He hearts my private stories on insta of me taking hot pics at the gym a lot. We have lots of mutuals, lives 2 hours from me. He likes me right? Why hasn't he messaged me? I hearted his private story too.
:( i dm’d him awhile back congratulating him on something and he messaged back with thanks and a nice message. I didn't know what to say so just hearted. I dint want to make the first move already did with congrats months ago.
you're not over thinking it. If anything you're underthinking it.
Your problem is that its a surprise he hasn't rang your doorbell to fuck you already but obviously you haven't given him your address or a reason for him to connect with you on a psychological level and 2 hours is a long way.
In fact 30mins is known to be to long for someone.
The problem is that you're unavailable even if you gave the location of where you're at anyone time & judging by what youve said, have taken no time to consider his cercumstances.
Fact of the matter is that you want him to connect with you and you dont want to connect with him to show him you're interested for him to pursue you.
here's an idea, find out about his interests and start a dialog of questions in your instagram pics to see if he connects with it and then your problem is still going to be if he even will, which makes it an even bigger problem for even if you're his type but still its not impossible because you could mention you're visiting his town for an event to see who wants to join you in your instagram pics, since obviously you know that his watching you and how often periodically.
Its a mystery how anyone could follow any individual on instagram apart from his story which I can only assume is on instagram. Which makes it odd for any male to participate on instagram because it seems pointless & I dont understand why woman are so desporate to like a picture of a blur to represent a woman over wanting to show they like me for going onto my instagram, that they dont.
But anyway, all you need is one response from him in a comment about 1 event where he lives for you to bother to show up there and take things from there.
Even if you have to take a picture of yourself somewhere for him to find you.
Well I'm afraid you don't really get to count the congrats as making the first move. As it clearly didn't end up being a first move. It definitely sounds like he likes you. And you know exactly why he's not sending you a message. It's the same reason you're not sending him a message. a few months ago doesn't mean you're "double texting". If you want to start talking to this guy. Talk to him.
If you don't. Well... you don't have to wonder what he's thinking. It's the same exact thing you're thinking. This is something you can easily do something about should you choose to. You can open up a conversation any time...
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If you want him to DM, then you need to message him and begin a conversation. A real conversation that requires him to answer.
Or, better yet, say "let's meet in the middle for food or coffee". If your profile age is correct, you are both way too old for this: this is the same question that the middle and high schoolers on this site are asking.
Sounds like he didn't interpret the congrats message as a message of interest from you. I think you've got to be more upfront and make it more obvious than just heart reacts. Just straight up ask him if he wants to meet up for a coffee or lunch or something, that way it's a casual setting. See how you guys click once you meet.
I think he's starstruck. Because he's very attracted to you. You have to find a way to become more familiar with him, so that he feels more comfortable speaking to you.
You say you have mutual friends. Maybe you can have them set up a group outing?
You two need to experience that in-person connection.
Saying congrats on stupid Instagram is considered 'making a move?'... wow... that's some weak shit.
have you messaged him?
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