If a girl beat a man in a fight why do so many say he was going easy on her?

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I get the physical differences on average but even when it’s a competent female fighter if she beats a man it’s all he was going easy on her crap. Why can’t people just let us have our win? Why do they infantilise us? I honestly upsets me like there’s nothing wrong with losing to a woman. Why is this such a sore point for some people?

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

I’d say many men will say that the man was going easy because of several reasons, but I’ll cover two.

One, in general, men are physically stronger and larger than women. In the case of untrained fighters, a man will typically be able to hit harder than a woman as well as endure a harder beating than a woman, making a man have a higher likelihood of winning a M/F fight.

Two, most men on the internet don’t have real fighting experience and don’t understand the difference that training can make. I’ve personally have trained in martial arts for 8 years and have won multiple school fights against men who were larger than me. I can speak from experience that with the right training, one can hit 3x if not 4x harder than they would be able to had they not trained.

So, I believe that a well trained woman can definitely beat an untrained man in a fight.

I’ve seen security footage of women successfully fighting off untrained men.

Most people on the internet don’t know what they’re talking about when it comes to fighting.

BUT. What if we have a well-trained man vs a well-trained woman? Then, the odds favor the man again because with equally skilled fighters, the determining factor for winning will begin to return to back to physical advantages.

This is one of the reasons why I support women carrying firearms for self-defense, because firearms are the great equalizer and truly is skill-based as compared to hand-to-hand combat where physicality plays quite an important role.

There’s a reason why even in male combat-sports like boxing, wrestling, or MMA, there are weight classes. Otherwise, the heavyweight champions would win every competition (think Mike Tyson at his prime).

mstbooblover · Accepted Answer

A far better question than it seems at first sight because of the psychological aspect. In the example you mention, sure the man tries somehow to save the appearances, but still...

Let's first of all face the plain fact that genders do exist, and as far as I feel and understand the human nature, it seems that normal males are very reluctant to combat females. Somehow this is against nature, which means most excellent male fighters may display during a fraction of a second a little hesitance in front of a female adversary, hesitance that may play in favour of the female...

I know for sure nearly all women know that instinctively. That's why in particular circumstances a female adversary can be far more dangerous than a male one. Mind this has nothing to do with sexism. Ego of course is involved at last, but I guess you get an idea of the underlying reasons.

Yucy_Gluttony · Accepted Answer

I have seen some videos. And they are. They are much stronger than us and they are aware of that so they try to be extra careful and when they go against a woman who goes 100 %, of course they end up beaten by her.
I believe results would be more fair if the guy didn't care about the gender he's up against.

If I promised a guy who crushed on me a date, maybe a 100 bucks on top if he defeats some random girl he hasn't seen before, I will happily do that just to see how things would play out.

Animallover3742 · Accepted Answer

Losing to a woman is humiliating. Even guys who lose from being hit in the balls (Which is horrible for them I'm told) they can't accept defeat.

Guanfei · Answer

Because most of the time, they do, unless there is a big difference in skills. I've seen quite a few videos of women trying to have a sparring match with men, thinking they could take them on, then went completely surprised when they got throw away like potato bags.

Thing is, it's women who can't stand that idea, because we have a big "girl boss" speech pushed on women, telling them they're equal, if not better, than men in every way. And then sometimes reality comes in, in full force, and they don't accept it.

Hence the famous double standard: a girl can hit a man and you'll have people praising her for it, but a man can't retaliate because he's stronger.

jbasch · Answer

I think most men, most of the time, are stronger than most women. That doesn't mean there aren't exceptions, but it does mean that fights will generally be relatively one-sided. So a couple consequences:

1. There is a taboo around men hurting women, so men may feel the need to hold back some of their strength, even if the woman consents to a fight. Even men who act in self-defense will sometimes be blamed.

2. If a woman does genuinely defeat a man in a fight, there is a stigma to this, and the man may be seen as unusually weak, because he lost a fight he "should" have one, which is a cause for ridicule.

LiamJHayden · Answer

One possible reason: There are lots of videos of girls harassing and hitting guys and people laugh, but if he responds even by just pushing her away the White Knights will swarm him. Because of this societal dynamic, guys are taught to hold back when dealing with an aggressive woman. In other words it could very well be true.

Another possible reason: she's trained and he isn't. I'm big, but not huge (6'2 and between 195 and 200). In sparring I have beaten guys who were not fat but who had 50 or more lbs on me. They were physically stronger, but I have been studying BJJ and Uechi-Ryu since my early teens and they were not trained. In the same way a 140 lb female highly-trained in a full contact martial art is going to be able to beat a lot of guys who have 30, 40 lbs on her.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's very likely he did go easy on her. The fact is men are conditioned from the time we are very young to not hurt a female. I'll give you an example. I played football in high school and we had a female kicker on our team. We called her our secret weapon because players from other schools would never go in on her full speed because they were afraid to hurt her.

It's just a fact that if a woman wins a fight against a man, the odds are extremely high that he was not fighting her with the same power and aggression he would have against a man.

Berethor · Answer

Beaten by a girl trope, he was likely holding back, and losing to a woman is sure shameful.

jshm2 · Answer

But, she did have her win?

You seem to want people to "infantilise" the man as well in "compensation". Not sure you even know what you're talking about, tbh.

A win is a win. Doesn't matter if it was a transwoman fighting a woman.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Because the white knight saviors brigade will come out for his blood if a man defends himself from female aggression. It's often quicker and more socially, politically, and financially expedient to take the hits and move on than it is to lose your career and social standing and a lot of money on legal fees. Yet women wonder why men aren't fighters anymore: becausecthey wielded the various powers of government and government's propaganda arms to stop the.. well done, feminists!

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Because women are protected in society. A woman can beat a man and no one bats an eye. A man beats a woman he is ruined for life. You don’t under the magnification of that. When we become truly fair if a woman decides to put they hands on a man and it’s acceptable to beat her, then we can talk about your issues here. But until then, men will always have to fight women with two hands tied behind there back even though the woman started the fight.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Wives tend to do the same thing to their husband's, they treat them like the kids at times. In you question it could be because of different interests, I know my wife knows little about history, and sometimes we seeing things as common sense, and women over think things.

Juxtapose · Answer

This is why: Unless a woman has a weapon, it is embarrassing to lose to her because she started off with such a huge disadvantage and still managed to overcome you.

Paul09 · Answer

If you both have the same training, men will usually come on on top. But if it's a trained woman vs a non trained man. You bet she will destroy him. All depends on the situation. My Muay Thai teacher is petite, like 5feetish , he definitely could kick my ass.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well sexually you can have it! For real if I got my ass beat by a woman.. I would feel like shit mentally and of course physically, but you know people would talk mad shit.. Damn bro you got beat down by a girl! Women would even jump in on that!

Alex8736 · Answer

when i was a kid playing little league I'll never forget being struck out looking by a female and the one lesson i learned was to never underestimate your opponent

TallAnon · Answer

Have you ever fought a man? I've practiced martial arts for many years and even as a young boy I could easily beat women competing on an international level. It simply is no contest.

msc545 · Answer

Because in a fair fight men AALWATS defeat women. We are faster and we have more upper body strrength. Sorry if that bothers you - complain to the manufacturer if you think it will help.

Redstang88 · Answer

Because it’s almost always true. Women tend to underestimate just how much stronger we actually are

Luffy1990 · Answer

Because of the sexiest term that men are stronger then women are (instead of she was better then him at a task)

shades777 · Answer

find a woman fighter that can beat a man fighter pound for pound then she deserves her props. Its so rare that your more likely to win the lottery twice on the same day.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

You're living in a fantasy world. Stop watching Disney movies.

Xtendable · Answer

If she beats me, fair enough. I get into a lot of physical conflicts. Whether it’s male or female I am mindful of their size, skills ability, etc and take that into consideration

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Men are naturally stronger I guess. But there loads women that are trained fighters that would kick my ass.

kevin55 · Answer

I always thought that those videos were fake untill i saw a real woman in the street beating a man to death with her bare hands because he tried to harass her she totally destroyed him

Vegasrunner · Answer

Are you talking about a physical fight or a verbal fight.

PointTaken · Answer

Women are more ruthless when it comes to fighting. That's just a dumb saying. Lol

alearningboy · Answer

Well if I can wrestle with my girlfriend its nice. For me it doesn't matter. But Im a different guy😀

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps the same reason people would not believe a guy claiming he got raped by a girl

Anonymous · Answer

They can't accept the loss

Adaeva · Answer

Because that is what all men do.

SawerBrown · Answer

I surrender you win stormy

David4358 · Answer

because of the difference in men vs women

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