So there's this guy. He keeps flirting with me and if I ask him why he does that, he just would tell me to chill like the other girl friends that we have. There are times when I try to flirt back (but I really suck at it but I think it's working) and he would flirt to me the same way too. He's really making me confused if he likes me or just messing up with me. But I think he's just messing up with me and I'm falling for his shit. I know. It's stupid. But slowly and surely I am falling deeper. But I don't want to. Because I feel like he's the type who would only hurt me. I feel like he's a cheater and sexual abuser. That's why I don't want him but I'm still falling. Fucking heart. So hard headed. Won't listen to my head.
So... Can anybody give me some advice? by the way, he's my partner in our job and I can't change my partner. We have to work together everyday and I can't afford to change my current job either.
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You're a lover of Drama so nothing will change until you get his fill of his. YOu can whine, be happy, sad, and distraught in depression but if there is drama then life is eventful and manageable. On e stop falling when one decides too and consciously removes those thoughts and feelings the minute they present themselves. BLOCK would be helpful too.
Really? A lover of drama? Can you point it out sir?
Pretty much your whole post.
@spartan55 really? Well, you're an ass who tries to defend your type of person. Sad.
Lol... defend my type... uh no? Didn't defend him at all. Maybe you need to reread my responses. If you need help figuring out what they mean I might help you.
@spartan55 No thanks. I don't think I'll need yours. :) I don't even see your help in your responses. All I can see is you criticizing me before even knowing whu I said this and that. But thanks for trying.
Again, learn how to read. It's in there. Just because you don't want to hear it doesn't mean it's irrelevant.
I would keep your feeling that he is a sex abuser to yourself.
To discourage myself?
No, to not make a very serious allegation over your 'feeling'.
It's not a feeling. It's backed by his actions.
How so?
Like touching someone's bump without permission and even denying that fact, touching a girl's boobs without consent, etc. In short, he's very touchy not just to one but to many girls and he gets away with it because people don't really want to make trouble. He's already warned but he still does his shit. And those girls aren't even wearing anything revealing. See? He's sexually harassing girls. What about that?
So why are you even considering it?
Considering what?
Being even associated with him?
Did you read my post? Maybe you should re read it.
Yeah, I read it, you said he is a sex abuser "but I love him"... blah blah. I gave you the best solution, but you don't want to hear it. I didn't miss anything.
Sit there and say you can't control your feelings. Bullshit, attraction is a conscious choice. You wanna get cheated on? Go for it.
Well, apart from you saying "why consider associating with him" I see nothing. Why don't you just state it? I'm not a mind reader. Lol
I wasn't asking you to read my mind. I didn't think I needed to elaborate further when I said why even associate with him. You know who he is, and it's not good.
I wish i could tell you how to shed those feelings. There is a girl who I can't seen to shake my feelings for despite what my more sensible side of my brain says.