My boyfriend cries a lot in his sleep and sometimes when he hugs me?

[Anonymous]

I've talked to him about him crying and he tells me that when he was younger he never really received a lot of love from his parents and was often neglected by an alcoholic mother. I care a lot about him he's a tough guy and a nice guy but sometimes I hear him cry in his sleep and when I hug him at home he sometimes starts crying I try to comfort him by hugging him and kissing him, which seems to help. I'm just wondering whether there are any other ways to help my darling so he doesn't suffer with the pain?

[Anonymous]

Therapy is the best course of action but I think what yout are already doing is helping.

As someone who was in a similar situation as him growing up, women used to terrify me. Many of them didn't treat me all that kindly growing up and college was the first time I met women who acted like decent human beings. One of them became my first girlfriend and she really helped me shake off that fear.

If your boyfriend is anything like I was, you are already doing an amazing job. I have certainly had my fair share of times I bursted into tears because my girlfriend at the time showed compassion when I thought she would show fury over simple misunderstandings we had.

Combined with therapy, I think you would be well on your way to the problem being solved.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

That's rough. Depression and trauma are no trivial matter. I guess the most you can do in those moments is just be with him and let him feel your presence so he feels less alone. Then in the light of day when heads are clearer, you can maybe explore options with him for tackling his mental health and family issues more directly.

[Duck_Riddell]

I got mad respect cause I've been through everything. No pity party, my mom passed when i was little, moved in with her second cousin and she beat the far outta me. Its not tears of sadness to me, its tears of joy someone says i love you and means it

[Sixgunsound]

He trusts you A LOT to be real and vulnerable with you like that. Don’t mess this up. Be the future he clearly sees with you.

[Staximus]

Sounds like he went through some terrible shit as a kid, maybe worse than you know. Maybe he should see a psychologist that specializes in past trauma

[bepis_]

Take him to a therapist. That could help so soso sso so much.

[purplepoppy]

Tell him to man the fuck up

[Anonymous]

Because it's working. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he needs to be in therapy.