Is this Turkish neighbor guy interested in me?

[Anonymous]

So i am a foreign who is living in istanbul turkey.. and there is this very handsome athletic guy who is living in my same building i meet with him regularly at the elevator or local shops esp at the weekends when it happens to be our times similar i guess..

I consider myself beautiful yes but a little chubby i am in the process of loosing weight… anyhow

From our first meeting i could swear that i got this unnamed connection with staring and I couldn’t even understand it …

first time ever we met at the cashier of a shop it was a 3 sec kind of thing look and then he went out to get back to the building and there was a woman waiting for him I couldn’t tell who she was …

secound time it was when he stopped the elevator i was in to get on it... i just said (good day) before i leave the elevator and he responded and that was it..

third time i meet him in the entrance of the bulding leaving with an old woman who I assumed was his mom

he then stared at me twice without saying hey or anything.. i also didn’t..

fourth time again stopped the elevator while i was in it start with nodding his head said (merhaba) means hello

I responded… when i was getting out of it he approached me by saying goodbye I responded again …

fifth time again seeing him with people around him.. he just kept looking without saying hey or nodding 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

and the last time he was coming out of elevator with a woman I believe it was the same person i saw with him the first time … as the elevators door opens he saw me and he just frozen i swear without any reaction and kept stareing at me for more then 10 sec i think and then he finally moved and get out so i could came in !!

now what is that kind of behavior means? And why can’t he say hello when he is with other people? Why is he saying hello only when we meet alone?
can you please help me?

[SueShe]

Looks like this man is in a relation and he is probably too worried that speaking to you while in company of others may been seen inappropriately.

He is Turkish and the likelihood for him to be Muslim is great. This may cause a bit of a concern for him if he is caught talking with single women while accompanied by other women.

He must probably be wondering why a woman is always single, mainly if your age is really between 30 and 35. In Muslim countries, most women are married at that age and don't really go out alone once married.

I personally don't think he is really interested in you specifically but more in your status.

[Asker]

You have a point of some of your words but you are way wrong in some others 😂
If you have ever been to istanbul you would understand that most girls or woman from all ages are used of staying alone or being alone all the time.. and you would know that guys in the youth ages up till 40s are not so much into their religion (unfortunately) for example this guy has a lot of tattos all over his body and that is for example in forbidden in Islam …

Anyway i am with you on the possibility of him having a relationship and affraid to have any kind of talking with his female neighbors in front of others … but still his way of stareing and eye contact has no explanation for me 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

As a person who is Turkish myself I doubt he likes you, he is probably interested and you’ll only know if you make a move but basically we’re just nice and polite so what he did is what any other decent person would do, you know. There’s a probability he likes you but from what you wrote he’s just being a nice person.


Teşekkürler

[Userben]

where are you from

[Opinion Owner]

Izmit. Wbu

[Userben]

Bursa

[Userben]

Yakın sayılır

[Asker]

Thanks … but why would he stay forzen looking at me in the last time without any reaction? 😂😂 i was trying to get an explaination ever since … because i was sure I didn’t do anything creepy to make him just standing there looking at me !! 🤷🏻‍♀️

And i am lebenese 😍

[Vikkrram]

Maybe it's coz you like him coz you said that you got an unamed connection in your first meeting so that's why maybe you are overthinhking all this.

Or maybe you both like each other but you can't tell to each other. It's like eyes do the talking

[Asker]

Yeah I don’t deny that i liked him in a way but the unnamed connection was because of how long we stared at each other… usually when you meet a stranger you just glance at them and that would be it.. any how yes he might not be interested in me at all but the way he stopped freezing in the elevator at the last time he saw me definitely was not overthinking by me cuz it was so obvious 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Vikkrram]

Yeah I can understand your point... And staring part of yours is totally valid here.

[Guy13]

Cultural and societal pressures. Where are you from? How long in Istanbul? Why don't you ask your friends there?

[Asker]

Am sorry but what all of this has to do with my question? 😂😂 most of the people here (if not all) has friends but they still ask here to have other opinions 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Guy13]

alright. sorry/later.

[Iron_Man]

Are you interested in this man

[Asker]

I like his appearance sure … and also i am very curious about why he is acting this way when it comes to stares at me without any obvious reason 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Iron_Man]

Make yourself available talk to him invite him out to a Turkish dinner

[In_Trance]

I doubt it