So, I've been friends with this one guy for months. Our circle of friends has expanded a lot, and I'm really happy. But here's the thing. He touches me a lot. Not inappropriately, he hugs me a lot, puts his arm on my shoulder, pats my head, hand, arm, or shoulder.
But he sits too close to me, touches me too much. It's getting weird. Today he was being kind of scary. He said that one of his friends died in a car crash 4 years ago, and he's still pretty beaten up about. I gave him a hug to help him feel better, but here's where it starts.
When we were walking he kept talking about how everyone leaves, no one stays, all his friends died, life is meaningless. I could tell he was sad, but it's scary to see someone in a state like that, it hurts on a personal level.
He kept asking my friend and I, "has anything like this happened to you before?", "Have any of your friends died?", "Do you have any weird stories" we said no, but we did say that our grandmothers have died.
He even said he killed one of his friends with a gun. I thought he was joking, but he mentioned it like three times and said he was serious. He kept asking more questions, I kept replying with no. He said I sounded like I didn't care. I did care, I didn't know to respond since I was never in a situation like his.
And the poor guy's been through a shit ton of bullcrap, he's forced to shave his head when it gets too long, he changes schools every year, he gets bullied every year.
But he makes me uncomfortable, a lot. Especially after today, I don't feel safe anymore. He continues to touch me, but I don't want to hurt him and tell him to stop, because we used to hug a lot, and we playfully flick each other as like a game we play. But lately, something's off.
I don't like how close he sits next to me, he called me a possessive nickname the other day and it grossed me out. I'm scared if I tell him to stop, I'll hurt his feelings.
I don't want to be his friend anymore, but I don't know what to do.
But he sits too close to me, touches me too much. It's getting weird. Today he was being kind of scary. He said that one of his friends died in a car crash 4 years ago, and he's still pretty beaten up about. I gave him a hug to help him feel better, but here's where it starts.
When we were walking he kept talking about how everyone leaves, no one stays, all his friends died, life is meaningless. I could tell he was sad, but it's scary to see someone in a state like that, it hurts on a personal level.
He kept asking my friend and I, "has anything like this happened to you before?", "Have any of your friends died?", "Do you have any weird stories" we said no, but we did say that our grandmothers have died.
He even said he killed one of his friends with a gun. I thought he was joking, but he mentioned it like three times and said he was serious. He kept asking more questions, I kept replying with no. He said I sounded like I didn't care. I did care, I didn't know to respond since I was never in a situation like his.
And the poor guy's been through a shit ton of bullcrap, he's forced to shave his head when it gets too long, he changes schools every year, he gets bullied every year.
But he makes me uncomfortable, a lot. Especially after today, I don't feel safe anymore. He continues to touch me, but I don't want to hurt him and tell him to stop, because we used to hug a lot, and we playfully flick each other as like a game we play. But lately, something's off.
I don't like how close he sits next to me, he called me a possessive nickname the other day and it grossed me out. I'm scared if I tell him to stop, I'll hurt his feelings.
I don't want to be his friend anymore, but I don't know what to do.
