My boyfriend said he has pity for his ex?

[WizzardGirl]

She is crack addict
He said he will always feel pain for her that she is not able to stop doong drugs
His daughter calls hom when mom is doing crazy shit and cries, saying she wants her to be good normal mom
Should i be worried about him with her?

[DaveJord]

As far as him cheating on you, I would say not. But things like this can be very emotionally taxing on people, and will try and test the best of people. The courts unfortunately do not offer you much recourse or help. So if you are concerned about the potential impacts this could have on your relationship then, yes you need to be aware of it.

For me, I have pity for my ex-wife. She comes from a family with a history of mental illness and we got older she started displaying the same signs. She was not always like this, but when I was younger I didn't appreciate the severity of the situation because I thought I could manage it. Unfortunately I spent the better half of 20 years fooling myself. So I have pity for the women I once thought so highly of, but have witness fall into a state of paranoia, and refuse to receive help because she perceives it as a form of manipulation. This caused her to develop some very irrational behaviors. So we went through a very contested divorce process and by no means do I have any romantic interest in her, but she is still the mother of my children and its a very sad state. But my current girlfriend has been so very supportive of me and it really has made a huge difference in my life. I am so happy and grateful to have a person like that in my life. But not everyone can be that type of person for someone else... so if you have concerns then you need to be honest with yourself and him. It okay to feel that maybe this is not something you want to try to handle and its best to be honest about it. It does not make you a bad person, it just makes you an honest person and if you know you are not capable then it best for him and everyone that you are honest about it.

At least his kids contact him, so that is very encouraging. Unfortunately I have been cut off from kids, and there really is nothing I can do about that. I hope some day they will come back to me, but the chances are they are probably enduring the same type of mental abuse from their mother, that she endured from her mother. So I have a lot of pity in my heart, which I think is normal for any good willed person to feel for someone else without hate and anger in their heart.

[Notcreativenough]

This is great advice, I feel for you as I've just found myself in the exact same boat. Good luck to you friend.

[DaveJord]

@Notcreativenough Thanks brother, stay strong. Good luck to you.

[Notcreativenough]

It sounds like there's missing context here. Has he cheated in the past? Does he display concerning behavior around other women? Sympathy is completely separate from attraction, either you're own insecurities are blinding you from seeing the real issue here or there's other details that only you know making the question you asked relevant.

[WizzardGirl]

I dunno if he cheated
I know he talked to her and told me he didn't
I saw her calls deleted, he hides the fact he talks to her

[EaterPeter]

You two should be worry about her daughter only if that is what your concern is.

[EaterPeter]

Who's daughter she is though is she your boyfriends daughter?

[EaterPeter]

There should be some sort of legal baggage and liability assessment before relationships started and we should be able to decide if this project is feasible in this life time or not. And of course we are still going to be naive enough to fall for idiots. Oh but I love her. And your current family and friends will oh there goes another sleep walker. WAKE UP YOU...

[WizzardGirl]

What? are you even talking about
Yes she is his, she 20 y. o.

[EaterPeter]

You should be worried about your self before any one else. Next comes boyfriend then comes his daughter and then don't you see how overwhelming it can get for you? This is not tue right project dear. 😐

[EaterPeter]

It's all metaphorical talk. He have ex who is gone case. It's better not be you in future. Wake up. ⏰️ until there is time. Save yourself from all kind of aches and pains including heart.

[truthisthree]

why did he fuck a crack addict

[WizzardGirl]

His wife for 20 years

[truthisthree]

why did he date a crack addict

[WizzardGirl]

Just told you she was his wife
They both were addicts
Then he cleaned himself and changed life