I've noticed this guy I've been talking to was growing distant. At first I thought it was due to work stress but he texted me this morning giving me a heads up that he's having a really rough week with stress for an interview, passing of a family friend, and his dog had a minor stroke.
I'm not quite sure what to say exactly or what to do because when I do offer support, I feel like he's not accepting it.
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I gave him the space he asked for and he did end up texting me later on in the day to let me know he's passed his interview and is moving onto the next round of interviews (so he shared some good news) and was telling me he was still having a rough week. We talked here & there but I can still tell he wasn't in a good mood and not as talkative
I don't really know what to do next other than giving him his space? I kind of just wish he'd get over being grumpy because it doesn't feel great
I gave him the space he asked for and he did end up texting me later on in the day to let me know he's passed his interview and is moving onto the next round of interviews (so he shared some good news) and was telling me he was still having a rough week. We talked here & there but I can still tell he wasn't in a good mood and not as talkative
I don't really know what to do next other than giving him his space? I kind of just wish he'd get over being grumpy because it doesn't feel great
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Aside from what the other user suggested, have you asked him directly if there's anything you can do to help?
Sometimes men have trouble expressing mental or emotional issues. If you can privately reach out to him with no shame or obligation, he might be more receptive to letting his walls down and confiding in you.
I did offer my support and to keep him company if he wants it after he gave me a heads up and I haven't heard back since.
I feel like I'm overthinking it and feel like he's just leading up to ghosting me. I did however, in the beginning bring up that "something was off" and he responded with "what do you mean" - this was all before he told me what else was going on his life.
I think you've done all you can do to help, and after reading the other replies, I think you may be overreacting to your thoughts that he's ghosting you.
If you didn't matter to him, he wouldn't have bothered giving you the heads up or any further details on what's going on. He's invested information into you that he didn't have to; that's intentional. I'm confident he will come back in a day or two, if only to let you know things are better. You seem like you care a lot, and I hope he grows to appreciate you.
Thank you for your advice.
I guess there's not much to do but let him the space.
Man... he's had a really tough week!
Sometimes, guys need to face things themselves, just let him know you are there for him. I am sure he will appreciate that alone.
He gave me a heads up saying if he seems even more distant then now I know why.
I'm not quite sure how to support him or what to say since before I knew about everything else, I have been offering my support for his interview but he wasn't really accepting it.
After his text this morning, I did respond with "I'm really sorry. I appreciate you telling me what's going on. Let me know if there is anything I can do to support you or if you want some company" and I haven't had a response since.
Sometimes, that is all you can do.
I'm just not sure how often guys actually go come back after pulling back due to stress.
But I appreciate yours and everyone else's answer on here.
I guess I could take it as a good sign that him telling me what's going on and the heads up if he appears even more distant? Despite how he's feeling.
If he’s not accepting of your support then maybe being comforted isn’t his coping mechanism. So just tell him if he needs anything you’re there, and let things play out.