Married man likes me and I like him too?

[Anonymous]

There’s this married man and he always compliments me and obviously I compliment him back. I didn’t know at first but he’s married omg guys we fancy eachother so much like when I’m speaking to him I can feel such good vibes. He makes me feels safe. I haven’t fancied someone in such a long time now… if he left his wife then I guess it would be ok? But because he’s married it’s so wrong to do anything. I haven’t seen him in so long and he was like were have you been I’ve missed you.. any advice on what to do 🥲 l

[coldmarch]

You shouldn't pursue him, for 2 reasons:
1) You don't want to get in trouble with someone's family. Eventually, all the wives will get to know about betrayals and who the woman is. You never know how they react, and most of them will get mad both at you and at the husband. Because those are long term relationships and not just hookups, they'll go through some heavy push and pull, and your role in your relationship with him will be uncertain, cold&hot for long. It's not just like, one day he divorces and it's over, free like a teen. No... And if there are kids, even less. Living an entire year as the "second woman" of someone, hurts your self esteem.
2) By cheating on his wife, if he does, you're already giving yourself a cheating boyfriend. Cheaters don't cheat because of how the wife is, they cheat because of how -they- are. They cheat with all the partners when the circumstance allows. So if you get a boyfriend who cheats on his current partner, well, you're just fighting to get the same cheater for you. It's not a good deal honestly.
Even though you get good vibes from this man, well, a LOT of men can make you feel safe and good, laugh etc, and can be potentially single. Now this man looks special to you because you kind of bonded but you didn't specify anything so "special" that is so rare to find... So I'm pretty sure if you look around and don't obsess about him, another one who provides the same things will come to you, at some point.

[WonderBell99]

It's just infatuation, nothing more. You should refrain from pursuing this man. Attraction is okay, but anything more than that is unethical and wrong.

Ask yourself this question, how would you feel if your husband cheated on you with a random woman just because "both of them were infatuated with each other?" There are PLENTY of other guys who give off the same "good vibes" and can make you feel safe.. you know? guys who are NOT taken. You need to distance yourself from him. It seems like him and his wife need some quality time to reconnect with each other.

Cheaters do not change. If he cheats on his wife with you, always remember that it is highly likely that he would cheat on you with another woman and this cycle will go on and on until he is old and crusty. He is NEVER going to leave his wife and family for you, because why would he? The divorce process is expensive and if he hasn't signed up a prenup, he would have to give half of whatever he owns to his wife and I don't think he would want to end up broke because he couldn't think with his brain.

The wife will find out someway or the other. You never know how she may react. She could make your life a living hell. You're playing with fire. Stop seeing him. He is not worth it. Find someone else who is not taken.

[DaveJord]

Have fun and enjoy, I mean if he is willing to cheat on his wife why should you care? You never promised her anything and if she was a good wife why would he feel the need to mess around with you?

You don't owe anyone anything so have fun and enjoy yourself, just don't ever expect him to end his marriage over you, and honestly always remember that if he cheated with you then some day he would probably cheat on you as well. But that doesn't mean you can't have some fun in the mean time.

[Man-O-Metal]

Leave him be. You should not pursue anything with this man. Obviously you two have an extreme attraction towards each other. That's all the more reason to put more distance between yourselves. The more you see each other, the more messy it gets. Get out and find another man. This one is married, he needs to reconnect himself with his wife.

[RavVid]

Do nothing. Doing anything will come with complications and at the end of the day the best outcome you can get is a guy who will cheat on his wife and maybe divorce her for a hotter chick. Insert your name where wife is written.

[boggboss]

WhT do u mean advice what to do he is married u do nothing

[DermalPunch]

Well no, she has to do something. Stay TF away.

[boggboss]

I would agree but its clear she won't if she is already entertaining a married man

[jshm2]

Eh... seems more like you're infatuated with him more than he is with you.

[Noodle_fan]

if he left his current wife for you , someday he will left you for other girl too , that happened all the time , trust me

[Paul09]

Stay away from him. If he 8snt loyal to his wife, he will definitely not be loyal to you. Sounds like a player.

[CallmeTheKnight]

My advice... get your own man. That dude is low hanging fruit.

[Zolly99999]

Have sex with him.. it's just sex and both of you will be happy.

[Waldoe]

#1... he will not leave his wife and family... so think about it.

[Anonymous]

How bout you leave him alone and don't be a worthless piece of shit home wrecker.

[spartan55]

Stay away from him he is MARRIED.

[Luckycharms12]

Stay away his married

[PatriceONeal]

Women are such trash.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Giving you advice would be pointless. 🙂

[lickysplit]

you know you would always be the side piece

[Sonorous]

💀 humanity

[DermalPunch]

Stupid stupid girl.