Why is he being so mean?

[Cass510]

My boyfriend of four years we been together for awhile and we have some bumps in the road a lot with my insecurities and him saying I don’t support him working on weekends for extra cash. We just got into an argument about me not being supportive of him working. So this weekend I came over spent time at his families and we had a nice time with laughter and love. I will say I do need a lot of reassurance and attention which frustrates him since we talk everyday on the phone. Today though we woke up and he woke me up with a big kiss and we watched a show and he was on his phone like a lot of time he’s been researching motorcycles so he was on his phone watching videos and doing that most of the day. I said hey get off your phone and give me some love and he was like “ we spent all day together, I’m just relaxing” I was like seriously I’m right here and I would mess with him and he would laugh and joke with me back. So we were fine, I went home and wanted to see how long he would before calling me and I waited 3 hours and nothing so I called him and he was like “ hey babe blah blah “ I said you didn’t even wonder where I was? He said “ I knew you were home” I said okay but you didn’t wonder why I didn’t call? He said “ well we spent all day together so I didn’t trip” I got upset and he was upset for me being upset am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say exactly why your boyfriend is being mean in this situation without more information. However, it sounds like there may be some underlying issues in your relationship that need to be addressed.

It's understandable that you need reassurance and attention, but it's also important to respect your boyfriend's need for space and time to relax. It's possible that he may be feeling overwhelmed and frustrated with your need for constant attention, which could be causing him to act out in a mean or dismissive way.

That being said, it's not okay for him to be mean or dismissive towards you. It's important to communicate your feelings and needs in a respectful way, and to listen to his perspective as well. It's possible that there may be some miscommunication or misunderstanding that needs to be resolved.

In terms of whether you're overreacting, it's important to trust your own feelings and instincts. If you feel upset or hurt by your boyfriend's behavior, it's valid to express that and seek resolution. However, it's also important to be mindful of your own boundaries and needs, and to communicate them in a respectful way.

It's up to you to decide what you want and need from the relationship, and to communicate that to your boyfriend. If he's willing to listen and work on the issues, it's possible to resolve them and move forward in a healthy and positive way.

[molonski2]

In a word YES , massively overreacting , seriously you will drive him away if you keep on this massive possessive stance , the guy had just seen you , he knew where you were headed.

Pull yourself together , be a lot more relaxed and dont try and read into things that are simply not there. Your heading is incorrect the guy is not even remotely " mean " just reading I was feeling for the poor guy.

[Anonymous]

Not overreacting. You both just have different levels of needs when it comes to intimate moments. He looks at it like he already used up all the attention he was willing to give today and you want a lot more.