If been chatting with a guy daily for little over a month. He carries our conversations and asks questions. I’m afraid he just sees me as a friend?

[Anonymous]

We weren’t friends before we started to chat but I don't know..

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[Anonymous]

It’s difficult to determine the exact intentions or motivations of the guy you have been chatting with. However, if he is carrying out conversations with you daily and asking you questions, it could be a sign that he is interested in getting to know you better. It's not uncommon for friendships to develop over time through consistent communication and shared interests. It may be helpful to communicate openly and honestly with him about your feelings and expectations in the relationship. You could try to initiate conversations that are more personal in nature or suggest hanging out outside of your regular conversations to get to know each other better. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide whether or not you are comfortable with the level of communication in the relationship and to make decisions that are in line with your own emotional well-being.

[Anonymous]

Start sexting n give him hint that you want him inside you.

[Asker]

No seriously… i don’t want to look like a h*e

[Opinion Owner]

Then stop this drama be his friend

[Asker]

I don’t want to be just friend. Also why would guy want to chat with a girl daily who he hasn’t met before?

[Opinion Owner]

For wasting time.

[Asker]

Are sure?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes at least i don't waste that much time on chatting even if i like her... be honest with you

[Asker]

He has hinted 3 times us seeing each other in person

[Opinion Owner]

Bsbe what was your reply to his hints?

[Asker]

I went along with them. All of those they were playful hints not concrete plans to meet.

[Opinion Owner]

He is simp...
What you want with him?

[Asker]

I want him to ask me out on a proper date.

[Opinion Owner]

He won't unless you take a move first

[Asker]

So he’s waiting that I ask him out? If I do that I’m afraid that I’m coming off too strong

[Opinion Owner]

If he into you than he already asked you for date in first few days of chatting...

Babe what taking stress?

[Asker]

I don’t think he asked me out. He said ” I used to play basketball too. I’ve wanted to know if I still have the skills. Perhaps one day we should do 1vs1 and see who’ll win”

Where we live is cold currently so it’s not like some activity that we could do now.

[Opinion Owner]

Aww babe move on you're wasting your time. 😘

[Asker]

How am I wasting my time?

[Opinion Owner]

Ohk fine you're not wasting your time.

[spartan55]

Have you expressed interest to him?

[Asker]

Yeah I think

[spartan55]

What do you mean 'you think'?

[Jamie05rhs]

Why do you think he just sees you as a friend?

[Asker]

He has only subtly hinted at seeing each other. He hasn’t asked me out.

[Jamie05rhs]

So? It's only been a month. How fast do you expect him to move? Most girls say that they want a guy to take things slow.

[Asker]

Would guy chat daily with a girl if he wasn’t interested

[Jamie05rhs]

He IS interested! Lol

[Asker]

Why are you so sure?

[Jamie05rhs]

Because he's talking to you every day, silly goose!

Men don't even like to talk! If he's investing his time in having a conversation with you, that means he sees value in you!

[Asker]

Even if we exchange 1-2 texts only daily?

[Jamie05rhs]

And whose fault is that? 🙄 Come on. You said that he is carrying the conversation. If he is the one leading the conversation, then it is you who is slow-rolling HIM. If you like him, you are stabbing yourself in the foot.

[Asker]

What should I do then?

[Jamie05rhs]

Talk to him more. Answer his questions. Respond more quickly. Don't leave him hanging. And don't give 1-word answers.

[Asker]

I haven’t responded quickly because he hasn’t responded quickly eitherlol

[Asker]

I have answered all of his questions and I’ve gave him thoughtful responses. We’re already talking daily I don't know how I could talking to him more. Also I’m not sure what you meant by don’t leave him hanging

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, okay. So you're both doing an ok but not great job of communicating. So there are improvements to be made on both sides.

Let me ask you this: Do you just message him randomly? Or have you guys actually worked out a particular time when you intentionally make yourselves available to chat?

[Asker]

Our chat is on going, we’ve kept the chat going

[Asker]

We reply when it’s best for us so randomly

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay, well, there's your problem. That's why you're not getting anywhere.
For two people to have a successful conversation, they need to be in the moment and fully engaged.
If you're just shooting off single messages randomly, that's never going to materialize into anything meaningful.

[Asker]

What should I do then? We haven’t met yet…

[Jamie05rhs]

Ask him what is a good time for him to chat. And set up a time that works for both of you. And then take an hour or two and have an actual conversation. Back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. You need to allow a space for the conversation to open up and blossom.