My crush graduated last year. Things happened but the sum of it is this: Met a guy at a play, he was super sweet/sensitive, we talked for a month, he stopped texting me first for a bit, we talked again, he was going to ask me out, a friend of his told me a bunch of bad things about him before he could, he stopped texting first again, if I text him, he will hold the conversation for a few days.
Recent event: My crush (G) came to a campus play this weekend with two of his friends (C and R). I was positioned in the front where I could easily be seen. I know he knew I was there, because I had posted about being part of the crew a few times on my story (and before you ask, yes, he saw my stories). At first, G walked with his back turned towards me. But as soon as he and his friends sat down, they all started staring at me.
When intermission came, C and R got up from their seats, but G stayed behind for a bit. I started walking back to my area, he started to get up and walk the same way. Before I could turn and look at him an audience member called me over to ask me a question. By the time I finished with them, he had already walked out and gathered with his friends. When intermission was over he and his friends were the last ones back in the theater. He was about to pass me when I decided to call out his name and wave. He paused to look at me. His mouth went from smile, to no smile, smile, no smile, smile, no smile. He quickly said hi back, then went to sit down.
When the show was over he and his friends stood up and stood in a circle. G took a deep breath and C and R walked away from him. C and R looked at me and when I made eye contact, they both looked away from me. G finally started waling towards me. He stared at me intensely. He put out his hand for a fist bump and held it for a few seconds. The fist bumped lingered before he started laughing and smiling. As he was waling out, he was still smiling and looked back at me three times before finally going outside.
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Good lord soooo much unnecessary detail here. So I don't understand the part where he was 'going to ask you out'?
Yeah, sorry about that! I can’t wrap my head around anything right now. Yeah, he said after spring break he wanted to take me on an official date. The next day one of his female friends cornered me and started telling all this crap about him. Ever since then, he hasn’t reached out first and he never asked me out.
But why would that stop him? Was he aware that his friend talked shit about him? Did it change your opinion of him?
Let’s just say what she told me would make anyone change their mind about him (too much info here). But I wanted to ask him about everything she told me, but not over text. Unfortunately, he never wanted to get together after this happened. I was never sure if it was because everything she said was true or if he was just too embarrassed or even if she told him things about me.
I guess what I am trying to figure out is this: He hasn't seen me in person in almost a year, doesn't initiate calls or texts (but will talk to me for a week when I reach out to him). As soon as he see's me in person, he gets nervous. Why do I make him nervous? I don't think he likes me?
I doubt he's nervous, probably uncomfortable. He thinks you are going to 'ask him about' whatever you are talking about. Which is code for he thinks he will get bitched at. Why would you believe second hand information. How he know she talked to you?
He had a chance to ignore me, but instead he stopped to give me a fist bump. I didn’t say I believed her, but I never got the chance to ask him about it in person.
He probably knew you'd spotted him and didn't want to be rude. A fist bump though? What a moron.
Haha. Why does that make him a moron? XD
That should be between guys only.
And like I said, he had a chance to avoid me. He could have gone out the other way, but he didn't.
And like I said he was trying not to be rude. You are worrying about stuff that doesn't matter here.
How does he know that his friend poisoned your thoughts about him?
Oh I see.
1) I have gotten fist bumps from guys before. In fact, the guy that I am talking about used fist bumping as a way of flirting when we first met.
2) I am not sure if he knows she said anything to me. It was just weird that after she talked to me, he suddenly stopped initiating conversations.
3) And if he was uncomfortable, why not just go the other way and avoid me all together? He was closer to the other exit, not the one I was standing at. It would have made sense.
For the third time HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE RUDE... geez...
You gotten uglier or prettier. There’s a difference between horrified and nervously interested.
I haven't changed :/ He always said I was pretty