As in past 30 is non-applicable for things like marriage/dating etc.
There are guys who care and there are guys who don't. Plenty of women find love after 30. My brother recently got married and both him and his wife are 30 years old, I know about when who got married after the age of 30 despite coming from a part of the world where it is common for women to get married early and past the age of 25 if you aren't married yet you face a lot of pressure. So if women are getting married at 30 in my culture, then you certainly can find a man too.
There are certainly men out there who care, but there are also plenty who don't, and some who even prefer older women! Don't worry about the ones who are hyperfixated about age, from my personal observation they are either or any of the combinations of misogynistic, ignorant or creepy/pedophilic (for lack of a better term, but they want younger women because they are easier to manipulate and subdue). So I'd really suggest anyone to stay away from those who care about age that much anyway.
The primary reason behind a lot of people caring about age is fertility. While it is true that fertility declines with age, it is absolutely not to the level of baby panic that a lot of people spread. I highly recommend that you educate yourself on fertility, maybe even speak to your gynecologist or a fertility specialist on what options you have if having children is one of your life goals and you want to plan ahead. There are fertility apps online and you may even find some social media groups that I'm sure would welcome you even if you join them just to learn about fertility and not trying to conceive at this moment. There is a fertility doctor who educates online through her account, her handle is roohijeelanimd. You can also watch this video.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/8nlJXXFfw0oIt's important to be educated on fertility anyway, but also you will feel empowered with your knowledge, you will make informed decisions for yourself therefore no one out there can manipulate you or neg you to feel bad about yourself so that you eventually start settling for dusty crusty men because you feel like you're 'running out of time'. Knowledge is power and we're NOT letting anyone take our power over our lives away from us. ❤️
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Obviously younger people are more attractive.
take a look at men: would you date a balding, fat, sagging, wrinkling 50 yr old man or a young tall, handsome , in shape 35 yr old man?
obviously you would take the 35 yr old over the 50 yr old.
same for men. Young people will always have more options
Men and women care about different things when looking for a partner, and those things are driven by our biology, our genetic makeup, which is a result of millions of years of evolution. Our natural instincts as men and women are no different from the instincts of our ancestors from a thousand years ago and beyond.
Women today are still attracted to men with the same traits that women of the past were attracted to... men who are intelligent, tall, strong, fit, confident, assertive, protective... the things that make a man a good mate and father. Women who mated with those kinds of men were more likely to pass on their genes because their children were more likely to live long enough to pass on heir own genes.
Likewise, today's men are also attracted to the same traits in women that their male ancestors were... women who are attractive, healthy and young, because they are more likely to be fertile and conceive and bear strong and healthy children. Men are attracted to women with traits that will make them good, loving and nurturing mothers, because their children will be more likely to survive childhood and grow up to be healthy, strong, well adjusted adults, who will in turn be more likely to pass on the genes of their father.
That's how evolution works, and we are all products of evolution.
All that to say that yes, men really care about age, or rather the qualities that are most prevalent in women in their prime, which is to say age 30 and younger. But the qualities women care about in men tend to increase with age well beyond age 30, whereas the qualities men care about in women begin declining from age 20 onward.
It may seem unfair, but it's actually not when you look at the big picture. In the dating world men have very little power when they are younger. Women have all that power when younger, but men have it when they are a little older. The key for both is to use your power when you have it to make smart life choices with an eye on your future, and not just your youth
I think we care less as we age and grasp a better understanding of how a relationship works I think there’s a lot of cases where the age gap is too big and people can’t really connect properly due to maturity or even different mindsets however this varies from couple to couple as maturity doesn’t correlate as closely as you’d think to age, I was dating a 19 year old at 23. Wasn’t comfortable at first due to the age gap however she proved to be more mature than my ex who was only a month younger than me as unfortunately she’d had to grow up fast like I did in the past and in doing such didn’t play the mental games other girls do at her age/ mine. I understand this isn’t the best example as the gap isn’t massive but it’s the biggest gap in age I’ve experienced yet personally and it’s opened my narrow mind up to the range increasing from a 2 min/max age gap to about 2 to 3 at a push lower than my age to 5 to possibly 7 max more than my age. But that’s just my ever evolving preference as I said at the beginning though it seems to grow with time and in experience within reason of course.
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Not particularly. Guys don't care much about that kind of thing.
Yes, age matters! Anyone who says otherwise is lying to spare your feelings.
It's not that being a certain age means you can't find a relationship partner, it means that you have fewer options, and generally less desirable ones.
To use money as a metaphor, at age 22, a girl could afford to buy nearly any home with her relationship "value" - anything from a one-bedroom condo to a 10 room mansion is a possibility. At 30, she doesn't have to be homeless, but the mansions and even the bigger custom homes are no longer within her budget - her best options will be a 30-year old tract home - and that could still be very nice. At 40, her options are now limited to houses 40 years or older, no more than 3 bedrooms, and no more than 1500 square feet. That could still be a nice home, but it's not going to be remarkable to anyone.
The point being, a woman who establishes a serious relationship/marriage with a serious, quality partner when she is young will, on average, do far better for herself than a woman who waits - and the longer she waits, the fewer choices are available to her - with the options eliminated nearly all coming off the top end of the scale - meaning the most desirable men are eliminated first, and then the guys who were 8s and 9s, then the 7s, then the 6s, and so on.
Again, this doesn't mean that NO partner is available to her, just that her options decrease and descend in desirability the longer she waits.Yea, they do.
Men want to have a woman when she's in her prime/ peak, because they know they're getting her at the best. She didn't wait until her looks were fading, and her energy for life had mellowed before she got involved with you.
Think about it: a girl who is over 30 (assuming she's not a virgin, bc that's rare) has let guys have her, mostly without commitment, and use her when she was at the peak of youth. Before the sagginess kicks in, the lines start to form, and the tightness starts to loosen (on many things) she gave that experience to all those other man, and after they've had her, when the flower of her youth is faded you'll get her. Men are right to feel cheated if a woman doesn't get with them until that point.
At the same time, when a man has had her at her best, even when her looks start to fade he can accept her and cherish her because she chose him when she was at her peak.
Any guy th hat wants someone for long term and to create a family with will care about her age when starting a NEW relationship. For example, I want to raise a family together when I find the right woman. Past 30 equals no interest from me for a NEW relationship. If she is in her 20s when we meet and we have kids together, we'd still stay together when she is in her 30s, 40s, etc. It is just biologically, it is a very bad idea to start a new relationship with a woman if you want kids. I have turned down a few women for that exact reason.
Obey the laws in the land you're in or the laws you're under. I've seen it though... I'd get called a sicko for going into a room with someone under 18 only to walk out to find every single dude there went into rooms with girls under 13... You fuckers are the real animals... Jesus, but I get called the sicko pervert. At least I kept it above 16 most of the time.
I think human nature is if there is grass on the field... play ball. The ones that act all vocal and outraged are the first to do worst than that. Seen it with my own eyes.
Obviously yes.
I'm not going to consider anyone over 36 for anything but a friends with benefits situation until I'm no longer interested in additional kids.
Ideally I like to date 18-26. Youth and fertility are important elements to a woman's value.
The funny thing is that men are at their peak value from 35-45 when they've solidified their careers and realized their potential in society. Women in that same age range are on the decline.
Sorry if you don't like it, those are just the facts of life.Some men care about age only because they think that the older a woman is the less likely she is to be a virgin, and a certain group of men cannot tolerate the idea that someone they are with or married to might have had sex with someone else before them. Such men also believe that body counts are predictive of future infidelity and that the older a woman is the more likely she is to have a high body count.
I think both of these beliefs are basically horse shit. There are 13-year-old girls with high body counts, and 30-year-old women with zero body counts.It's very important. 30+ is a joke. No man except desperate ones would commit to one.
You're update misses the point. If women can look good to say 50. If I get with a 20 yo I get 30 years of attraction. If I marry a 35 yo I get 15 years of attraction. On top of that if I'm significantly older then a much younger woman will always be a catch. Say I'm 95 and the girl wad 20 years younger she's 75 and she's still a catch to a 95 yo.
Just everything is better about getting with a young woman. Idc about her age if she gets older. I just wouldn't get with a girl no matter my age unless she's about 22 or younger. 23? 20. 30? 20. 38? 20. 45? 20. 60? 20. I don't think my age matters.
Yes, age matters. More accurately, attractiveness matters, and there is a very strong inverse correlation between women's age and their attractiveness.
MrOracle summed it up very well in his response. I will just add this... women hold all the power in the dating game during their teens and 20s, but after about age 30, the tables turn and it is men who hold most of the power.
Nature intended that women use the power they have during their 20s to find a good man who will be their life partner, but most of today's women squander that powerful period in their lives, waiting until they are older and no longer hold the power they once had. This article describes it quite well.
https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html
lol these shallow pieces of shit in the comments xD
Guys don't really care tbh but if you yourself are insecure or if its someone like the guys in the comments than yeah it matters.I could get younger guys or older it really doesn't matter but don't look online for relations or you will run into these mediocre shallow clowns
Christmas Cake? an young girl have better looks, higher fertile, and less baggage.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Christmas%20Cake
This depends on the guy. You have to remember different men have different standards and preferences. The same as women.
Some men don’t care or are even into women younger or older then themselves. While others don’t.
Being over 30 doesn’t rule out all men. You’re also still if child bearing years as well. I’m sure you’ll find someone. If someone isn’t interested it’s not meant to be. Move on.
Best to youWe care more than most women realize, but also not all that much. We are visual creatures, so we appreciate youthful looking women. A lot of women don't take care of themselves, so past thirty it's starts to show if they've spent most of their twenties smoking and drinking. I think it only matters for those women, but certainly not for all. The key is to take care of yourself, that way past thirty your age deosnt matter.
There are some specimens who do care, they focus only on a woman's peak because they want her as a trophy I guess lmao. Young and/or inexperienced guys also care about age significantly.
I don't know how to feel about it. I'm 23 and I look better than ever before, I overal feel better. If getting older is a bad thing for a woman, then gimme that age lol
People of all genders can be that ageist. I don’t care much; age is a number, love is love. Is 30 in the past too old or too young for dating/marriage? Should I have already gotten married? I’m sort of single, but Noura from overseas said that We’ll marry in Paradise.
Some guys do. I've seen guys who only date women in their 20s or much younger than them (ahem Leo dicaprio.) I've also seen guys who prefer more mature women. I've also seen guys who don't particularly care. It's on a case-by-case basis.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer for all guys... It depends on the guy...
To tell the truth If a want to make a serious relationship for the rest of my life I would choose a woman younger than me or at most 3-5 years older than me... But, I know cases that a man have fallen in love with a woman 15 years his junior or 10 years his senior.
Well, it varies... Some guys are cool with any age.. and some guys are only interested in younger / older girls... but the majority prefer younger and still go after them even when they get older themselves yes...
Yes it absolutely does. Age doesn’t matter if we’re just hitting and quitting it but generally we want a wife in her mid 20s because that’s her prime. It’s harder to conceive as an older woman and that’s something we take into account. Younger women are more fertile.
I got married when she was over 40. I know so many people married when over 30 it isn't funny. your generation maybe different.
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