Playboy guy commitment issues?

[Anonymous]

He goes to meet girls for date either at a bar or a cafe and then expects sex/physical intimacy by the end or the 1st or 2nd date.

If he gets sex, he doesn't commit or be in a relationship but keeps it to the "seeing stage" where he is still free to meet and see other girls. More like friends with benefits or casual sexual relationship.

If he doesn't get sex then he either ghosts and stops seeing the girl or if he is REALLY attracted to her then continues to keep the door of communication open even though he's fully mad at the girl for not putting it out.

Do you think a guy like this can commit or fall in love?

[Changiis07]

Eventually yes and he can change for the right one but I've had guys like these and some don't change at all. So it's best to stay away from anyone like that. Brings nothing but stress and heartaches. They just want sex and don't care about the person enough to make it official since he got what he wanted which was sex

[Asker]

If I don't give him sex then? And he's still around?

[Changiis07]

Men like a chase so he will just have to work a bit harder for you. He is more than likely getting sex elsewhere. Plus if you do get intimate now but in the future you will have to be careful not to get any STD's or anything else. I would say don't waste your time with this one but also do what you think is best. Sometimes people give advice but up to you if you rather see how it goes

[Asker]

If he's still around even after 9 months of this, can he still commit?

[Changiis07]

That's tough to say. I think they can change but 9 months? Is he truly chasing you though? Does he talk to you everyday? Want to hang out with you.. do you feel safe and secure when he is around? or do you question where you stand with him.. it's oone thing if he is still around like he'll reach out one day and goes days without reaching out, weeks etc but does he make effort to see you...

[Asker]

Kind of but he has so much ego that he can't initiate anything on his own but we do talk a lot in person. Not via texts because I don't text him and he doesn't either.
Sometimes when I get annoyed and don't speak to him, or talk only few words, he gets really annoyed and irritated I don't understand why

[Changiis07]

You'll have to see how things go. Let him wine and dine you and let him put effort and don't give him sex. Set boundaries and if he is truly interested he will stick around and will commit. Otherwise move on but always have your guard up and look for red flags

[Asker]

I have set boundaries and he doesn't seem happy but doesn't leave either lol. I mean he has options like I'm 100% sure he's getting sex from other women yet he's still around and each time I see him, he stares, sometimes he stops in his tracks and watches me etc

It I talk less, he gets super annoyed. I dont get it?

[Changiis07]

That's good! That means you aren't like other women who fall for him so fast. You respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone who falls short of your standards so I'm sure he senses that. He prob senses that if he leaves you will be okay and that frustrates him and probably wants to get more out of you then what he is used to getting

[Asker]

Get more out of me in the sense? Like relationship or just sex?
Yeah it seems like a lot of women fall for his charms and he has many girls as friends and giving him attention etc

[Changiis07]

Sex but again maybe someone will make him commit

[Asker]

Do you think he can commit to me?

Yesterday I didn't talk much with him and he was soo annoyed

[Changiis07]

It's hard to say, I feel like men like this don't change. They are players again we don't know for sure but you will have to find out for yourself if he is worth you sticking around

[spartan55]

@asker
How do you know he was 'annoyed' since you didn't talk to him? Oh yeah, you didn't.

[JamesDiaz11]

A guy at this stage of his life is not going to commit to a girl; he's having too much fun having sex with various girls (I've been in this stage myself). This is what many high-value guys have to go through, since their looks, job/ money, popularity, etc. gets them a lot of female attention, and until they start getting sideway looks from family/ friends from keeping up this behavior and/ or stops getting the attention he's used to, he's not going to stop.

[Asker]

OK so why can't he leave me alone then?

[JamesDiaz11]

Because he sees you as a possibility to sleep with, most likely.

[Asker]

It's been 10 months.

[JamesDiaz11]

So, I'm taking stabs in the dark, based on limited information, and you're just saying random facts and acting like I'm clueless for not knowing them...

[MrOracle]

[LazerBean]

I mean it's possible eventually, but any woman who would expect him to change is a fool.

[20yearsolder]

Maybe someday but why waste your time on a player. You will always wonder whether he's cheating on you with somebody else.

[spartan55]

You get the same advice OVER AND OVER... yet here you are... every day.

[Shamalien]

Why on earth are you even thinking about this guy? Why do you want him?