"I'm not here to make friends" how do you respond to this statement?

[anon1903]

honestly i have never used this one before. usually giving them a cold shoulder gets the message across that i am not up for chatting or bonding.

this isn't about me. some neighborhood girl rejected my brother's friendliness saying the above shit. he passed the exam with flying colours, but he got a bit upset by one of his cute classmates telling him this. I dunno what exactly happened, but the girl seems to dislike him for the sake of dislike. he won't tell me coz i ain't exactly a warm person either, should i pry?

[genericatbest]

First of all you have a delusion that you're not warm. You need to stop investing time into your brother if he doesn't want your warmth. Now for the real part, you probably feel this way because of previous abusive relationships where the other person took advantage of you or people you see everyday tell it to you eg. your mom or dad.

Now for this, a girl who legit says that in real life probably wants to be left alone and that's completely okay. Maybe she has some other ambitions except making friends but look, she's probably trying to have an emotional impact on your brother and she succeeded just know that she needs to be left alone maybe there's something more important for her.

For the phrase in itself though, you know the phrase is something many do to try to intimate someone. Tell your brother that bitch ain't shit and tell him cause I said so. Tell him that there is always a way to be a better person no matter what the situation is while having self respect.

Tell him that the least he can do is stop pursuing this girl and make him watch some porn you find sexy for women men if he's gay but yeah, that's literally the best way to deal with that. Me personally have never really did this kind of approach but I know he's a child, this is how you get rid of it.

Last resort is open up to a counsellor about it, or the school principle and change places if she bullies him. Tell him to have a phone with him at all times and audio record stuff since he can reflect on the things later on by seeing the situation later.

[Whatever2929292]

Well exactly what you said. Like I say I am not on here to make friends. You have a mission to do and you don't really care if people love you, hate you, or are indifferent to you.

Pretty much you don't care if people like you or not. Some people aren't friendly though

[Cynicaldreamer]

Simply tell them, "Okay, I respect that..." and move on. Don't try to ask why or change their feelings; it's not worth it.

She's not being rude; maybe she genuinely is not interested in friends right now and has other things to focus on in life.
Heck, I'll be real, I say that all the time on here and online! It's not being mean; it just means you're not in the mood to deal with or befriend someone right now. Or maybe you don't feel like you would click with said person (friendship wise or more). I've definitely had situations like that to where someone wanted to befriend me, but I KNEW we didn't have much in common and it would be a waste of time on both of our parts.

Or she can sense he might be interested in her, and to avoid disappointing him later, she's nipping the situation early.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Makes sense to me.

Not everyone wants to be friends, not every place is appropriate to make friends.

For example, at my second job as a budtender, I don't really make friends with customers. I'm there to make money, maintain good relations with coworkers and custies, and go home.

[TommyMountainFigure]

My response? "Fine, be alone then your whole life you miserable witch!

I'd be making something like this gesture too.

[Nawlins34]

I'd just thank her for not wasting my time and ask if anyone else feels that way.

I wouldn't take offense or feel any other way about it.

That said, I'm good at reading body language, if people want to interact, they will let it be known. If you're not trying to help him, don't pry.

[jshm2]

"I'm not here to make friends!" Well, looking for a lover has got you nowhere as well, I see!"

Is the proper response to throw it back in their face.

But "Don't flatter yourself, you're not that charismatic" is quick and snappy.

Likely it's nothing, and she just didn't want to say "fuck off" in class.

[dreamstar72]

Neither am I, I enjoy this site and its fun to at least to think you are helping others out with their problems. Sure maybe my writing skill are not perfect. I’m more of an introvert who relies their long term memory. Most people has problems with this. The point is I’m here to enjoy myself not to find friends

[FunkyMonkee]

I ignore them. Let's see, you go to a site where you socialize, then you point out to the others that you're even here, thus, drawing MORE attention to yourself and getting more people to try to talk to you then you say you're not here to make friends! okay, the best way to help you in your cause is to ignore you! But, why are you even here in the first place? If you DON'T want to make friends, it's best to never come here! It's like going to a huge party and saying, "I just want to be alone.".

[kinggeorge007]

Could be two things. It's either she wanted something more. Or she's not interested in any way. (friends or dating). So it's hard to say without any background. Either way, it's rude to say it like that. he has every right to be upset about it. I would advise him to avoid this girl like a plague.

[Nigjt]

If I see that I block them an keep going an if they find away to contact me an let me know that is a lie they may get a chance only after they give me a Bj an it's good but if it's bad an they do not want to improve then there is only one other way they may get a chance they want.
God Bless

[Dinklex3]

I've said that before 😅
Usually in response to people trying to shame me for not hanging out or spending "quality time" with classmates or coworkers.
I don't see why you should pry? Let them be.

[Honesttguy]

I had guy at work tell me "I dont like you" I just said okey, its different if u go in there with same attitude of no one have to like me here.
Prob if u like that girl and she says that then it hits differently.

[anton_dee]

Just his bad luck. There are curt people like that. He is better off without her.

[anon1903]

I'm gunna go with this one lol

[FilmGuy93]

I just smile and say "well, I'll let you get back to it then."

That girl is just being needlessly stand-offish, but I've said things like that at various points of life where I feel like I need to separate my work and personal life.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Those are some of the easiest people to make friends with. Just be weary of them because 9/10 times their emotions will make them disloyal.

[OlderAndWiser]

If he has been rejected by the girl, the reason really doesn't matter.

[anon1903]

Why not

[OlderAndWiser]

In my experience, it doesn't change the hurt that follows a rejection.

[anon1903]

Sorry to hear that

[anon1903]

I'd just leave him alone for a while

[ChiTown33]

I would say "well that sucks for you because I'm all about climbing over people's anger walls. When I see a person with sour disposition I just have to give them a hug". Then make a slow move to her like you're going to hug her. 🤣

[Juxtapose]

My reaction:

[Fvghtlxght]

I would just leave them alone. Never talk to them. They're making it easier and instructing me to put less work in when interacting with them.

[WhitneySnow]

I guess she’s not interested in being friendly and definitely not interested in going out or hooking up with him

[CallmeTheKnight]

Everything isn't about your brother. If someone doesn't want to be friends, leave them be. You don't respond to that statement, just leave them be.

Your brother needs to respect boundaries

[ohshee]

So then what you're saying is it you want to be my lover LOL that's what I would say

[Sour-rose]

"Okay, bish. Have fun not joining me and my other friends on girl's night."