Why don't guys come up to me even after obvious signs?

[Anonymous]

Everytime I'm at this club I see guys I find hot but I can never do anything. They always look at me too but nothing ever happens. I for some reason can't really look at guys I like, like I'll look anywhere but them.

Yesterday it was different though for once. I was standing outside the venue with my friends talking and next to us was a group of guyd and there was this guy who kept looking at me and one time I looked at him and we accidentally locked eyes and I immediately looked away. 2 minutes later it happened again. I think that was kind of obvious or wasn't it. This could just be coincidence but he always looked at me and we stood there several times that night

I'm wondering why nothing ever happens from stuff like that. Makes me kind of really sad because I'm way too shy to do anything and I have bad anxiety too, I have so many lost opportunities

[Finchie40]

Because most guys are nervous as well , the fact that you looked away might of made him feel like you weren’t interested in him and he might think you are out of his league that you really aren’t that interested in him , so getting over the shyness is going to be your best bet of getting a guy’s attention , next time you lock eyes with a guy , smile at him and don’t look away and play with your hair , usually that helps a nervous guy get the balls to approach a girl , Most guys don’t want to take the chance of being denied when they see a beautiful girl, so if he is unsure of what the girl is really thinking , he won’t take the chance of approaching her , especially if she is with her friends , friends can make a guy nervous as well if he is unsure if she likes him or not. He is nervous that the friend’s will make rude comments as well putting him on the spot making him feel like an idiot for even trying to show interest in a girl. , Also another way you can get a guy’s attention is to buy him a drink , that usually helps break the ice as well , Just have the waitress or bartender bring the drink to him , they pretty much know the drill lol if he is interested he will walk over and thank you for that drink if not then he isn’t interested

[TheThingALing]

45% of guys get nervous and will never approach
45% of guys get nervous and if they feeling confident enough may approach
The last 10% of guys approach everyone.

The middle group gets better over time. The bottom group doesn't make any real progress.

[spartan55]

You are one of those girls who just expect to show up and do nothing. Let the guys carry everything. That's becoming a thing of the past. Guys want to see interest before they invest in you. Too much to ask?

[Anonymous]

Pretty easy. Your signs are obvious. You just think they are. This is pretty common thing for women because they simply don't want to put forth any effort. But it's cool. You don't have to. You'll just lose out to the girl that does most the time. 👍

[Anonymous]

Whats obvious to a female is literally not even close to obvious. If you like him, approach him.
Unlike him, you won’t get falsely accused of a sex crime for saying hi.

[Anonymous]

"have so many lost opportunities", to what, get your back blown out in the club bathroom stall?

[Asker]

Noo lmao

[In_Trance]

wdym you can never do anything?