We’ve been together for almost a year now. Though, every time we go out somewhere (which is hardly because of this), his mood and era changes completely. He’ll always walk ahead of me, never with me. It’s like he’s on a mission to get the whole thing over and done with.
When we sit down to eat or drink, he’ll zone out into space and go into deep thought, sometimes mumbling to himself. I’ll ask what he’s thinking about and he’ll shut me down saying “nothing”. When I try and ask a question to start a conversation, he’ll shut me down again by giving me one word answers or “don’t know”. Sometimes I feel like I’m talking to a brick wall because he won’t engage or listen to me. Mostly it’s just silence the whole time because he doesn’t make the effort to talk to me. My first thoughts is he embarrassed to be seen with me in his town?
But as soon as we’re back home, he’s back to being loveable, showing intimacy and talking with me. I’ll ask him what was wrong earlier and if everything is okay and he’ll brush me off and say “nothing, just got a lot on my mind”. I’m upset he doesn’t like expressing his feelings or thoughts with me.
How do I sit him down and talk to him about this delicately. As it makes me anxious when we do plan to go out. He’s told me briefly because he gets anxious in social situations, but it’s getting worse now.
