Assuming the girlfriend exists, his behaviour is strange. I have only male friends and the ones who got a girlfriend just meet me together with the girlfriend, or without, but the girlfriends know the guy is here and why, or that he had a call with me etc. I would stay away from a situation that is kept secret from their partner, I wouldn't want to contribute in such stuff.
The problem here is that he is doing something he knows the girlfriend doesn't approve, that's not exactly cheating but almost, because anyway the trust is broken (why else needing to hide it?).Maybe she is exaggerately jealous already without any input and accuses him of things that didn't even happen because she is paranoid regardless, maybe she is specifically jealous of you because others hinted that he likes you.
But even so, he should respect the agreements with his girlfriend. If he, for example, told her he is not going to meet any girl, or if he knows she is going to be mad, then he shouldn't do that secretly either. Rather, if he really wants, he should work it out with his girlfriend until she feels okay with that and lowers her worries, because that's also the healthy path to take instead of getting along with the restrictive demands of her problems.If none of these are the cases, maybe he is actually into you and in his mind he means you as a potential partner, so he treats you like a secret lover automatically because in his mind you are not just a friend, so he "feels" like it's wrong. And again, even so, he shouldn't do anything "secret".
I would honestly tell him that this secret thing you have is shady and weird and that before meeting and calling again you want to make sure his girlfriend meets you and is aware of what he does, who is talking with etc, as you don't want to contribute (consciously) in something that breaks their trust (I wouldn't and I'd advise against that even for yourself, it's easy to get included into some argument in that position, if she discovers all this).
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Are you sure heβs got a girlfriend? Do him and his girlfriend hang out with his other friends?
He figures when his girlfriend isn't around, he will use you as a back-up.
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I wouldn't trust him. Stay away from him as much as possible
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