I don't understand why he keeps stopping himself from liking me?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm on a roller coaster, he acts like he doesn't like me making it seem like he has 0 interest in me and only likes me as a friend. Then he teases me about other girls and then he will say, " I'm just kidding I just want to know what you will say " but then he will get jealous when he sees a guy talk to me or when I hug guys that I knew longer than him. So yesterday he just kept saying how sweet I was and I shouldn't be around him. He then asked if I was trying to make him like me by hanging out with him everyday, I said no because I know he doesn't like me and he said he did like me that's why he hangs out with me almost every day and all night. So last night at my house he sat really close to me on my bed ( I was laying down ) he then let me play with his hair ( which he doesn't let anyone touch it, ) while I was brushing his hair my breasts was on his back I can feel him leaning more on them even more and a couple of times he wanted to turn around to face me but he kept stopping himself. Then all of a sudden he pops up to smoke a cigarette outside. He knows I like him so I don't know why he stops himself.

Updates

11 mo

He also asked if I liked him more as a friend, but I don't know why he even asked since it seems like he's not interested in me?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to know for sure why he keeps stopping himself from liking you or taking the relationship to the next level. However, it sounds like he may be sending mixed signals and struggling with his own feelings.

It's possible that he likes you but is afraid of getting hurt or being rejected. He may also be unsure about what he wants in a relationship and is hesitant to commit.

Alternatively, he may be enjoying the attention and affection you're giving him without wanting to commit to a relationship. This can be confusing and hurtful, so it's important to communicate openly and honestly with him about your own feelings and needs.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who is clear and consistent about their feelings for you. If his behavior continues to be confusing or hurtful, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and consider whether it is meeting your needs and making you happy.

[Asker]

He has told me he has very bad anxiety and depression, he has tried committed suicide and has self harm scars.
Sometimes I wonder that at times when it came to that enjoying my attention and affection because he knows I like him and really care about him. Like one time, I saw one of my old co workers and I hugged him while laughing and talking he actually admitted that he was jealous because of how I was acting, he even called him ugly and how he was better looking than him. Or one time we were at this community bar and diner and they had like machine that plays any music and he was using, he heard a guy asking me my favorite song and wanted to play it and make me happy, he literally ran towards us in his face asking, " what do you mean by that? I can make her happy "
I honestly accepted that maybe he wanted to be just friends we have a special friendship. But if he continues acting this way I will definitely talk to him.

[In_Trance]

There's probably dozens of guys that you have flat out rejected that are thinking the same thing you are right now

[Asker]

Honestly it's not true. I'm overweight I weigh 230 I don't get a lot of guys that tries to ask me out. If i do find someone either they will leave me or cheat on me. I dated a guy that catfished me once, I stayed with him still after finding out he was using fake pics and he still cheated by talking to other girls online