many of any value himself. The girl he's going to commit to is likely to be more conservative in behavior and dress, and have higher morals and values, because that's who he wants raising his kids.
Most girls quickly figure out that they can dress in a more revealing way and attract more male attention, and many enjoy that validation - but not nearly enough realize that such attention is only SEXUAL attention, and that it's not going to get them RELATIONSHIP attention - which is what most women actually want. The two things are VERY different, and should always be discussed as separate things.
You know what's more unattractive than when you look like without makeup?
lying to yourself.
What are you going to do? Never let him see you like that? What about when you wake up next to eachother? Are you going to rush to the bathroom every morning for the rest of your life before your lover can wake up?
You don't think he's going to feel like he's being patronized after a while?
He should love you for who you are. Not for the little boost in how good you look when you're not swimming.
Men will do to wkmen what women will let them get away with. He will treat you differently and test your boundaries. Once you move your boundary he will put you in a category and treat you accordingly. So they loke trashy women they just utilizes them differently. Like machines.
I hope you don’t want to know that so you change yourself to be liked by more men.
You deserve to be accepted as you are.
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Yes it´s actually more attractive because it seems more reasonable on different accusations, especially in the workplace. Plus I like that more because it helps me see not only in a sexual way, but it´s a sign of style.
A woman can look great not revealing anything. For me it´s rather a sign that she´s not desperate for male contact because that´s why I think when it´s not hot outside but a woman wears revealing clothes.
There is absolutely a point where a woman's fashion sense gets too trashy to be attractive, especially with guys older than your average college frat boy. More modest clothing especially on an attractive woman also gets men to think about and wonder what she looks like under the garments, while a scantily clad woman leaves little to the imagination.
Depends on each persons morals and values and beliefs. I personally like the classy modest look on a girl because it looks sweet and pretty to me but that’s just my opinion I’m not going to judge a girl that doesn’t dress like that that’s her choice too each to their own.
Everyone has their own attractions. Some weird. Some normal. Some extremely weird and unexpected. lol
Yeah, most men don't tend to like trashy/slutty/shameless women. I don't think it needs explaining.
Like women, we are all different and have different tastes lol. That's why.
Lol. You believed him?
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