Why do I feel guilty even though she dumped me?

[Anonymous]

A guy I was seeing for two months ended things with me around 2 weeks ago because he said he fears commitment and is too career focused right now (his words not mine) and that he does not see it working out for the both of us in the long run. I respected his decision even though I was madly in love with him. Now, two weeks later, after days of heart ache and crying one of my guy friends and I have been getting closer. Today we were playing around and almost kissed like 5 fiend but each time I backed out because my heart is still with the old guy and I feel so guilty each time this new guy and I even touch. I don’t see this new guy anymore than a friend but I don’t even know why I can’t bring myself to kiss him. Any advice?

[Sparkie460]

You have to stop thinking about the old guy. It will never happen between the two of you. I think your heart will heal and you will grow to love the new guy more over time.

[Asker]

I see. May I ask why it will never happen between me and the old guy? like I just wanna see the thought process. And nah, new guy is a player type. We are just friends and he shows me all
the girls he talking to on bumble and tinder but there is a bit of physical attraction.

[Sparkie460]

You said the old guy didn't want a relationship. If he doesn't want a commitment then why even think about dating him. Aren't you looking for someone to be your soul mate?

I didn't know the new guy was a player. You don't want that type of guy

[Asker]

yes true what you said about the old guy. i just can’t forget him i love him a lot

yes the new guy is nice but he is young and has made it clear he can never be loyal. if anything were to happen it would just be kissing.

[Sparkie460]

Is the old guy your first love

[Asker]

I have a had relationships before but I never felt more connected and in love with a guy the way I did with the old guy.

[Sparkie460]

So he's your first real true love. You will never forget about him.

You need to find someone who is compatible with you in every way. You are still young yet. You have plenty of time to find Mr. Right. I'm sure there will be a few Mr Right nows.

[Asker]

I don’t know if he’s my first real
true love. I will have to wait and see if I still love him in 6 months.

yeah been meeting too many mr right nows who pretend to me mr right and it’s so easy to fall for it

[Sparkie460]

You have to keep your guard up a little longer. I know dating can be rough. I'm so glad I'm done dating

[Asker]

why are you done

[Sparkie460]

I'm married.

[Asker]

oh congrats. i can’t wait to be married

[Sparkie460]

Don't rush into it. Enjoy your single life now