He has borderline personality disorder and runs in cycles with me. He will be kind tell me he loves me and be generally attentive for a few days then he switches off. He gets distant and ghosts. My last message I said I loved him and it's been left on delivered for 10 days. He left me on delivered but still has me as a friend on FB. Any clue what could be goung on?
Sometimes people with bpd just need a break. Ghosting people and taking some time for yourself is very common behaviour for someone with bpd. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, or doesn’t want you. Do some research on bpd, learn about what behaviours are normal for that disorder, and go from there. It’s not easy to date someone with bpd, so once you’ve researched all of the symptoms and behaviours of bpd, I think you should seriously consider whether this is a relationship you should continue to pursue.
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That’s not love. That’s doing what he wants and blaming it on his bpd. Trust me I get it, I was on and off with my ex from 2014-2020 and he was diagnosed bipolar. He’s blame every ghosting, messing up, and hurting me on his condition. I’m not saying that it doesn’t affect you guy’s life, but accountability has to happen somewhere and at the end of the day he’s still making conscious decisions to put you through all that, for no good reason.
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