Did I over react or am I being manipulated? He also said he would be free around 8pm, this is just past 9pm…?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Yes you did and sorry but judging from your texts you sound like a bitch and like you’re trying to misinterpret him. It’s not like you’re trying to communicate either with your short passive agressive replies instead of telling him what you feel.

[Asker]

None taken. That’s why I asked the question. I know I’m an insecure person. I’ve had bad experiences with men that caused trauma. We talked about it and he understands me thankfully.
When I was younger thats how my parents and culture are. Passive.
I didn’t realize I came off like a bitch. So how would I go about this better? Because (to me), if he wanted to see me he wouldn’t say “I love to see you, but…”
I always felt like that was a nice way of not wanting to see someone.

[Anonymous]

overreaction. even if this was to cancel or postpone plans he communicated that. You're going off of what was said a few days ago but on the day he said he was more tired than he though he would be. clear communication. You're reactions seems to show a lack of understanding that things change and even after he said it wasn't a cancellation just transparency that he's tired you still seemed to be bothered and upset even though the plans realistically didn't change.

[Anonymous]

Nope, if you had plans then the expectation is to honor them; or to let you know beforehand.

[spartan55]

Is this your boyfriend? Fuck buddy?

[spartan55]

Why did you mention he messaged after 9 when he said around 8. You need to relax, geez. That type of shit is like bug repellant to guys.

[Asker]

That’s why I asked right. I’m wondering if I’m not seeing something right. Maybe I have high expectations?

[spartan55]

That's why I asked who this guy is. Expectations should be different for different types of relationships.