Did I do something wrong?

[Anonymous]

Married 1 year.

For the past 8 months or so my husband doesn't initiate or approach me romantically at all. I get small compliments when I dress up like "you look nice".

So last night I approached my husband to talk about the fact that he hasn't touched me in 3 weeks. I didn't accuse, say anything angrily or trigger him. All I said was "can we please talk about the fact that we haven't been intimate in 3 weeks?" He hasn't kissed me, I got dressed up in lingerie yesterday and he just looked and said "sorry I already jerked off today, maybe tomorrow"..

Anyways when I approached him last night he got REALLY mad and said "stop I'm not in the mood" and went to sleep.

I haven't bugged him about it the whole 3 weeks until now. So I don't see why he would be so irritated.

Today he hasn't said a word to me. It's 5pm right now and the only thing he said is "I don't want it" after I made a sandwich for him because he hasn't eaten today.

Now he's laying in bed watching tik toks and won't look at me or talk to me at all. I don't see what I've done wrong? I don't get it. It's hurting me that I'm pregnant and he's treating me like I'm a monster for talking to him about how I'm feeling. Isn't marriage about communication?

Advise on how to deal with this?

[Aa2003]

I think a lot of people will say there ways to spice it up or revive the marriage, but if it’s been going on for this long when you’ve been married only a year I would start to consider a separation. He won’t change overnight and it doesn’t sound like he is the kind to change. It will be a difficult road either way, but staying in a loveless environment isn’t healthy for you or your future child. Keep in mind advice from strangers is a double sided knife. It can lead you in the wrong path or be the best kind of help available. Talk to family or trusted friends if possible, but really just confide and trust in yourself to make the best decision. You got this!