What does it mean if my guy friend of several years (I’ve only ever interacted with him At work) hugs me super tight?

[Anonymous]

He’s always stared at my booBS LMAO. BUT the thing is many other guy jokes or even says jokes about me and this guy being together in some way. It’s funny cause there was another guy before him at work who was kinda close with me (AT WORK) and people didn’t really joke about him and I being together as much as me and this guy I’m asking this question about.

so anyway this guy runs up to me and hugs me and I noticed his arms are tight around my boobs if he is hugging me from the side and he’s facing me. Or he hugged me from the front so long and hard. He squeezes me. Lol. I feel loved. I’m shy and quiet. So I am surprised anyone would want to hug me.

[spartan55]

Sounds like he would play with those boobs if given the chance. However, he doesn't know if you are interested.

[Urbgkzos]

I don’t fornicate so he would have to marry me. Is he up for that?

[spartan55]

Doubtful.

[Urbgkzos]

I don’t fornicate.

[Guy13]

Tell him to never do that again in writing.

[Asker]

Why lol that’s

[Asker]

He’s my friend.

[In_Trance]

If that's all that happens, it means nothing

[Asker]

What do you mean if that’s all? Why else should happen in order to mean something?

[In_Trance]

You tell me.

If nothing else ever happens, what did this mean in the big picture?

[Asker]

What is ‘nothing else’ though? What do you need to hear me say that he’s done in order to make this mean something in the big picture?

[In_Trance]

patterns. can you put several events together? Is/was this out of character? Are you responding to it? How? If you dismiss it, then what? anything? Nothing?

[Asker]

He’s always happy and excited to see me. He’s always trying to annoy me. He talks to me about other stuff at work. He’s kinda low key hit on me before. I am very shy. How should I respond? I know I’m probably not doing that well enough. It’s not out of character for him to hug me tightly.

[In_Trance]

If you like him then react if you don't then move on.
If you don't react his behavior will change because he will take it as disinterest on your part

[Asker]

Ok thanks. Tbh I’m shy and prefer a man to chase me really hard. So I probably won’t ‘react’ in a very noticeable way to him. I guess it sucks for me. Maybe I’m damaged.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he is physically attracted to you

[Avicenna]

@Antjttb: Why doesn't he already have it?

[Avicenna]

@Antjttb: How long have you known him and where do you see him?

[Avicenna]

@Antjttb: Aha... would you want to date him?

[Avicenna]

@Antjttb: You need to spend time with him outside of work