Flaky friends with benefits help?

[Anonymous]

My friend with benefits (27M), we hang out for sex every like 1-2 month/s, and many times when he mostly text me to arrange our meeting, he cancels it literally like last minute. We've been sexting and such, 4 days ago he asked me if i wanted to hang out later at night and i accepted. As we talked and such, 20 minutes later he said he is feeling tired and cancelled. This has happened many times before and i cannot understand what's going on. It's not that i dont understand that he may be tired, but literally that guy asks me to hang out if i want, and then cancels plans because he is tired. I cannot understand what's going on. He is flaky. He apologized and said he doesn't do it on purpose but its silly throughout the day to arrange for a f and then cancel it after like 10-20 minutes. Is he playing with me or something? I know for sure he is a person who cannot be on time. I want your opinions!

[Summeroflove]

You are a friends with benefits. Maybe if you wanted to do something real and you both stopped whoring around you would be happy

[Asker]

Yeah like for real, dude. My question was not posted to get the truth shoven on my face. But to explain the psychology behind that behaviour of his. I enjoy being friends with benefits with him and he does enjoy it with me. Its not something real or unreal. I'm obviously not happy by his behaviour but still

[Summeroflove]

Then why did you ask the question? If you don't want the truth then don't ask.

[Summeroflove]

Maybe the same reason you play these games...

[Summeroflove]

I am not a psychic I don't know what goes on in people's heads. These kinds of questions are more then frustrating. Don't ask a question you don't want the answer to

[Guy13]

You sound attached and dependent upon him and he does not.🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

He is my first, to be honest. I am kind of attached, but the issue is his attitude and i can't understand..

[Anonymous]

You want more than he is prepared to deliver. Find someone else.

[In_Trance]

Why do you keep saying yes?

[Asker]

maybe because i want to have sex and i like it? lol, he is the one who asks and asked me

[In_Trance]

Clearly it's not happening with him... move on

[Asker]

I've been told so, but could you explain to me that kind of behaviour of his? It is either playing with me or having mental problems or indesiciveness?"

[In_Trance]

What's the difference?
Either way, you're not getting Vitamin D.

Move on

[Asker]

Hahaha, thanks xD