He says he isn’t interested in a relationship and is not looking for one but texts me this?

[Anonymous]

We always text (like all day everyday), and when i try to make plans he will says he’s busy and that he’s planning on quitting his current job to look for another one so that will give him to see me “soon”. I told him i understand and that i’m just his friend so i shouldn’t be a priority to him cuz family and work come first and he proceeds to text me this (i attached a screenshot)

[williael]

I don't know, to me it sounds like he's saying you're part of his inner circle, and worth putting at a higher priority than family and work. It means that those things are important to him, but he feels close to you in a way that work and family don't quite cut it. He sounds to me like a patient man who cares about explaining this in a way that you will understand. But you're not understanding it. You seem to be pushing right past the subtleties and questioning all he says. You want him to say it differently, but he IS saying something wonderful: you're inner circle. If you can't see that and keep insisting on him using other phrasing, he will eventually decide you probably can't be pleased, and regretfully go in another direction. I suggest thanking him for considering you "inner circle" and waiting for him to do what he needs to do so that he can and will spend more time with you. Don't force labels on this friendship. He cares enough to be alarmed that his words aren't enough for you. He cares enough to try to correct what you think about him and about your friendship. You are not being relegated to a lesser position. You are a higher priority than you think. He gets to define what you are to him; don't try to make him define the same thing in your more limiting words.

[spartan55]

This is what happens when girls have to 'understand' every. single. thing that passes through their brains... things are not always that deep.
Sounds to me like the dude is trying to play the close card for sex. So you aren't looking for a relationship either?

[FictionalCharacter]

Yeah this is a rejection.

Lots of girls have heard this line before 🙄.

Then once you get annoyed and frustrated with him playing with your mind and heart strings. Of him not treating you like a “close friend”. You’ll question him and confront him and he’ll play the victim and label you as “the crazy one”. Whenever he in fact knows you were crushing on him and he stuck around just to play with your mind.

One of these days he’s going to get slapped.